So my bf of 2.5 years dumped me 6 weeks ago and three weeks ago he came to drop off my stuff and we ended up sleeping together. He then told me that he still loved me but didn't want to date me, & said he still wanted to have sex with me because he didn't want to have to wait until he found someone else. Naturally, I was not okay with this & we haven't really talked since. I regret having sex with him then and I do NOT plan on letting it happen again.
A week after that, pictures of him with a new girl began to surface and last night one of our mutual friends confirmed that he is indeed seeing this girl. However, my friend also told me that she had visited my ex less than a month ago and all he did was talk about how much he missed me. Then I hear from another friend that the last time she talked to my ex (which was just over a month ago) he kept talking about how he wished things had worked out with us and how he hoped someday we'd end up together...
2007-12-04 17:53:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex also has some boudoir photos of me from when we were dating that I've been asking him to get rid of, as we had an agreement he would if we ever broke up. When I asked him about it yesterday, he said that he had no intention of getting rid of the photos because "they are special to [him]."
So my question is this: if he's seeing this new girl and apparently doing fine and is happy without me, why does he still want to keep those pictures? He told me that he didn't have ulterior motives for them and that they always have and will stay hidden, but I'm still confused as hell about this. My friends think it's because he's really not over me, but then why would he be seeing this new girl? I haven't even thought about dating anyone else since we broke up. All opinions are welcome.
2007-12-04 17:53:57 · update #1
He's trying to move on. He obviously misses you a lot. I'm not sure why you guys broke up or what the circumstances were, but it's not uncommon to second-guess decisions like breaking up. That's probably what he's doing. It still hurts to let go of someone you've been with for 2.5 years! So many memories.
He is probably seeing this other girl in an attempt to "move on." That relationship probably won't last if that's the case... Anyway, if you think you're better off not together, then so be it. Try to stay away from him and don't keep in touch for a little while. Let him heal and let yourself heal. If you are considering getting back with him, know that 95% of the time, the same old problems resurface... whether it be a few days, weeks or months after starting the relationship again. So if he comes back wanting another shot, you both will really have to dig deep and solve the original problems.
2007-12-04 18:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is probablly finding it very hard to let you go, after you had such a long relationship and you probablly gave allot to each other.
With the new girl he probablly likes her very much but he keeps seeing things in her that remind him of you, or he see's faults in her that you didnt have...
You need to either sit him down and tell him its over, totally over or even, if you still have feelings for him and if the feelings he has for you are strong enough, consider taking him back as he obviously misses you and I can assume he never cheated or did you any wrong whilst in the relationship.
Maybe he was bored but now he is seeing what he is missing.
2007-12-04 18:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah Darling 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
obviously he dont love ever heard of a guy that meet a new girl and says he still loves his ex i dont think so that a 200% lie dont believe in him and if possible dont make anymore contacts to him..coz if you do(got to tell you this im a guy too i know what he thinks about hes like wow..i feel like i won a lottery i got 2 girls with me) nah dont let this happen take some time to forget him and also ask your friends not to tell you about whats happening to him that will hurt you more and im sure the right one will come to you!
2007-12-04 18:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by omeng90 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well hello friend..i might be too young too advise you... but I've been in these situation lately too... er mm well i think the guy is still in with you...maybe in some sort of things..he kinda not keen with u...you get me?
he might feel comfort extraordinarily when having you as his bed-mate..and may find other side of your relationship might go down. anyhow...first love are the most adorable love for everyone... no one could ever forget it...its that pure my dear...maybe you should give him some time for him to realize how honest you are and how pure your love toward him...best of luck dear.
2007-12-04 18:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by kirissheela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a girl from 13-19...My first love...she left me out of no where...saw another man...same **** as that...came back to me for sex ...then got confused...didnt want him anymore...wanted me back but I couldnt do it...its called a rebound relationship...hes confused and doesnt know what he wants...he cant help but make mistakes but Its to late now you cant take someone back that hurts you like that hes a ******* fool.
2007-12-04 17:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Shayne H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that first paragraph has enough info for me if i were you to kick his ***. You know what? Have sex with him. Then when hes down and out. Inject his penis with acid. Lets see how much of an asshole he is after that.
2007-12-04 17:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep pictures of my old ex-gf ... admittedly not usually on display.
I think he probably did love you, and may have some feelings left that he wants to hold on to ... but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
And you're right - don't have sex with your ex!
2007-12-04 17:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's his hormones at work; ignore him. I think he's banging the new girl he's with, like duh. And anyway, he must be drunk. He's unstable, can't you see? Why else would he dump you and then want to you back with you just to satisfy his whims? Enough of this, girl. Move on. Don't waste your time trying to hang on to this man who don't know what he wants. It's just going to tire you, and please him because you've fallen into his trap.
2007-12-04 18:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by mareyys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's trying to make u jealous.
2007-12-04 17:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by a.sade86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes an ***, and a perv
2007-12-04 17:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Alex|Heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋