The other day, my aunt "suggested" that my husband and I should have a child soon because the longer you wait, the harder it is to concieve. We've been married for 4 years, and I'm 22. I've done my research and to my understanding, sometimes it becomes hard to conceive after you reach 30-35. I'm only 22! Not to mention, I have faith in God that he'll do things right for us, and we'll have kids when the time is right for us. Where do people come up with this stuff?
2007-12-23 04:51:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ohh my goodness, I totally understand! My husband and I were married for five years before we got pregnant ( I am now 30 weeks pregnant) and we heard it all! People just love babies and they think that once you get married the babies should just pop right out! You are SO right to follow what's right for you and your husband! We loved the time we have had together and we have had 5 years to build a strong relationship and a stable home to raise our baby in. You are so far from having issues with fertility! You will have your babies when the time is right and you shouldn't feel bad to tell people so when they ask! What a horrible thing to tell someone! Your aunt must be really missing having a baby around the house!
2007-12-23 05:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Pedsgurl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are very young, you can usualy have children up into your 30's. Most of the time people comes up with bs to enjoy the benifit of it without having to pay or support it.. just let it go in 1 ear and out the other, because you are not living your life for them, you are living it for you, and that is what I would tell your aunt also. And the common question for relatives to ask married people is when are you going to have a child. My answer would be when God says it is time.
2007-12-23 13:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by john d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind your aunt loves you and that she is only suggesting what she thinks is best. But it may not be what is best for you, only you and yur husband can decide if and when to have kids. I was married 8 years before having a child. I had a aunt that gave me that same talk. I was a little olde though, I got married at 24. Turns out she was kinda right. I waited until 28 to try to have a baby, turns out I had problems. I lost 5 babies, but at 32 God blessed me. My daughter is now 10 and bad as hell!!!
Keep in mind your aunt does love you.
2007-12-23 13:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just busybodies, who have their own agenda for others. They use whatever faulty logic is at their disposal. Barring any medical conditions I doubt it would be any harder for you to conceive at 32 than it would be at 22, plus you have a lot better chance of bringing a child into the world who will be loved and well-taken care of by a mature and loving couple, who are settled in careers and are able to meet the extra responsibly.
If anyone inquires about things such as having children (which should be your personal business) just have a standard pat answer to use, and don't even bother to defend yourself. Something like, "I think my husband and I are able to make decisions that impact our life when it is appropriate for us to do so."
2007-12-23 13:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I wonder if it's a bunch of garbage she's been fed all her life from other stupid, uneducated people.
I bet dollars to donuts that Auntie Braindead married and got pregnant by the first man that touched her, never completed any post secondary education and stay home to breed her whole life.
There is more to life than mindless breeding for Jesus.
Speak to your Doctor about fertility and do some online research regarding "averages" regarding the subject.
Educate yourself - it's obvious that Auntie Braindead never did, and you don't want to end up like her!
2007-12-23 13:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by willie pheeler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
22? You are definitely not in the age range of having to worry about conception. I was 30 when I finally tried and I got pregnant within the first month :) So ignore her and lead your life the way you want to :) Plus when you have a child you are a parent forever. Enjoy your husband first.
2007-12-23 13:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is true that some people tell you what to do all the time or what they think that you should do. Just follow your heart. You are right God will do the right things for you all. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-12-23 13:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Silly rabbit, of course it is your choice but it is never too early to have kids. It is nice to have a big family and it is also nice to be a young mother who can enjoy her kids at a young age and be a mother who is still young herself by the time her kids are adults.
2007-12-23 14:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by swd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are interfering old biddies without the common sense of a flea. You are right, and smart enough to do the research, so you will be just fine.
2007-12-23 12:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so FED UP of people telling us girls how to live and what to do. If any old biddies tell me to have babies I'll give 'em a few choice words!
2007-12-23 13:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋