Ok I am 20 years old and I have a little sister and she is 15. My little sister has just broken my moms heart so bad by writing people on the internet saying she has a bad home and she has to stay in her room all day cause our mom is an alcoholic.Also saying my mom will go off on her for no apparent reason. None of that is true! But my little sister is wanting to go out alone with boys and friends. She has already been caught shoplifting and went to juvinille for and has a court date. And she's also asking on here how do you masterbate? Me and my mom do not know what to do with her anymore. Oh and also my dad is out of the picture. Any advice on what do??? Thankyou so very much!
2007-12-04 19:03:08 · 11 answers · asked by Hurricane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take the computer use away from her. Take anything the mother has bought for her and take it away.
if she wants to lie and make her life seems so shitty then let's make it shitty.
don't buy her anymore new clothes..don't give her any money...
friends can't sleep over....
tough love.
2007-12-04 19:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have some heart to heart talks with her, find out what the root of the problem(s) are, communication is always the best policy, as a big sister, you may want to start doing more with your little sister. Your mom needs to back off a bit on the yelling, and sending her to her room all the time, even though I know she is at her wits end, but the mom needs to be more involved with her young daughters life too, as for the masturbation, well, the 15 yr old has raging hormones at this time, and will experiment with her own body, but just be glad that she is not out messing with every guy on the streets, and if she is active sexually, sit down and have a long talk about the dangers of STD's, best advice here is Communication., communication., communication, and lots of love in the family.
2007-12-04 19:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prolly don't want to hear this but maybe the problem is that dad is not in the picture? Girls do need their dads (or a positive male role model) it sounds like she is going for male attention because dad's not around. I agree with the other comment about tough love but she does need attention.
Watch out the lying doesn't get out of hand and she starts to believe the lies - it will make for a very unhappy Mother.
15 year old girls can be real trouble! Maybe time for family meetings or counselling
2007-12-04 20:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 18 year old exactly the same way. I feel for you and your mom. Best is to take her to see a therapist or a child psychologist. 15 is a hard age and I know the things she's done is wrong and is painful but they're cries for help from your sister and you shouldn't ignore it. If you don't solve this problem NOW, it will only get worse as she gets older. Do it now or as soon as it's possible.
2007-12-04 19:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the power cord from her computer, or disconnect the internet. Take away the cell phone and restrict her to the house. Then, if she gets disrespectful, break out the belt and beat it out of her. That's how Dad did it with us, so good luck. I despise people who lie about their home life. It makes us who actually DO have family problems (I.E. my stepmother regulary goes to the bar and cheats on my dad while he's in Alaska fishing (Commercial Fisherman), or the way she treats my twin brother (I live with mom, he lives with Dad).) look like liars. I myself would like to hit her in the head with a 2x4, but I can't. Stupid liars.
Happy holidays. I hope you get this resolved before Christmas. Nobody should be unhappy on Christmas.
2007-12-04 20:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's acting out. You could try counciling but it may not help. She may just be a spoiled brat. Mom needs to stay a parent though. Not a buddy. She may not understand now but if she survives her teens she'll appreciate her later in life. Make sure whatever mom does it's because she loves her and is looking out for her best interest and she'll do okay.
2007-12-04 19:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by blj63 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your sister is seeking the attention she did not get from her own father? Maybe she feels abandoned, and your life situation has affected her more than your mother and you realize?
I'd suggest a therapist for her.... your mom really needs to get with the therapist first and let him or her know what is going on from her perspective...
2007-12-04 19:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question truly hits domicile with me by means of fact my youngest sister has no longer spoken to me for over 3 years now, and despite if I even have some theory why she took this line I nevertheless do no longer realize it, i will only wager. All issues considered i think of she has continually been jealous of me, and a undeniable incident occured with yet another former family members member who became into out to reason mischief and so the two have been given mutually and ostracised me, inflicting a large family members rift. In different words she observed the prospect to place the boot in me and she or he took it. on the commencing up i became into very harm, distressed, depressed too by means of fact i became into in no way previously conscious of how she truly felt approximately me and it got here as a damaging marvel. I even have have been given used to it now, in spite of the undeniable fact that it nevertheless hurts to think of the little sister I had continually enjoyed ought to turn so thoroughly against me and hate me like she does. countless different kinfolk have tried unsuccessfully to help heal this rift, so i think issues won't regulate, ever. I even have have been given to the degree now that if she fell on her knees in apology and begged my forgiveness i could tell her to flow hell for what she has positioned me with the aid of.
2016-10-10 07:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by figurelli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is the one who can solve all the problem..
Try to make her attend a "retreat".
Keep praying to god to give her light...
Try to make her attend "Art of Living" a specific yoga technique architectured by Ravi Shankar..
It will make everyone gain control over their mind. It makes one think internally through the subconscious and unconscious minds.
All that what she is doing is the aftereffect of her age...
Love her never hate her..pray for her..she will be a good girl for sure..
2007-12-04 19:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen Paul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you gotta hang in there....sometimes something REALLY REALLY bad needs to happen before things can get better...i was a bad little kid too and arrested at the age of 16....it wasnt until i was arrested that i saw the way i was acting was no way to live....itll pass but its gonna take time
2007-12-04 19:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Savannah J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋