im lossing my best friend PLEASE HELP?

Question

my best friends step brother has recently died in a terrible car accident. she was kinda close to him. ever since he died she has been kinda a b**** to me. me her and her sister have been best friends for 4 years but she has been acting really weird since her step brother died. her sister is still my friend but we cant hang out cuz its really weird when her sister is around. but like shes been really b*tchy and shes been sprendin rumors around the school about me but then she asks me why im mad at her and she trys to be my friend again but the next day at school she acts the same way. its been like this for like 2 weeks and im really tired of it but i dont want to give up on her cuz i know its just been really hard on her. should i just give up and move on or should i just keep tryin to be really supportive and deal with all the drama?

PLEASE HELP I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO

its not like she spreadin rumors behind my back shes sayin it straight to my face. she acts like a dont know wat shes goin through. my granpa died the same week her step brother died. i wasnt that close to her brother but all that happening in the same week really hit me hard and now shes just tryin to start more stuff. i just dont know wat i should do. and thanks to everyone that has answered

Answer 1

Tell her that you understand she's going through a really hard time, and it makes you sad to see her like this. Say you love her, and will always be there for her, but it hurts when she spreads rumors about you.
She's really hurting right now, and may want you to feel the same way, so she spreads rumors about you to bring you down to where she is, as harsh as that seems. She doesn't want to be alone and she may feel like no one understands. Do everything you can to let her know she's not alone, and you'll be there 100 percent the whole way.

Answer 2

Deal with it. She is going through a really hard time. When someone close to you dies your emotions go haywire. I know, I have been there. One minute things seem fine the next minute tears and/or anger. She will never get over his death, but you can help her get through it. That's what true friends do. I know it hurts your feelings when she acts that way, But because she does sometimes make a effort to be friends im sure she is not trying to hurt you. Its hard to know what to do because you don't know how she will react. Let her know you are there for her. Give her a shoulder to cry on. Tell her you love her and you are sorry she is hurting. Then do or say something funny to cheer her up. since her sister is your friend, talk to her. Maybe she can say something in your behalf. Your friend will come around. Just remember right now, It is all about her.

Answer 3

Your friend has suffered a terrible loss, and has confused emotions. There is probably some way she wants to blame someone, and can't focus that. The grieving process is difficult to understand, and effects everyone differently.

Don't push her off, nor try to pull her near. She isn't looking for sympathy, she is just trying to find her way in the new circumstances of her life. Be her friend, but remember that she may need to just have a good cry, talk about her step-brother, laugh about the times they had. Share your shoulder when she needs it, cry with her when she needs that.

Sometimes, just being there, no conversation, no activity, is best. Take her out to watch the sunset and just be there for her with a hug.

Answer 4

whoa, this is a tough sitch! u want 2 try 2 understand wut ur friend iz going thru, but @ the same time, she'z not acting like a friend in return. last time we checked, friendship wuz all about give and take, but keep in mind th@ although the fact th@ her stepbrother died iz no excuse 4 treating u badly she iz really hurting rite now. i wud arrange a time w/ her sis 4 the 3 of u 2 sit down and talk everything out. then her sis and u can tell her th@ ure srry about her bro and u want 2 be there 4 her, but th@ it'z hard 4 u wen she sez mean thingz 2 u and iz mean 2 u in ne other way, and ask her y she does th@. maybe u can all talk it thru, apologize, and 4give and 4get. or maybe it won't work out and ull have 2 step away from her close friendship, just be friendly with her, and be buds w/ her sis and other ppl. eether way, u guyz will no u tried ur hardest, so there's nuthing 2 feel bad about.

good luck and merry x-mas!! i really hope i helped! :))

Answer 5

Ask her if you can sit down and talk about it. I"m sure it is a reaction to her step-brother's death. She is angry about many things. Ask her if you did something to hurt her or make her mad at you. Tell her how much her friendship means to you and that you want to continue being best friends. Tell her how sorry you are that her step-brother died and that she's hurting from losing him.

Communication is the only way you will get to the bottom of this.

Answer 6

Well try saying this: I'm sorry about what happened to your brother but it's not my fault or your fault either ok. You have been acting very rude to me and I don't like it. We have been friends 4ever and just because your brother died doesnt mean our friendship has to. I love being your friend and i miss your brother ever so much to but please..........I didn't do anything so stop taking that out on me.. wait a few days like until she starts talkin to u if not call her and say I'm sorry and i want to be friends again do u?
If she says Yes great but if she says no then wait for her to get over it still be nice to her ok but be sensitive and dont bring up anything about her brother

Answer 7

A Friend In Need Is A Friend Indeed
no dont give up on her,,,be the friend she needs
just be there for her..she is going through rough times,and probably isnt going to pass it well only if she had a friend with her..
ive been there hun..it happened to my best guy friend
dont worry..you're gonna make it through
best of wishes
x nat x

Answer 8

aww im sorry about your problem;; What i see here is that your best friend is really really really hurting inside right now. and by being angry she lets it out on someone who isnt hurting so that they can feel her pain. Maby she is also spreading rumors becuase she thinks you havent been as supportive as you should be. Because mabywhat you think is supportive isnt what she thinks being supportive is. So id call my best friend and say hey thank you for being my best friend i know your in pain right now and ill be here for you every minute of everyday for you;;you can tell me anything ill listen. and stuff like that. but dont act like your trying to suck up you know?also this may sound wierd but in a way tell your friend that shes beautiful.Girls and Boys allways i mean always want to hear that from there closest.. Hope i helped~~

Answer 9

She's obviously having a really hard time dealing with her loss. I know the way she's treating you is hurting you, but you have remember where it's coming from. Don't let yourself get too upset. Give her space and time to recover, and be supportive from a distance. Two weeks isn't long enough for some people, and in time she'll come back to herself and to you.

Answer 10

You should talk to her about what you hear in school and just tell her how it makes you feel. Tell her you are there for her in anyway and that you still want to stay friends. I would try to hang out with her the way you used to. Doing all the things you like to do. Let her know you are there as an ear to listen. Good luck!