there is a girl who is mentally sick,our school physcologist and her parents told us that ..she keeps cutting herself and cursing herself,and she keeps saying bad stuff about herself,,and she compares us to her. (.ex : look at you !! you are too pretty and smart...everything im not ! im so damn ugly and stupid,everybody hates me !!! )
she is also too sensitive its really hard to deal with her,shes insane ! everybody gave up on her even her parents and her sisters,,me and my friends tried,and tried so hard to change her into the better..but everytime she does the same exact thing : she betrays us and talks behind our backs,and spells our secret with a spicing things up !! a few months ago when we werent her " friends " and with having no one standing by her side she was about to commit suicide ! i saw her with the mother of my eyes,i told her to put the knife down,the police was there,it was INSANE !!and now with only us standing by her side,i GIVE up ! do i have to put up with her ?!
2007-12-23 04:13:42 · 15 answers · asked by Dreamer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
GOD ! she drives me crazy ! she brings me down everytime im around her ! she is so desperate and her attitude..ARGH ! she always finds the perfect words to ruin my mood
P.S: my friends think of her that way too
please help us..
2007-12-23 04:16:07 · update #1
if this girl is in your school.. there is NO way you have to put up with her.. not even. if she says mean stuff about you, just ignore her. you can't blame her .. she's mentally challanged.. and she does it with everyone.. so it's not just you alone. trying to help her is great but it wont work for her.
don't get involved with her problems and make them your own.. it's not a good thing. and tell your friends to do the same.. just ignore her comments.. if she is in your class.. she shouldnt even be there.. she should be in a different kind of class.. because that just seems as though it's a distraction.
really, give up on her. you've done enough to try and help. and that's great but.. it's really not your responsibility
2007-12-23 04:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Babies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
It is obvious you kids are trying.
However the girl you are talking about is mentally ill. There are those who are grown ups who can not understand nor be around the mentally ill.
It really does not sound as if you kids are those who can be around these types of people. If she is truly bringing you and your friends down this bad.
I am sure this child's parents are very happy for you kids. Hopefully you will never have to be a parent with a child like this, or be mentally ill yourself, it can hit any time or any where even hit those people who have been very healthy all there lives.
I do not understand the people who want mental illness, depression, ADHD, autism all mental health.....
Start distancing yourself from this mentally ill child. Mentally ill people are used to others giving up on them. Should not be, but it is reality. Here in Oregon the mentally ill are even killed by the police.
Just remember karma may come back and bite you on the tush....
2007-12-23 12:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl needs to be in a treatment facility. She is the responsibility of her parents. The fact that you have tried to help her as much as you have is totally awesome, but she is being abusive to you when she treats you like that. All you can do is tell the psychologist what she tells you, that she is suicidal, and that her parents have given up on her. Maybe she has a substance abuse problem. The police should have stepped in, and done something. Maybe you could go to the station and file a report about her behavior, then you have done all you could do for her, and after that, if she does anything really crazy, you will know you did all you could to help her. The bottom line is, this is NOT your problem!!
2007-12-23 12:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by kfarq2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl is truly sick. She needs for someone to be kind to her so I think you should be kind. I know this kind of stuff can really get on your nerves, but she doesn't do it on purpose. She can't help it. You don't have to be really buddy-buddy with her though. You can be nice without being her close friend. She might try to hurt you too, with a knife or something. Don't be mean to her. It isn't good to be mean to anybody. What you do in life comes around and back to you, always, so you want to be kind and nice so good comes back to you. Keep your distance from her for your own safety, but be kind and thoughtful always. It takes all kinds of people to make up the world. So be the best that you can be and try to be patient with her. Maybe one day she will get better and this will stop. Just remember that she is mentally ill.
2007-12-23 14:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation that needs to be handled by a professional. She seems to be suffering from major depression and is obviously a lethal threat to her own life, which requires professional psychiatric intervention. She immediately needs to be seen by a psychiatrist and psychologist,. She most likely will need to be an impatient and get services from a hospital. It was very nice of you and your friends to try to help her, but this matter is too extreme for friends and family. Be supportive to her and keep it touch with her, but don't be as involved as you have been. If she has visiting hours, try to visit her once or twice. Just show endless positive regard towards her, but don't absorb this problem as your own. Her treatments and support from friends and family are what she really needs.
I hope your friend gets the help she needs and gets healthy.
2007-12-23 12:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by LuvWright5 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
honestly I think you should call the suicide hotline - if she tried to kill herself once she'll try again. the people at 1-800-suicide are trained to deal with these kind of problems and the people here on Yahoo are not.
what I do when I encounter a suicidal person is listen. i listen for negative thinking and then I try gently to tell them that the negative thinking isn't true. it doesn't work to tell them not to do this or that. you have to deal with the underlying messages.
you will be tempted to vanish - do the right thing - hang in there and pray for this girl frequently. i think you'll get more help from the hotline than from us.
I would talk to her parents also - they may not even know she's having trouble. this is warranted. you should intervene and call her parents.
any time a person is a danger to themselves or others is when you intervene and call authorities.. so she's in danger to herself - it's ok to call the proper authorities.
someone has to intervene on her behalf.
is she eating right? exercising?
book to consider
natural medicine guide to depression - stephanie marohn
she may have some kind of nutritional deficiency or something. who knows. if this doesn't work she should see a psychiatrist. exercise will lift her mood.
I'd rather people do what they can before getting medicated, if they get medicated they are labeled mentally ill and that's bad long term.
she probably just needst to talk about what's bothering her.
like my wife who is now deceased (died of natural causes not suicide) constantly struggled with depression. After she died I showed her picture to people and they gasped SHe's BEAUTIFUL.. - and I go that's what I thought.. but she never thought that about herself...
if someone wants to die it's hard to know how to help them.
I would call the hotline - they know far more than me about what to do.
2007-12-23 12:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by art_flood 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i were in your shoes, i would put up with her a little longer, because, kids-adults that are mentally challenged or sick, have disabilities, and cant do most things that we can do, or they just have a tough time trying to. she needs to get to no her-self better, or this situation will continue...even if your not her friend you should try and help her, if she crosses the limit of safety, DO NOT TRY ANYTHING, that you think mite help her, because things can get UGLY. im my school there are 2 "autism" kids, they dont have a physcologist, but they have a teacher that is by ther side, no matter what, and that teacher doesnt represent any1 except for the people who try to help...mayb she realy needs some1 in her life that doesnt bale on her, and mayb she nows that you tried to help...
2007-12-23 15:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you COULD give up on her like everyone else, or you could try helping her. If she is mentally ill get advise from a suicide hotline, mental illness facility, police, school counselors on what you can do. If she threatened suicide and the police were there to witness it, why wasn't she sent for evaluation immediately? If she had cancer would you give up on her? Many mental illnesses can be kept under control with medication. Those people don't see themselves as sick. It's normal for them. If that were you, would you want everyone to give up on you????? If she is a threat to herself or someone else, there ARE ways to force help on her. Don't wait to help her.
2007-12-23 12:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda208 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you and your friends to separate yourselves from her, and you don't have to feel guilty about it. You have been supportive and caring, and you have tried. You did your part to be her friend, and she has rejected all of you. You can move on with a clear conscience. Sometimes people can't be helped until they're ready to be helped, and one day she will be ready. You and your friends have done what good friends are supposed to do, and you can move on without regrets. The rest is up to her.
2007-12-23 12:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl desperately needs someone to be by her side, and to help her get better. But it is not your responsibility to be that person. If you want to be her friend, you should be prepared for a lot of struggles in your future.
2007-12-23 12:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by Helen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋