Men... please explain this...?

Question

I'm trying to accept that this guy I'm crazy about and have been flirting with for 3 months now just isn't into me.

I've never had this problem before. (And I don't want to sound conceited, because I'm really not.) But... I'm pretty! I'm 5'8", blond, great body (I used to be a lingerie model, for crying out loud!). I'm smart... I'm in law school on a scholarship. I'm funny. I'm nice. I'm not perfect, but I'm definitely a decent catch.

I've never fallen for anyone as hard as this guy. It's time to come to terms that it just isn't going to happen, and I'm trying to figure out why. I've shown him that I like him. He's single and not gay. Is there anything else that I could possibly do? Should I just give up? I feel so discouraged.

And I'm just stating facts to paint the picture here... I don't think I'm the prettiest girl on the block or anything. Or the smartest. I DO know the meaning of "humility." I'm just trying to figure out that "thing" that obviously isn't there.

Answer 1

You're trying too hard. The best thing is too ignore him. Guys dont want a girl that they can easily get. We like a challenge every now and then. Play hard to get and he'll come begging for you to talk to him.

Answer 2

My opinion is dont seem desperate, personally i had desperate women, huge turn off. It it seems like you have tryed everything and it just doesnt work anymore move on. Its at first hard to accept but the feelings will pass. He could be interested in someone else or knows that you have feelings for him when he might of just wanted to be friends. Dont feel discouraged this happens to loads of people, maybe if theres a next guy think of what you can improve on or do different and see what works.As strange as this sounds attraction is based on genetic relation between two people as that may play a factor too.

Answer 3

It could be that this guy is interested in someone else. If he's truly interested in someone else, and he's one of those guys who is only interested in one guy at a time, then it's possible that this is why he doesn't show any interest in you.

If this is the case then just let it go for a while. You could also ask him how he feels about you and if he says no then don't be completely discouraged. There may come a time when he realizes what he's missing and he'll come back to you.

Answer 4

Not every Jack is meant to be a soul mate with any Jill that comes his way. You cannot force someone to want you. How would you feel if some nice looking guy really wanted you, but for no particualr reason you just are not interested in him. Would you really want him to keep persuing you until you feel the need to avoid places so not to be bothered by him?

Just because you are nice looking does not mean you are interesting and even if you are interesting to him, it doesn't mean he has to date you.

It sounds like your ego is hurt because one guy has not fallen all over you. Move on, and let him alone. You gave it your best shot and he is not interested in you. Use your looks and and time to find someone who does want you.

Answer 5

You should tell him how you feel before you give up on him.

And don't take it too hard -- it happens to everyone at some point. You could be the most perfect woman in the world, but he may be in love with someone else or think he's not good enough for you or like red heads or something!

You won't know unless you ask him.

good luck!!

Answer 6

Come right out and tell the dude you find him interesting. Sometimes flirting just doesn't get the message across, he may be a bit dense? Ask him if he'd be interested in getting together for a cup of coffee (or whatever). If he's truly not interested, he'll probably let you know by making excuses or coming right out and tell you.
Or just give it up and move on.

Answer 7

I am not a guy, but tell him how you feel. If you are giving up you got nothing to lose and least ways you would have closure, instead of being left wondering what might have been.

As to why not. Maybe your just not his type. I mean, you are obviously beautiful, but maybe he is into big girls or does not like a particular trait that you have. A good example is that my husband does not like brown eyes. It is a huge turn off to him. He says he could not date a girl with brown eyes no matter how hot she might be other wise.

Answer 8

You sound like you've got your head together and certainly sound like you're attractive, physically.
I have known a few girls in my life that sort of fit that category of the "hot chick" and all but, for whatever reason, I just wasn't into them.
Look, I'm sure if you just wanted a physical thing, he be all over you like a rash, but it sounds like he at least respects you enough not to go that way...
I'm sure you'll reward the right guy some day with all you have to offer but, until then, try not to stress that one guy "isn't into you"...happens to everyone...

Answer 9

He is trying to give you a signal.... that you are not the one. I'm sure you are very good looking, but that is not the only thing a guy looks for. Take his subtle hints, and move on. Remember, there are lots of not-so-good-looking gals out there that are happily married. Why? Because they were the one for the guy they are married to. You can't expect to get any guy you want, just because you are good looking.

Answer 10

Maybe hes just not interested in a relationship right now. you should probably go tell him that you really like him and ask him of how he feels towards you. theres nothing wrong with you. maybe he has a problem with ladies or something. or maybe hes afraid to love again because maybe he got hurt in a past relationship. just go tell him im sure youl find your answers once you do.