I am 19 my wife and i have had a really rough marriage. But i love her very much. She is sixteen and we are seperating but if we do she will have no where to go and there is a good chance our daughter (whom she was pregnant with when we met) will be taken away from her. So my plan is to stay married and live with her just so she will have a place to stay and our daughter will stay with us. I dont have much money im leagally blind and on a fixed income. Thats y i cant simply buy her a place......deep down inside im not ready to let go...am i setting myself up for heartache knowing she will probally move on before i do.....im confused am i doing the right thing.
2007-12-06 15:06:20 · 6 answers · asked by Mr.Gemini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this isnt a trick question i really need help with this....i wouldnt waste my time asking this if i really didnt need some HELPFUL advice not judgment or smart *** comments
2007-12-06 15:21:29 · update #1
Is this a trick question?
2007-12-06 15:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are asking for heartache. She is using your kindness. If she's bopping her ex and continues to see him, you can't be that desperate...are you?
I mean, I know people in this world are so lonely they could scream, but you will have to deal with the cards yur dealt and make up your mind. Are you so lonesome you want to accept this terrible behavior until one day, she leaves for good. Or do you want to stand up for yourself, stop being a doormatt, even if it means you might be lonely, but you had enough respect for yourself. What are you teaching this woman and her child by letting her stay like it's ok?
If she can go to exes to spread her legs, she can find her own place. She knew the risk of cheating on you and took it. She must either know you're a sucker she can walk over or now she knows that.
You hold onto her because it's hard to find a good girl these days. But as long as you have her, you will never have a chance to have a decent girl. You must have hope, pray, meditate, but don't let this woman use you dry and then spit you out, emotionally murdering you, what good will you be for your true love when she coms one day?
Do you have family and friends? Can you go to meetup.com or other places to meet people similar to you? Don't give up, it might be hard at times, but it will require courage and wise action.
2007-12-06 23:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 19 your not her parent...she needs to learn how to take care of herself.... u already seem to know how its going to end save urself the heartach...ur kindness will not gain u anything....thier is someone out their for u...if u want to help her out give her a place to stay but that doenst mean u have to be married to her
2007-12-06 23:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by branbran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to say that you are in a tight situation....
all i can say is do the best you can with what you have. if you have a support system try to get custody of your daughter yourself. (perhaps a parent or a care taker?)
you could ask a social service worker if there is anything you could do. if there were any programs your wife would qualify for.
good luck, sorry to say i think you are going to need it.
2007-12-06 23:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg you are 19 and she is 16 you are both still babies....but it is still possible to make it.. this may sound very old fashioned but i tell you what...Prayer...lots of Prayer...God has all the strength and the resources you will ever need...find a church in your area and speak with the pastor..get involved with a bible study and pray with your wife as well Good luck to you!!!!!!!!
2007-12-06 23:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by kay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have way too much free time.
I am not buying it.
2007-12-06 23:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋