Family & Relationships - 6 December 2007

I am the kind of person that didn`t use to talk to anybody, I mean now I am a bit different. Still many times I just wonder if is better to alone or with somebody. Obviously I know the answer, yet on a pscylogical aproach is very difficult to feel good by being alone.
I mean I act more like a robot many times, I think to much, I am very structure.
I almost don`t have friends, plus I complain too much.
I mean is not like I am ugly or anything like that. Girl look at me all the time.
I knew this woman from the US, and we are chatting and so on, and I feel bad when I don`t talk to her.

I know that I could probably find someone here, but I try to approach the women who are traveling or in another country. And so on.
The problem is that many times it stops me from doing the things that I like to do.
this is my e-mail:
in case you want to give me an advice about life or just any advice.
Javierchomer@gmail.com

2007-12-06 16:05:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This guy (without a girlfriend) asked me out for a movie even though we dont work at the same place anymore. Is it possible that he just wants to be friends? He is 10 years older than me btw. Thanks everyone!

2007-12-06 16:03:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What do you think of a boyfriend who is very clingy?? Wants to know anything everything about you and wants hug and kiss you all day long??

2007-12-06 16:03:38 · 35 answers · asked by caliluvsun 4 in Singles & Dating

My wife is moving out and living with her nan, but she'll be spending weekends at our place

we agreed some time apart each week will benefit each other and maybe help our relationship.

my question is, what can I do around the house or to myself (like work out) to show my wife that I love her with all my heart and care about her, should I maybe refurnish the house or cook her a nice meal or something?

2007-12-06 16:03:19 · 21 answers · asked by TedRoy 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend's got a weekend off work and we are planning a weekend away to Paris, the only problem is her parents would never allow her to go away with me. What excuse would you give to them which would explain being gone for a couple of nights?? Bare in mind we can't say she's going with friends as her parents would most likely drop her off to the airport and expect to see them.

Thx

2007-12-06 16:01:57 · 12 answers · asked by Nick 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-06 15:58:08 · 10 answers · asked by Prabhu V 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-06 15:56:41 · 9 answers · asked by da da 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my GF left me months ago and i lived her and still loves her for almost 6 years now...what can i do to brighten up my dark holidays as i really cant move on...ive started to turn emo so i think my christmas is going to be black..how shall i turn it white again...im only 17 years old...

2007-12-06 15:52:34 · 12 answers · asked by icriedherariver 5 in Singles & Dating

We are all a team. You aren't alone.

2007-12-06 15:51:29 · 13 answers · asked by theartisttwin 5 in Singles & Dating

This girl messaged me after 10 years of not speaking--she was my best friend at one time, but my bf at the time cheated on me with her. I have let a lot of hate grow in my heart over this. I have held a grudge this long. She is now married with kids, and we've definately both matured. I emailed her back and told her how I felt, and I told her that I forgave her for it. I felt this was the best way to try and let go of this hate in my heart before it ate me from the inside out. I do feel a bit relieved actually. Of course I won't forget, but I was only 15 when the incident occured, I'm now 24. Would you agree that forgiveness was a good, mature move on my part? To just face the 'fear' I had in my heart, respond to her as she was reaching out to me (this was her 2nd attempt), and to help me move on from that hate?

2007-12-06 15:50:26 · 21 answers · asked by Miss Rachel 5 in Singles & Dating

I love my husband dearly, but he suffers from sever anxiety and OCD issues that have taken over his true personality. He has become angry and miserable. For the past year he has been on and off medications and will not consistently take them. He NEEDS to consistently take them. He has been verbally abusive for a good 6 months. We haven't spoken in 2 weeks.... I've been sleeping on the couch. I know this isn't the true person he is and that the anxiety is taking over him....but when is enough, enough. He honestly is a very caring and passionate man and I know he loves me deeply. When he stays consistent on his routine, we have a great life together.

We have been together for 10 years and I love him dearly but he is truly regressing. It is getting bad and he will not listen to reason. This truly is a mental illness and I vowed on my wedding day for better or worse...but I am just not willing to be treated this way. I don't know what to do..

2007-12-06 15:48:07 · 18 answers · asked by Keely L 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have this boyfriend and he is really sweet. But a bunch of girls always give him their numbers and ****. Then he tries to hide it from me. A lot of girls message him some messages that they should not be messaging (if you get my flow). At times I think that Im just being used. But when its just me and him I dont think that at all. Im not the jealous type but I think it is him that Im getting mad at. I really want this to work and he told me the same thing.....but I dont think that he really means it. He tells me he loves me and at times I know that he does but when i really think about it....I dont know if he does or not. And this really scares me. Because I have been hurt so many times.....

2007-12-06 15:46:43 · 10 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Singles & Dating

Met a guy for about a week, and he asked me that question. he have told me that he was a "bad boy", playing girls and drugs. and says that he is not a bad guy anymore. Why is he asking me that?

2007-12-06 15:44:20 · 46 answers · asked by channie 1 in Singles & Dating

IF something is "unhealthy" does it mean, it's wrong?
Do you find the word "unhealthy" somewhat accusatory?

2007-12-06 15:43:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Bitter cold winter
In the restless New York city
Day & night, I long for my dreams
Screenwriter, actor, director, producer
So far away they seem
How can life be so unfair? How can life be so unfair?
Talented, creative, extraordinary
Screaming within, nobody could hear
Trapped below $30,000 a year
A potential talent fully aware
Millions and millions to be made
But nobody important cares
My freedom is a prison
At a corporation called Cablevision
Eight hours a day, fourty hours a week
One thirty minute break
Two fifteen minute paroles
Whenever the call que dies down
And the Hollywood dreams come to mind
The next call comes in
And you kiss them all goodbye
Life is cruel, life is cruel

(last part cont. below....)

2007-12-06 15:37:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i am 14 and i hardly speak to my parents, this may sound odd, because i live with them, but we rarley tlk. the only tim my mother and i converse is when she is asking me to do something for her or when she yelling at me for my 'disrespectfulness" my father only talkes about what i can do to "better myself" i am a straight A student, a cheerleader, and a member of a charity leauge...i feel as if i will never live up to my parents expectations...its like im never good enough

2007-12-06 15:36:17 · 9 answers · asked by miget2max 3 in Family

I need sweet words on my birthday, so who would like to give me some?

2007-12-06 15:35:02 · 22 answers · asked by maram 4 in Friends

I'm trying to accept that this guy I'm crazy about and have been flirting with for 3 months now just isn't into me.

I've never had this problem before. (And I don't want to sound conceited, because I'm really not.) But... I'm pretty! I'm 5'8", blond, great body (I used to be a lingerie model, for crying out loud!). I'm smart... I'm in law school on a scholarship. I'm funny. I'm nice. I'm not perfect, but I'm definitely a decent catch.

I've never fallen for anyone as hard as this guy. It's time to come to terms that it just isn't going to happen, and I'm trying to figure out why. I've shown him that I like him. He's single and not gay. Is there anything else that I could possibly do? Should I just give up? I feel so discouraged.

2007-12-06 15:31:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

have you ever fallen out of love with a long term partner and look back over your relationship with them and kicked yourself for how much time and effort you devoted to them because you couldn't see them for what they were because you were so in love with them?? and does it effect you now when meeting new people??

2007-12-06 15:28:52 · 9 answers · asked by I hate little green pigs 3 in Singles & Dating

ok so me and fiance are 22 years old, we have been together for 3 years and engaged for 2 years... We both want to get married the only problem is both our parents want us to wait until we are older like 25 or 26 years old, but who wants to be engaged for 6 years that just sounds and looks stupid. We were thinking about just going to get married and Have an "actual wedding later" and we wont tell anyone, only catch is how do we keep it secret? His mom works for the school district as a accountant and I work in the district too! she may see that my tax info has change to married...do you think we can get away with it? how can we go about this without anyone knowing...except for us. oh yeah and did i mention hes her only child....ugh help!!

2007-12-06 15:27:48 · 27 answers · asked by Emily N 2 in Weddings

I met this guy who has 3 kids and is fine and gorgeous. We have dated for over 2 months now and I find out that he has 3 daughters and I am not ready to play mother yet. What should I do? I mean this dude is really fine as he^^ and does everything right, if you know what I mean. lol lol. But the whole kid thing is making me think twice. What would you ladies do?

2007-12-06 15:27:25 · 12 answers · asked by ????????? 3 in Singles & Dating

He has a girlfriend. Before I knew this, I really, truly thought he liked me. We`d always be flirting, and if he needed a question, or an opinion, he`d come to me first. We have little inside jokes, and we tease each other a lot....but I heard the news today that he has this obsessive girlfriend...It took me totally by surprise....I didnt want to believe it....and I was planning on going to see him soon, too....plus he knows how I feel about him...but the fact that he KNEW that and he he is going out with her....(might I add that she`s a total sl.ut)...and...I dont know if I should either, give up on him, keep faith in him, or maybe tell him off. Not to mention the problem about going to see him...despite all the other stuff...I still really want to see him!! He`s sweet and funny,AND amazingly cute, I get very relaxed and comfortable around him...I cant imagine myself with anyone else...I just dont know what to do!! Any advice is highly appreciated!!! Thanks!! PLEASE help!!!

2007-12-06 15:22:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Can't ask the Couple , and they might be the only one who know

2007-12-06 15:15:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Any ideas will be great. Thanks for any posts.

2007-12-06 15:13:40 · 3 answers · asked by alpinestar 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

my crush juss broke up with his girlfriend yesterday, and i wanted to ask him out....but when is the rite time to ask him out? a week, 3 days, a month!!!!??? when??? im confused!!!!! I'm afraid if he'll reject me too....cuz, i dont know if he really likes though...i mean like he stares at me in class sumtimes too, but idk if all the rite signs are there......well i hope you answer this!!!! thnx for the advice anywayz!!! =]

2007-12-06 15:12:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

why would a 27 year old hit on a 50 year old lady i'm happily married but i was at a ladys house to do something for her she was not there but she said her boyfriend would be and he was asking me if i had ever dated younger men and did i cheat on my husband and he told me he was 27 yrs old why would he ask all of this then his girlfriend came home and he got real quiet like he was affraid i was going to tell her by the way i have a 27 year old son

2007-12-06 15:12:35 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm starting to get worried about myself. I'm 24 and I've never I had a serious relationships with a man. I've only had relationship where I end up having sex (too soon?) with a guy I've fallen head over heels in love with but that doesn't want to commit... with me.

My last relationship was beyond hard. When he left me for a girl he had been seeing for as long as he had known me (one year) but NEVER TOLD ME ABOUT IT, it put me in the deepest and darkest depression I've ever been through.

I've made some progress though because I now accept that we will never be together, fact with which I was in denial for many many months.

The thing I'm worried about is will I be played like this all my life ? My last 4 relationship (first one starting when I was 19) have all had the same pattern.

I feel like I've learned many things, but I've become so fragile and vulnerable, I can't even imagine ever falling in love like that again, I loved him way too much.

In need of some wisdom.

2007-12-06 15:11:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am alcoholic. trying to maintain sobriety. couple slips but getting better. I want to give my wife the security and support that a husband should. She divorced me last year because I didnt meet her emotional needs. she wasnt looking but someone came into her life and and met her needs. a reward from God she thought. I told her it was a test. She said she failed then. I moved on missing her terribly. 4mo later she told me of her mistake. promissed all and would never quit again. 4 mo and filed again. My love and respect for her has grown with every problem we have overcome. I love her unconditionaly. She says she loves me truly but cant risk my possible relapse and her security. Is divorce the only option for her or is it an excuse to leave because her feelings of love for me have changed?

2007-12-06 15:11:00 · 8 answers · asked by Darcy M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

When I say jealousy, I mean does fear of losing his girlfriend to another man ever motivate a guy to propose marraige to his girlfriend..?? Just curious

2007-12-06 15:08:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My friends say i should back off and not pressure her,we dated a year and a half ago,now she's back,I love her i'm confused...

2007-12-06 15:07:16 · 2 answers · asked by angels and airwaves 1 in Other - Family & Relationships