Is it wrong that I don't want to hang out with my closest friends as much as I used to?

Question

I'm 18 and my two closest friends have lives that are completely hectic. There's constant drama and my life is pretty tame, especially when compared to theirs. Every time we get together, it's always a constant barrage of complaints about their love lives and such. Basically I want to know if it's selfish that I don't want to be around them anymore.

Answer 1

definatley not!
they don't sound like
very fun people!
its okay to want to hang with
new people! i hate being around
people who create drama too!
don't worry about it.

Answer 2

No, I don't think its selfish. I think you would be more comfortable and happy around them if they didn't have as much drama, or you just want to be around people that enjoy a more tame life as you. Also, you might just be growing apart. In my opinion, there is so much other crap in the world than to complain about whats going on with much of the drama that people make up today to keep their lives "exciting," (such as boys, clothes, distrusting friends, etc) so maybe a part of you just wants to mature from all that.

So, you should let them know how you feel in a nice way like "sometimes i feel that you guys tell me a lot of your problems and i really dont know what to do to help you solve them as much as i could. maybe we should just concentrate on something else and just have fun and ignore things that we cant control." (yeah that was lame), but to sum everything up, i would probably have similar feelings as you if my 2 closest friends got involved with drama. i hate drama and think its a waste of time and energy. i hope you guys can work it out. you dont have to stop being around them, but you might want to find friends that enjoy the drama-free life. good luck!

Answer 3

No, it's actually pretty natural. When you're young, you develop "friends" from the assortment of people available to you: You're compelled to attend school, so you tend to select friends from the peers you're similarly grouped with...that commonality is the basis for your friendship. As you age, you develop greater insights, different interests, and exposure to a more diverse group of people, so as your awareness expands, so does your scrutiny of people you choose to associate with. It's normal, a bit awkward, and sometimes sad, but it is the way of things. On the upside, there may be a few friendships that survive the journey into adulthood. I maintain close ties to roughly three people I attended high school with. Not bad considering I graduated more than 20 years ago. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I had a couple of friends (one I knew since I was 3 and one since I was 12) and we did everything together.
Then just before I turned 18, we grew apart. They were like your friends and I worked hard and would rather hang with my man and our families.
We still kept in touch, but when I fell pregnant with my boys, sh!t hit the fan. One was SO jealous, and went on and on. The others boyfriend just ditched her and it was all I ever heard about.
It may have been selfish, but I let go of our friendship and moved on.
Two years later I am happier, with new friends than ever before. I don't see them anymore. I did bump into one recently, and we talked, but we were 2 different people.

Answer 5

Of course not. People out grow each other all the time. You sound like me. I'm a pretty laid back person and any drama in my life, I will get rid of it. Especially friends and boyfriends!

Answer 6

You need to stop hanging with them, nothing but drama is all they know. You are more mature then them, and if you continue to be with them, you are going to be in the drama also.

Answer 7

No it's not selfish because if they seem they're not the 'right' type of friends that mean they aren't. So if you don't like being around them it's okay.