Family & Relationships - 4 December 2007

a guy meets his ex girl friend after an year of his marriage to someone else. they both had fight as he stopped talking to her and she asked him why he stopped talking to her..he explained that his wife may not like him to be in touch with ex..and he told her that its better that she not discuss the issues abt her past because she is aware of the issues that can come up..and he said he is afraid that he may want to have sex with her.

was he emotionally attached to his ex , does he love her or the wife.

he married the other lady because of parents pressure . it was arranged marriage while his ex was his best friends for few years. they did not have sex ever..

thank you.

2007-12-04 19:19:50 · 6 answers · asked by dsnmstis 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my, fiancee is in Pennsylvania, and the minister was in North Carolina, we only had one witness-who was in Cali-the marriage certificate was filled out but later destroyed-and neither of us applied for a marriage license in our states-is the marriage still legal?

2007-12-04 19:10:42 · 8 answers · asked by Rhiannon 1 in Weddings

been with bf for almost 3 years. been up and down due to me having pmdd that i struggle with (seeing a counselor and take meds). i also have 3 kids that i care for part-time. i'm 28 and he's 29-no kids,never married.

we've discussed living together-marriage and said one way or the other things had to be figured out by this Feb when my apt lease is up. so far, plan is for me to move in with him (my cat and over half my stuff is at his house now)

got into a little tiff today mostly due to me being a little moody and tired. things seemed ok when we left for work but he won't email or call me back.

a friend of his back home in IL emails him from time to time and emailed him to see how things were w/his life and w/me.

he emailed back not saying anything about me so the friend asked again. he emailed the friend back saying he didnt mention me the first time b/c things are the same-one week good, the next bad. more below and important-please read!!

2007-12-04 19:06:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok I am 20 years old and I have a little sister and she is 15. My little sister has just broken my moms heart so bad by writing people on the internet saying she has a bad home and she has to stay in her room all day cause our mom is an alcoholic.Also saying my mom will go off on her for no apparent reason. None of that is true! But my little sister is wanting to go out alone with boys and friends. She has already been caught shoplifting and went to juvinille for and has a court date. And she's also asking on here how do you masterbate? Me and my mom do not know what to do with her anymore. Oh and also my dad is out of the picture. Any advice on what do??? Thankyou so very much!

2007-12-04 19:03:08 · 11 answers · asked by Hurricane 3 in Family

I live with the father of my son. We are not married. I have several times found in the history section of the computer that he has looked at pictures (soft porn) of very young girls-not nudes. His explanation the first time (nn lolita, child models) was that he missed his daughter (3yrs). His explanation the second time (nn lolita, nn child models) was that he didn't know it was porn. The third--he just got very defensive and I started to make my leaving plans. And recently, I found he had visited a couple sites and actually went into one. It was a 'preteen' site of 6-10 yr old girls in thongs. Apparently he didn't even have to do a google search.

To view child porn soft or hard is not a criminal offence unless pictures are downloaded to a computer, or it is distributed or traded online. And report him? As what? To who?

I want my son to have a family, but I do not want this man around my family (sisters, nieces). Is he really a pedophile if he just looks at pictures?

2007-12-04 18:56:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We agreed two years ago that we would save money and move to nyc so I can try and make it as a writer. Now that I have a job interview, he has changed his mind and wants to stay here in Nevada since he fell in love with his job (a job he can do anywhere.) He is now upset that I have this interview and wont talk about it. I am 32 and carer and relationship time is both ticking. What do I do?

2007-12-04 18:51:10 · 8 answers · asked by natalie R. 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been married for 6 years and we've bickered and argued from the beginning. mostly little things, and usually my fault (he makes me feel like it is).

When we argue, and my husband gets mad, he'll stay mad for days and will ignore me completely. I try to say sorry/hug him, etc, and he'll not even look at me. He just ignores me and says nothing.

I feel he's unfair by not addressing and talking about the problem. I'm always the first to say sorry even if I'm the one who got mad in the first place. I cant stay mad for too long.

2 weeks ago we got into a fight (definitely his fault) and I was mad and tried to ignore him (to make him see what it feels like). HE ended up ignoring me BACK and I ended up trying to apologize for it. Again.

I'm fed up of his immaturity. What do you think? Is it ok for a grown up to act this way? How should I address him when he's ignoring me? I feel like my self respect dies a little each time i try to make things better, but he seems to enjoy it

2007-12-04 18:46:57 · 13 answers · asked by WonderingWhy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

this guy i work with in a restaurant, called the gm this morning and said , hey because its tuesday and not too many people come in, can i have the day off?? the gm said he never heard anything like that before. is there something wrong with this guy

2007-12-04 18:46:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i had a fight with them because i was saying that 41/60 isnt a good maths exam mark and 22/30 isnt a good test mark. they got really pissy at me because they got lower than me and they said i was insulting them so they didnt talk to me for the rest of the day! my other friend told me that they had called me lesbian because i dont have a boyfriend or go out with guys a lot and they've bitched about me behind my back. i had no idea they were like that. i honestly thought they were truthful, friendly people but i was proven wrong. there are only two days of school left. should i make up with them, i didnt start the fight, they did.
and we are 15 years old!!

2007-12-04 18:43:56 · 12 answers · asked by My Name Is Trip 4 in Friends

Would you say that the best time of your life was when you were a young woman, having fun and living your life for yourself

OR

when you had children and were a 24/7 mother?

2007-12-04 18:39:24 · 7 answers · asked by eMteMind 4 in Marriage & Divorce

before you realized you should quit going after "bad boys" ?

Also, about how old were you when you figured out it would be a good idea to start appreciating guys that know how to treat you right?

P.S. (got dumped a few months ago by a girl for some rich investment banker who treated her like $hit, now she wants me back... can't decide what to do)

2007-12-04 18:38:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-04 18:33:15 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was having a cup of cofee with my gf, and we were discusssing different topics when she said "you know I can learn a lot about a man, by the way he treats his mother." Do you find this statement true, and what patterns do you look at to see how the mom is being treated?

2007-12-04 18:22:15 · 7 answers · asked by hsingh86 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is very caring and loyal. One day he admitted that when he saw me from afar, he thought to himself "oh my god, she has a nice ***,"not knowing who I was. From that moment on, my female instincts have been annoying the heck out of me. I am jealous of all attractive girls, I am determined to look my best, and I am worried that my boyfriend looks at other girls.

Men (and women) look at eachother to determine whether the other one is attractive, as an unwritten rule I guess. Lately, a lot of people I personally know have cheated on their significant others. It seems that women are doomed. There will always be another attractive woman out there for my boyfriend. I want to stay comfortable in my own skin, but I am now insecure.

Advice? Consolation? Shut me up?:(

2007-12-04 18:17:05 · 6 answers · asked by mmmoatmeal 1 in Singles & Dating

My mother recently (August 30th) had a stroke at the relatively young age (for stroke patients) of 63. She's paralyzed on the right side and she is aphasic and aproxic. This is an incredibly stressful / painful time for my sister and I, the two primary caregivers (mom was divorced and lived alone...).

We're at a stage where we need to think about her long-term care options, and are interested in getting perspective from others on the choice between Board and Care versus Nursing facilities. She requires max assist, meaning she needs to be transferred out of bed to be toileted, etc. She has functioning of her left side, and can feed herself and she has decent motor control.

Anyway, please share any thoughts that you might have on the topic. We are hopeful that she will recover, but we are preparing for the potential of a long-term max assist living situation.

Thank you.

2007-12-04 18:15:17 · 7 answers · asked by Brian M 2 in Family

My brother has come for a visit. He's gone to bed now and here I am, at the computer, burning CD's for him..... like 15 of them. I thought this whole take advantage of your little sister thing might get better with age. Apparantly not?? Does anyone else have an older sibling like this???

2007-12-04 18:14:38 · 9 answers · asked by ~ luv sis 6 in Family

i had a very good husband and family and lost them over a affair. i had never had or even been in one but it happened and once he found out he divorced me which i couldnt blame himhe was good to me . i took him for granted . and now i found out how silly i was . over it. i am goig to try but i dont see how after all it was me who ruined our lif. marrage. and children to . 4. years is a long time to see what you have lost till it.s gone he has been seeing a woman who is . 10. years younger than him if i cant have him . back i will understand why and how i truley messed up .

2007-12-04 18:13:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm still single, but I find it interesting that many of my friends/family are in relationships which one person (usually the man) "loves the other more." Unfortunately I see lots of problems, arguments which end in unhappy unions or divorce.

But I've seen couples - not many - which both the man and woman are totally infatuated with each other, hardly have problems, etc... even 40 yrs after being married.

Many of you may disagree with me, but do you believe most couples out there "settle" once they think that's it? Or were you able to find the love of your life? (and if so, how is it now?)

2007-12-04 18:13:08 · 13 answers · asked by two_design_kitties 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i got in contact with this old girlfriend from highschool she was nuts about me, but i wasnt that much into her so we just kinda drifted, we are both recent grads now, and we always plan to meet, then she cancels and then im like f it, and do my thing, then she called me once, but said it was an accident , so then tried to meet up with her again, but she keeps doing it. why will she talk to me and stuff over aim, but she scared to meet me?

2007-12-04 18:07:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So I occasionally hang out with a girl I like. She knows I like her, but I've never told her how much, I kind of just hint at it. So the reason why I hint is that every time we go out, she flirts with other guys and she does it in front of me. At first I thought she liked me because she did the same thing to me. At the end though she still keeps hanging out with me. What do you think, do you think she's punishing me for not being aggressive enough or is she just a chronic flirt and doesnt really like me?

2007-12-04 18:04:28 · 2 answers · asked by terminallyalone2007 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-04 18:03:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

* using the article "the":
1. "the(sounds like 'dha') United States" or "the(sounds like 'dhi') United States" ?
2. "the(sounds like 'dha') European..." or "the(sounds like 'dhi') European..." ?

thanks for the answers.

2007-12-04 17:59:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I asked a question yesterday and got shot down. Full details are. My boyfriend from 14 years ago has come back into my life by pure chance. He is now married with two children. I am not a home wrecker and never want to be. However, we have both felt old feelings coming back after such a long time. Neither of us know's what to do, we are both scared about doing any thing for fear of hurting his family. He is not the hurtful type and I know he doesnt' want to be feeling these things. The fact remains that we both are. What do we do? We have to work together, does it mean that one of us has to move to a different job. But at the same time I really value him as a human being and want to spend time with him. HELP. I am really struggling with this, and I can't eat or sleep.

2007-12-04 17:58:39 · 12 answers · asked by crazychick1975 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay I don't give a fu** what anyone says. If you love someone enough to marry them then you will stay with that person no matter what. No matter what. NO MATTER WHAT!

That means no dishonor. No cheating. Let me repeat that.

No cheating.

Yes, that's right. N-o c-h-e-a-t-i-n-g. No cheating. Period

what is so hard about that. You're married. Why would you want to cheat?

When I get married, I will never cheat. Because I would rather DIE than break my woman's heart.

HONOR!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-04 17:58:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i already tried to talk to my mother but she doest understand my brother think he the boss of the house and every 1 keep blaming thing on me.

2007-12-04 17:58:02 · 9 answers · asked by smiley 1 in Family

and i've told him about it but he ignores me like he doesn't hear me so what should i do??

2007-12-04 17:57:12 · 7 answers · asked by Dimples 1 in Singles & Dating

Im 17. I am 5'10'' or 11'',145 pounds, Blonde hair Blue eyes. Lots of guys look at me and will talk to me. But they are all older. When i was 14 i dated a 17yr old, when i was 15 i dated a 20 yr old and now that im 17 the only guy that likes me is 24!! I don't want him to like me because he is much older knows more and has seen more. I want someone who is 17 or 18 and into the things im into and looking at colleges not graduating from college!! Im not the normal girl. Im a prep and im popular in school... but all the guys think of me as a friend. I dont know if it's because i drive a big truck like to four wheel and hunt and have fun and just go with the flow that they just look at me as "one of the guys" or what. I dress like a girl, preppy lol. I just want a guy to notice me that isnt old!!

2007-12-04 17:54:07 · 3 answers · asked by London L 2 in Singles & Dating

So my bf of 2.5 years dumped me 6 weeks ago and three weeks ago he came to drop off my stuff and we ended up sleeping together. He then told me that he still loved me but didn't want to date me, & said he still wanted to have sex with me because he didn't want to have to wait until he found someone else. Naturally, I was not okay with this & we haven't really talked since. I regret having sex with him then and I do NOT plan on letting it happen again.

A week after that, pictures of him with a new girl began to surface and last night one of our mutual friends confirmed that he is indeed seeing this girl. However, my friend also told me that she had visited my ex less than a month ago and all he did was talk about how much he missed me. Then I hear from another friend that the last time she talked to my ex (which was just over a month ago) he kept talking about how he wished things had worked out with us and how he hoped someday we'd end up together...

2007-12-04 17:53:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we hang out almost every week and i'm really starting to like her..last weekend we checked in a hotel (with friends again) i was sitting at the edge of the bed i thought she was already sleeping then she asked me to sleep beside her..and before sleeping we talked about stuffs.. Do you think she likes me too?

A week before that weekend her mom called me to ask if i'm with her..(guys this is some plus for me because i'm the only one called by her mom..)
does this mean they're(mom) talking about me..??

i'm wondering how can i tell her that i really like her?we'll meet before new year..should i tell her??how??thanks!

2007-12-04 17:52:15 · 14 answers · asked by awesome 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-04 17:49:56 · 3 answers · asked by kirissheela 2 in Other - Family & Relationships