My wife was never spanked as a kid, but me and my sister were beaten by a bully of a father. Anyhow the wife got this idea that her old folks could look after the kids for a while and take them away and they could have some fun and while they were away, we could have some fun too. Well she wanted to play this game. I didn’t like the idea but I went along with it. She was to play a cheeky little girl and I was to spank her. I don’t know where she got the idea from, but it was all planned out. She told me exactly what to do and I had to ignore her acting but only to stop when I heard a password she invented, which she would shout if she banged her head or something.
Well I was doing all right and it went something like –leave me alone you pig, you cheeky little brat, you wouldn’t dare, just watch me--, and I was actually getting into it when she yelled please-daddy-stop and I froze and I remembered the brute who used to beat the crap out of my kid sister.
Can anything be done?
2007-12-23 03:58:04 · 15 answers · asked by Teenage nerd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, sweetie, it's a two way street. Just as we women don't want to do something we feel uncomfortable with, it's the same for you men. We all have things in our past we'd like to forget that somehow rear their ugly heads when we don't want them to. Does she know about what happened when you were little? If she does, it's insensitive, to say the least, that she wants you to portray a man like him for her sexual pleasure and you deserve better than that. If she doesn't know, then tell her. She'll probably feel horrible, but if sharing your fantasies is what you both like, let her know she can still be open with you and ask her to share another fantasy with you....or maybe share one of yours. Ship the kids off tonight and have a nice evening over a glass of wine and talk it out and take it from there.
2007-12-23 04:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by justlilme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really Need to talk to a counselor. In the meantime, explain to your wife of your past (if for reason you haven't told her) and let her know you loved the "role playing" but it just needs to be a different topic. But, that incident definitly triggered something in you, and for that I do think you should discuss it with a counselor. Good Luck !!!
2007-12-23 15:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you both had a good thing going up to that point, and it'd be a shame to spoil it. Maybe you should ask her not to say 'Daddy' when you're spanking her, if that's the word that triggers your bad memories. Get her to use an alternative, like 'sir' or 'uncle'.
2007-12-23 14:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk, talk and more talk... She has opened up to you about her needs/wants/desires and now you need to tell her about your blockage. In any spanking relationship the biggest key is communication. It could be that a simple change in the "scene" would allow you to continue.
And something you should keep in mind is that THIS is consensual... your sisters beatings were abuse... BIG difference !!!!
2007-12-24 06:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by gary s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you explain the situation to her (your past) I'm sure she'll be mature and understanding. Tell her that playing this game makes you uncomfortable, and you don't want to feel as though you're hurting her, even for pretend.
2007-12-23 13:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Helen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you should just be able to explain the situation to her. She's your wife, after all. She'll understand why you can't do something like that. You shouldn't push yourself to do something if it makes you uncomfortable
Cheers
2007-12-23 12:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,,try gagging her so she can't talk? Turn up the music so you can't hear her scream?Remember your daddy did not stop so you shouldn't either, teach her some different ways to get off playing roles.
2007-12-23 12:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell her about your past. She'll understand if she's kind and respectful. Stop the act. Merry Xmas :)
2007-12-23 12:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woah!! Umm, you need to talk to her. Communication is key to a successful marriage and/or relationship.
2007-12-23 12:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by confused<3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable. I am sure that she is aware of your childhood. And I am completely sure that she will understand.
2007-12-23 12:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by sunnysideup 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋