Is it possible to have a healthy, trusting relationship with a husband/wife without having sex in your marriage?
I'm 24 yo and someday I'd like to be married, but I have many insecurities about my body (heavy, cellulite, excessive hair). I'm very embarassed by my body and don't think intimacy is possible for me.
2007-12-06 14:25:38 · 30 answers · asked by sneakyme_69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure why not, I got toys, he can use my toys on me if he doesn't wanna have sex. I can use them on myself too but to have him use them would be a little more like us being together!
2007-12-06 14:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not in a real marriage.. maybe marry a person that's in a wheel chair.. paralyzed from the neck down.. then you would be both happy if your looking for a marriage with out sex its more of a caring friend ship..
2007-12-06 14:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is part of a marriage. It's a natural thing for a husband and wife to share. The "right" guy would make you feel completely beautiful and in turn you will see that we are all different and have insecurities.
2007-12-06 14:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are married and the person really loves you, then physical appearance should not be a serious issue. Everyone, whether they're fit or not, has insecurities about their body. I'm extremely thin and that actually is an issue for me (for myself).
Can a healthy, trusting marriage relationship work without sex? SURE! Provided the both of you are committed to living together and BOTH of you are comfortable not having sex, then I'm sure it could work. Sex definitely brings people closer together...and even without sex, you should still have a level of physical intimacy.
However, I think that when the time comes and you get married, if the person really loves you for who you are, physical appearance will be a non-issue.
Always marry an ugly girl,
Cuz that's the only kind
She'll never ever leave you
And if she does, you won't mind...
2007-12-06 14:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by ninjaphobos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things:
1. It IS possible... but highly unlikely. You essentially have to find someone who is completely and utterly not interested in sex. Even then, it can change, and then what happens? But the possibility is definitely there.
2. You are completely taking the wrong approach to this problem. You should not be trying to hide from sex, which is a wonderful thing that you do not want to miss. You should be trying to overcome your insecurities. I'd start by discussing it with your family doctor and going from there.
Good luck!
2007-12-06 14:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think intimacy is an important part of marriage. Do you think you will meet a man who will be able to go without sex? You need to work on feeling comfortable with yourself. You are your own worst critic. When a man loves you, he's not going to dwell on your imperfections.
2007-12-06 14:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by true blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is pretty essential. I rather call it lovemaking because it's more then just sex. Lovemaking is deep and is based more so on feeling then sexual desire for eachother's appearances. If they truely love you they'll look into your eyes with the same desire even when they see your imperfections. Love blinds them from those things. Your heart and soul are what are connecting and not only your bodies. Theres somone out there for everyone. & Yes marriage can also survive without sex, but not without love.
2007-12-06 14:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is an important part of marriage it's that physical manifestation of intimacy and love that is suppose to bring you even closer to your spouse.
if you don't like your body change it. find a diet and excercise routine that best works for you and get wax job.
2007-12-06 14:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by maria92588 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you gotta have sex to have a good marriage.
Electrolysis removes hair permanently. Good diet and exercise can take 100 pounds off in a year. You can make the changes you need to feel good about yourself. Good luck!
2007-12-06 14:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Laeticia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get professional help. Sex is part of being married. One person....the one that wants to have sex would be very unhappy. Unless you find someone that doesn't like sex either.
2007-12-06 15:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by ariel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way about yourself, i dont think youll ever get married, if you see yourself like that, im pretty sure everybody sees the same way, first you have to learn to love yourself and look at the good things you have, then maybe, you can ask us again.
there is not such thing as a happy marriage without sex, maybe with the lights off??
2007-12-06 14:33:05 · answer #11 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋