no relationship with parents?

Question

i am 14 and i hardly speak to my parents, this may sound odd, because i live with them, but we rarley tlk. the only tim my mother and i converse is when she is asking me to do something for her or when she yelling at me for my 'disrespectfulness" my father only talkes about what i can do to "better myself" i am a straight A student, a cheerleader, and a member of a charity leauge...i feel as if i will never live up to my parents expectations...its like im never good enough

Answer 1

Well, it sounds to me like you are a very loving person who only wants to be loved in return. I'm sure your parents are very proud of you, it's just sometimes parents take things for granted and maybe don't know how to express their love to you. You just keep doing what you've been doing, being proud of your accomplishments. I don't know if you believe in prayer, but I do, and I will be praying for you and your parents, that Jesus restores your relationship and brings His love into your family. God bless you!!!

Your friend,
Virginia

Answer 2

Being a teen is hard. II want to say you are doing well being a straight A student, and keeping your grades up with all that you are doing. Have you tried talking to your parents? Maybe you need to start the conversation. I am sure they have something that they like to talk about, even if you have heard it before. And as you listen, you can ask them more questions.
As far as like "not good enough"...sometimes parents push so that their child will accomplish more. I don't know any parents that really love their child that don't do this, at least to some extent. I will pray that you and your parents will get into a really good relationship with each other.

†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†

Answer 3

I have a 14 year old daughter and sometimes I feel like we don't talk, either. I try to bring topics up and I think she gets embarassed, and just ducks the conversation. When the topic is important though, she usually will ask and/or listen. The best thing I think I can tell you is to show your message to your parents--they may think you have a good relationship, especially if you don't fight. But the absence of fighting isn't really a good relationship; it's a vacuum. Perhaps they just don't know how you feel.....it's a common enough problem in communicating with one's family. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I am in the exact same position! I've learned to blow it off. Just keep up the good work and make sure to have fun..they only want to better you, but cant seem to see that their criticism isnt going to help. If this doesn't appeal toyou..confront them about it.. say "mom, dad, i feel as if you're putting way too much pressure on me to be perfect. I understand you want the best for me, but i need to have fun in the process of becoming a a great person. I'd really like to spend itme with you so you can see who i really am and not just what i can do."

Answer 5

I can understand how you feel. I have a fourteen year old daughter.l started treating her the way my mother treated me. I was ignoring her and not really developing a relationship with her....other than she was my kid. She came to me and asked me if we could start going to the mall together and hanging out. She comes in my room and lays on my bed. She came to me and hugged me and told me she loved me and wanted us to be close. I have been making a huge effort. Maybe, if you went an expressed this to your family things will change. I did. I love my daughter and I don't want to do anthing to hurt her. We now do a lot of things together and I try to talk to her about the things that she likes. I am in there to listen when she tells me things about school. I will pray for you.

Answer 6

thats parents for you. just continue with the excellent job you're doing with school, sports and the charity league. Do what YOU enjoy and what YOU feel is right. As for your parents, try and make a conversation, try and make plans with them. If you used to go grocery shopping with your mom and dont now, tell your mom that next time you would like to go with her. If your dad goes out and does the lawn or whatever, ask him if theres anything he'd need help with.

Answer 7

dont worry! sounds to me like your gonna grow up to be a very wonderful, athletic, loving person!! just try to bring up convos during dinner or something to get them talking. sit down with them and talk to them. tell them you dont really think they pay attention to you or if they are proud of you. im sure they are if your bring up your good grades and stuff. hope i helped!
your friend,
Cora.
-keep on rockin!

Answer 8

it looks like there to harsh on you. btw what is yr question.

Answer 9

welcome to being a teenager...don't worry though it gets better w/time