what is worse to be lonely or to be with a woman?

Question

I am the kind of person that didn`t use to talk to anybody, I mean now I am a bit different. Still many times I just wonder if is better to alone or with somebody. Obviously I know the answer, yet on a pscylogical aproach is very difficult to feel good by being alone.
I mean I act more like a robot many times, I think to much, I am very structure.
I almost don`t have friends, plus I complain too much.
I mean is not like I am ugly or anything like that. Girl look at me all the time.
I knew this woman from the US, and we are chatting and so on, and I feel bad when I don`t talk to her.

I know that I could probably find someone here, but I try to approach the women who are traveling or in another country. And so on.
The problem is that many times it stops me from doing the things that I like to do.
this is my e-mail:
in case you want to give me an advice about life or just any advice.
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My psychiatrist doesn`t help me enough.

The thing is that if I continue to be like I am now I will get to be 99 when that happens.
By the way I am 29 now.

Answer 1

being lonely is worse.but you know u could still be with a woman and be lonely.being lonely does'nt necessariliy mean being alone.u should go out and meet people.catch some fun.life's too short and u don't seem to happy about this situation either.i will write.

Answer 2

2 answers to your question. Yes it could be worse if your with a woman who is bad then yes being alone is much better. However the other side of the coin you could meet a terrific woman and she won't cramp your style of the things you like to do. It is possible to find someone that can share your interests in what you like to do. Or has there own things they like to do and gives you time on your own down time i mean.

You don't have to be attached at the hip unless that is your style and want someone by yourside in those things.

You just haven't met the right girl for you yet. so keep your options open. that doesn't mean grab any woman pick one that you like in qualities etc.. and until then yes you can be on your own.

Don't force it if your alone for a bit do the things you enjoy and when the right person comes along then you can enjoy experiencing things together/

Good luck

Answer 3

You sound basically exactly the same as me, not sure about the girls looking at me all teh time bit but definately the not wnting to talk to people and feeling like they get in the way of me doing things. That guy talking about depression has no idea, its not like you can't talk to people or that you don't (at leat is you are the same as me anyway) Its just when you do its alright but it gets tiresome after awhile and you can't be bothered, or one time you can;t be bothered and that just makes you ignore the person from then on because you can't be bothered with explaining yourself. In all this I have been with a few girls but most of them have annoyed me to the point of just not caring if I'm with them or not. My advice is to try to be with a woman because as impossible as it may seem there are girls out there who don't always want to talk to people and be everyones friend. Thats what happened to me, my girlfriend is exactly the same as me, not social, gets bored talking to people and likes to do her own thing a lot. Funny thing is because we are so similar and like our own spac we can be together all the time. We have been living together for a year and a half after meeting in uni 6 months earlier an its all been great. It might have something to do wit her moving to Iran for a couple of years in her early teens (she's half persian) but whatever it is that made her not be so focused on the trappings of society, i.e. making friends and working asthe two most important things over just doing stuff you like, its great.

Of course I have had to make a couple of consessions and I feel a tiny bit restricted sometimes but there is literally no way to function with someone else without giving up a little bit. All I can say is that there are women out there for guys like us and hopefully they give up their own tings a little bit for you too, and that its completely worth it to ahve someone that you can actually talk to an complain with without feeling like an outcast or like you are being to harsh on people. I still feel lonely sometimes but it never really bothers mesince I know I will always have someone that understands me and that I can talk to. It may take you awhile to find that girl but you will if you look hard enough, just don't hide your robot loner side since it will come out eventually and only then will you know if a girl can accept you for who you are or if they are not the right person for you.

Answer 4

you don't need a woman necessrily but it's better to be alone than with a bad woman...or just go out & meet people. it'd be fun.
Unless you are a bit of a hermit like me, I like being alone but somtimes crave being with others, you have the hermit in you I think. That's normal, just accpet that & also make some friends whom you see once in a while.

Answer 5

I know it's hard being alone, but it's much better than being with someone just for the sake of it.
My advice to you is to never lower your standards. I truly think you should wait it out. You will find what you're looking for eventually.

I hope it's sooner rather than later. Good luck.

Answer 6

First off, Stop payment on the check to your Theropist!!
The worst case is to be with a woman and still be alone..Been there [no fun]. Ask yourself, what do I want?
Then listen to all the voices that I suspect you hear in your head... KTnTexas

Answer 7

Depends on the woman.

In any case, I suggest you get some professional counseling. You are obviously suffering from depression and who knows what other psychological dysfunction. Talk about this to your doctor and see if they will refer you to a therapist. It will be worth it!

Good luck!

Answer 8

so let me get this right, you are a 29 year old grumpy man with no friends and mental problems?

go and get yourself a woman and stop asking questions about it, you will feel the benefit of it immediatley.

Answer 9

You sound quite conceited as well. Just calm down and have fun. Go venture out into the world.

Answer 10

I am on my own, and I like it, I have had many relationships with women and after a while they turn out the same, TROUBLE