well i just called my lawyer about my daughters mother coming back after 15 years of no contact.?

Question

They have told me that her mother has every right to see her, and by law she is aloud a minum of 3 weekdays and 2 nights per week, since she hasnt done anthing illegal. do you think this is corect or should i be calling a different lawyer. my daughter is 15, and even though she refuses to see her mother, (kye has no respect for the women that abonded her when she was 1 month old, and i dont blame her, but i have never influnced her choice about this, i have never ever spoken a single bad word about her.) my lawer said that if i do not allow her mother, and force my daughter to see each other, that lana could sue me. any help please??

My daughters mother just walked into my house, after 15 years of no contact. why would she have done this.?
when i was 14 i got a girl pregnant in a one night stand. the girl was 18, and when i told my parents that we where going to keep the baby they kicked me out of home. i lived in a crappy flat with the girl, lana but we didnt date, or anything. then she gave birth to our beautifull daughter, who was named untill she was 2 months old. When our daughter was one month old lana left to go to the shop, and never came back. since then i have raised my daughter alone, without a single word from her mother, no child support or any help. i had tried to find her, but never with any luck. Yesterday lana nocked on my front door, and said that she "was back" kye (my daughter) dosent want to meet her. why did her mother come back?? can you give me any help!!

Answer 1

First off, good for you for doing what you had to do for the sake of raising your girl. I agree with everyone else that she's old enough to decide whether she wants to meet her mother. The mother should respect that, since she gave up on both of you in the first place, she can 't expect "your" daughter to give her the time of day. However it could be good for your daughter to at least meet with her mom once to get answers. The b*tch owes her at least that much. Then she can decide if she wants to persue any kind of relationship with her mother after that. I'm sure somwhere inside your daughter has questions, and at least this way she can see what kind of person her mother really is, whoever she may be at this point. I would say that you may want to encourage your daughter to visit at least once, but of course don't force it. Good luck to you, and again, I admire your efforts to do what is right by your daughter. All the best to you.

Answer 2

Well, first things first, if you have never said any thing bad about her mother around her or to her your not natural, I mean your like super robotic dad or something, bc I firmly belive that behind closed doors we all talk bad about others, in front of our kids, indirectly or directly! Yes, I know its wrong, but its true. But whatever, going forward, yes the mother leaving was very wrong and it's her lost, not yours or your daugher, bc she can never get that time back, but she may have been scared, and didn't know what else to do. People do this every day, they don't know how behave in a situation so they don't behave at all. They do nothing, people in long marriages, bad careers, people in bad situations in life in general. SO I think that is what lana did. And it probably has haunted her every day since then. Which is why now she is back. So I think that before you run and pay all this money to a lawyer, that you try having a conversation with lana to find out what her intentions are. And most of all hold her accountable, let her know just how selfish leaving was, and let her know the damage she has laid at her daughters feet, and once that is done try to move on to a better space. Maybe she shouldn't try and force your daughter to come and stay but maybe she should try getting to know her on mutual terms.

Answer 3

Well first of all, if the child doesn't wish to see her mother she doesn't have to no matter what. Second, I would wait to see what the mom is going to do. If anything, these people need to begin contact in the presence of a therapist and not alone unsupervised, and by someone other than yourself. You have emotional (and rightfully so) baggage that could interefere with the visit. Soooooooooooo, if your child decides she wants to see her mother, don't do it alone. Find a therapist.

I would find another lawyer though. I think this woman did in fact abandon and has no legal rights what so ever.

Don't worry about this. With your daughter being 15, it's a lot different than if she were 5.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I think that your original position of not badmouthing the mother is the right course. You have raised your daughter and at 15 she will make her own decision about a parent who can just walk out. BUT NOT IN MY HOUSE. She has no right to come to your house . The girl is 15 and if she wishes to see her then meet somewhere else that is safe and neutral. Don't worry.mother of the year won't get very far with this one

Answer 5

I am not sure where you live, but a child can not be forced to see a parent after the age of 16 where I live. Tell your daughter to call Social Services if the mother does anything that is considered harmful.

I think that I would consult another attorney and file for back child support. That should run her off again!!!!

Answer 6

I hope you divorced the ***** years ago.
Get a better lawyer, a real pitbull. Your daughters wishes (not to see her mother) must also be respected. I can not see any judge forcing her to see anyone she does not want to see, especially an errent parent of 15 years.
Good luck.

Answer 7

i do not reckon she has one little bit of a right .but the law is the law and very wrong
you daughter at the age she is should have a say to the courts
i do honestly feel sorry for u she is yours and not hers
BIOLGICAL is a word it is the person whom brings that child up whether it be a father a auny uncle grandparents

Answer 8

it is your daughters choice. you or her mom won't have to choose. if she doesn't want to see her, she doesn't have to