Family & Relationships - 6 December 2007

I am 19 my wife and i have had a really rough marriage. But i love her very much. She is sixteen and we are seperating but if we do she will have no where to go and there is a good chance our daughter (whom she was pregnant with when we met) will be taken away from her. So my plan is to stay married and live with her just so she will have a place to stay and our daughter will stay with us. I dont have much money im leagally blind and on a fixed income. Thats y i cant simply buy her a place......deep down inside im not ready to let go...am i setting myself up for heartache knowing she will probally move on before i do.....im confused am i doing the right thing.

2007-12-06 15:06:20 · 6 answers · asked by Mr.Gemini 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am a mother in California with not so much as a ticket on my record. I am a well educated chemist and in the process of divorcing this man. He was convicted of domestic violence against me while our 3 yr old son was in my arms. He also has been convicted of possesion of a controlled substance and intent to sell both felonies. As well as multiple DUI convictions. Also he is pending deportation for these crimes. Yet even with my attorney I can not get the county to take his custodial rights away. I know it seems insane, right??? Any suggestions???

2007-12-06 15:05:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-06 15:01:44 · 28 answers · asked by ugetinfo4 f 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I want it to be good and something he would like!? but I don't know what to do? He might like me and I like him. is a gift card boring?

2007-12-06 15:00:11 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

... also friends with her hubby. I know my bros friend well & I just recently met her hubby about 8 weekends ago, my brother sells things at a flea mall for extra money, where jessica sells on the weekends. Jessicas hubby started coming there on the weekends too & when jessica or my bro arent really around he stands by me when he can or tries to find stuff to say to me, tried to make me laugh he just does it out of the blue, and there are lots of people around. its not like the 4 of us were standing there & my bro and jessica left. but does he "like me", or just being nice because he is friends with my brother?

it started out with trying to talk, now he worked in finding out my age and height. little things. then he kinda hugged me from behind when he was leaving one day.
last weekend he was there for about 10 mins, stood next to me and put his arm around me to hug so I did the same he put his other arm around as did I , for 30 sec at least till he let go. what do you think?

2007-12-06 14:55:55 · 3 answers · asked by coolchick686 1 in Singles & Dating

i am moving out we have 6 kids and a grandchild on the way. i still love her. she says she lives me ,but wants to give this guy a chance. she is driving me nuts!!!! what can i do to eleaviate her confusion?

2007-12-06 14:55:26 · 14 answers · asked by mitymite73 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have always been a conservative girl with morals and values. The last year or so I have loosened up a bit, and feel guilty about some of it. However, I still haven't did anything really bad. However, I am going to visit my boyfriend for an entire weekend and he has admitted that he would like to have a few drinks with me over the weekend. I rarely drink, and I am not sure if I should. Having said that, we are both virgins and are mid 20's. Am I about to make a huge mistake ...as in is this too much temptation?

2007-12-06 14:52:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

family, boyfriend, or friends and why? its just a question i need to think about, any advice is appreciated!

2007-12-06 14:49:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well I like this guy (Daniel) but I don't know if he likes me or what. We look at eachother a lot but then we imeditly look away. We don't really talk, we e-mail eachother, I feel funny when I'm around you, some people say that he's just afraid to show his real feelings, other people say that he likes me, and well we sort of avoid eachother (I think). Also, I'm too afraid to make a move and he's not gonna make a move but I really want to go out with him but I want him to ask me out. WHAT DO I DO!!!!!?!?!?!!

2007-12-06 14:49:38 · 2 answers · asked by nikeluver359 1 in Singles & Dating

hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious

2007-12-06 14:48:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious

2007-12-06 14:48:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

It is set in a tiffany style setting so is quite raised. I have accidently knocked the ring on my dining room table and after closer inspection it appears to have cracked perfectly straight across slightly lower than half the depth of the diamond, if that makes any sense. From side to side. I cant remember seeing this in the diamond. This is a very obvious line, not a feather.

2007-12-06 14:47:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Help, go back to school? What do I do? I have spent my life taking care of my kids working two jobs and never really got ahead of all the bills. I have lots of friends but they don't keep me warm at night. My husband is gone so much and he just doesn't understand I need to be with him more. What do I do?

2007-12-06 14:43:58 · 29 answers · asked by ahunners 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hello every1 , i have a problem , you see my bf let's call him ''C'', thinks that he's a waste of time , borky , ugly , etc ...
He keeps calling himself these things and when i try telling him it's not true that he's the best person on earth. He puts himself down more . I wish i knew what's going on inside his head . If you can help me i would appicate it . emensley .

Thank you sarah l.

2007-12-06 14:43:58 · 4 answers · asked by Sarah L 4 in Singles & Dating

Why does it seem like everytime I go somewhere I see these happy couples holding hands? I often want to cry because I feel worthless. Everyone says you will meet that one guy someday!!! But everytime I do get a chance they turned out gay, had other gfs, or w/e their problem is. Anyone else feels lonley? I am on the dean list, got accepted into university I want, have a couple of good friends, have a great mom, and most of all I get what I want, except guys. I do flirt with them, but it just make things worst.

2007-12-06 14:43:52 · 7 answers · asked by greeneyeslady 4 in Singles & Dating

I have a problem. I am 42, a virgin and all because when I ask a beautiful woman with red/orange hair out, she says time and time again that I'm not her type and she goes for men with dark hair. Is this really the reason? Chinese/Indian/African women date their own kind, so why not ginger women? It is incredible frustrating that I cannot date that which I'm attracted to.

2007-12-06 14:42:56 · 10 answers · asked by Ginger_Tigerrr 1 in Singles & Dating

Do I let him back into my life?

We met in April. We had a great time - mostly sex.
I got pregnant in Ocober. I told him. . he wanted him to have an abortion. I didn't. We finally were 'ok'. He came back around on Friday. I was in the ER on Saturday. Today he brought me to the hospital for the D&C.
Nice as pie again. Since he came back around before I miscarried - do you think it is okay to let him back?

i really liked him. i still do really like him.
he makes me happy. i think he was just in shock when i popped up prego.

i also had my tubes tied... i didn't tell him i tied them until after the surgery... he looked surprised. but i didn't want to get pregnant again.

so what do you think?

2007-12-06 14:40:31 · 2 answers · asked by Miss Kelly 4 in Singles & Dating

my friends boyfriend is planning on giving her a diamond ring for xmas, but they've only been going out for two weeks!!!!!!!! should she accept it?

2007-12-06 14:40:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 18 and my two closest friends have lives that are completely hectic. There's constant drama and my life is pretty tame, especially when compared to theirs. Every time we get together, it's always a constant barrage of complaints about their love lives and such. Basically I want to know if it's selfish that I don't want to be around them anymore.

2007-12-06 14:38:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I've been talking to this guy for about 3 months and after asking me a question that he felt I didn't ask in a more direct way said "
You're a very complicated person." How should I take that? What could he mean by that?

2007-12-06 14:34:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have hardly madeout with anyone before, so my close friend told me i could practice on her and that it would mean nothing.i havent agreed yet but i wanted peoples opinion:

is this wrong, to practice on your friends that are of the same sex?? or do u think that its a good way to practice?


& dont be immature, its not like i actually have feelings for them.

2007-12-06 14:28:57 · 90 answers · asked by rinn 3 in Singles & Dating

i don't believe in pre marital sex....sex should only be between a husband and wife...lol...i know, i'm old fashioned, but whateva...but if u don't believe that, then that's cool, u are entitled to your opinions and beliefs.

<---- 19yr old virgin...and damn proud of it...

=)

2007-12-06 14:28:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

in grade eight all the grade eight classes go to quebec for a trip. it's $700!!! and my 13th birthday is coming up so i want to do something REALLY BIG! but it'll cost alot of money too. so my parents are making me choose! WHICH ONE SHOULD I PICK?! MY 13TH BIRTHDAY OR A TRIP TO QUEBEC? heres the hard part, if i go to quebec, i won't get any chritsmas presents or birthday presents and i won't do anything for my 13th birthday. which absolutley sucks.but i'll be in quebec for a week and each day doing something different and fun and i'll be with my friends! i'd also stay in a five star hotel and my best buds would be my roomies!!BUT if i decide not to go to quebec i'll have the BIGGEST 13th birthday party and get presents for my birthday and christmas! I'd get SOO many presents and have the best birthday i could imagine. and ALL my bests friends would be there for my party. but then my friends would come back from quebec and be bragging about it, and i'll feel left out. WHICH ONE

2007-12-06 14:28:28 · 3 answers · asked by Phillie P 1 in Friends

She NEVER goes out, she makes a conscious effort not to talk to people because she says she's been hurt before so she wont give many people the time of day. She finds herself very unnattractive (even though she isn't!!) and she never dresses up or puts on make up because she said feels she isnt worth it. Furthermore, she wont go out with me or even her brother because she doesnt want to "cramp his style" and she said she doesnt go out with people because she doesnt want to embarass them!?!? I've tried talking to her but she never lets me get very far, she's stubborn. She's not exactly shy because if she does have to talk to people she's fine with it and i always thought she was confident but now i don't know what to make of it.... I'm her only real friend and i really want to help her out. Her parents are quite strict as well ( arab parents are like that) so they dont really let her go out but now i know its because she doesnt want to anyway. If anyone has any ideas of what i can do..

2007-12-06 14:26:57 · 2 answers · asked by chocolatina 1 in Friends

Is it possible to have a healthy, trusting relationship with a husband/wife without having sex in your marriage?

I'm 24 yo and someday I'd like to be married, but I have many insecurities about my body (heavy, cellulite, excessive hair). I'm very embarassed by my body and don't think intimacy is possible for me.

2007-12-06 14:25:38 · 30 answers · asked by sneakyme_69 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my ex broke up. Hes sending me mix signal's I was testing him and text him and said I love you he said Love you too then tonight I told him I missed him and he said I miss you to sweetie.. when we talk hes really nice.. what could this mean? does he still love me?

2007-12-06 14:21:54 · 15 answers · asked by Still Inlove 2 in Singles & Dating

okay me and my boyfriend is having an complicated situation going on and he decided to "break" or cool off. he said" see if we're gonna miss each other but im missing you already " . So he said to set the date and i was like"no you" but he wanted to me to set a date how long we're gonna take in our relationship so i said 2 and a half week(but we have a winter break so its gonna be 4 week and a half) and he said"okay" and then next day he came up to me saying the cool off wont work and i was like"you planned it" and he was like"but its too long because of the winter break" and i said "why are you changing your mind? you planned it" and he was like "but can we talk just after class?" and i said no and he was like "are you serious?" and i said "yes" and we said goodbye and we left.
whats going on?

2007-12-06 14:21:48 · 1 answers · asked by bianca 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-06 14:19:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a major life problem, I am a 15 year old boy. I have trouble getting along with my older brother (17 years old). In fact I don't even get along with him. (And younger directly than me). Yes we live in the same house with parents (and have three younger brothers). By not getting along with him I mean not even talking to him. I think the last time I might have had a 'fun' or 'brotherly' talk with him is years ago. Yes you are saying I need professional help, counselling. Its just that I am afraid and this took a lot of courage to right. I just need someone to talk to this about. I don't want to ruin my life even more. Can somebody help me out? Please just someone help me and talk to me. I would really appreciate it.

2007-12-06 14:17:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

we have been having a little bit of trouble and i dont seem to believe him sometimes even tho i do im just scared of being cheated on. he loves me i know but i dont know if i wanna be with him just because i want someone. im pretty sure i love him but i cant figure out if im wanting him just to have someone cuz im comfortable with him or cuz i love him. but sometimes im not happy...like i wish he would more romantic and tell me more how much i mean to him. help.

2007-12-06 14:17:36 · 6 answers · asked by miss curious 1 in Singles & Dating