Family & Relationships - 27 November 2007

Father use to do drugs now he's clean for two years how do u get along with a father like that he's bipolar he takes pills that control his mood he stopped taking them & he flares @ the whole family for no reason so what do i do?

2007-11-27 07:32:00 · 18 answers · asked by Libra86 1 in Family

i've been married 13 yrs. husb. has cheated numerous times, me never once. he treats me ok. but his moods change radically. he doesn't see it. im looking for something more but don't want to loose this marriage. i find myself looking to get satisfide elsewhere. at least talking about it alot. i want a dominant man to just take me. im just to scared to do anything i don't know what to do. im unhappy most the time. sexually deprived of what i really want. but am to afraid to actually do anything about it. only reason i don't want the marriage to end is my kids. what do i do? there's no passion left. very little love.

2007-11-27 07:30:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-27 07:29:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-11-27 07:27:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My daughter (15) has shaved her ARMS. Is there any significance in this? I think it's weird, but thought maybe this is a current trend. She has been a cutter in the past - any correlation you know of?? Help.

2007-11-27 07:27:00 · 11 answers · asked by sunybuni 6 in Family

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 14 months and we are both college students and I was wondering if you guys could shed some insight for some good ideas for a christmas gift this year.......I am 21 and shes 22 for the record......Thanks

2007-11-27 07:25:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We dated. Soon after she said she wasn't ready to be in any type of relationship with anyone right now. She enjoyed being single way too much. We ended things ...I guess you can say on good terms. As friends. It's been awhile since we last spoke (I've recieved text msgs from her here & there ...no big deal) let alone hang out. She's doing her own thing now. She's also the kind of girl who doesn't know what she wants. I think that her & I did have something special. I still care about her. I do want to give her, her space. Let her breath. What if too much time goes by? I just don't know if that will eventually just fade me out completely out of the picture. What if she finds someone else? Should I call her? Will there ever be "us" again with a girl like this? How do they ever realize when there finally ready to be in a relationship? What makes them change there minds?

2007-11-27 07:24:54 · 1 answers · asked by AB 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-27 07:24:05 · 7 answers · asked by girlofatwin 1 in Family

I got set up and met a girl for a date yesterday, she's so cool and I think we could get along great! But there's a problem, she's, I'd say no less than thirty pounds over weight and she'd be smokin hot if she was just ten or fifteen pounds smaller. I'm a very fit person (not necessarily skinny but in very good shape) and I take a lot of pride in that. Is there a way I can get the message across to her that I want her to lose weight without hurting her?
Has anyone out there been able to totally get over their partner's looks and just deal with it?

(I'm 20 and she's 19 it sounds really self-absorbed and shallow, but think about it, attraction matters)

2007-11-27 07:23:59 · 18 answers · asked by Nate 6 in Singles & Dating

I'm in my 40s but look much younger, like early 30s....slim and fit. Lots of guys in their mid 20s ask me out and to be honest, I usually refuse as I wonder if it is a 'sex experience' for them rather than looking for love. Guys in your 20s, please tell me, can you really be serious about a woman in her mid 40s? Say you get on really well with her? Is it just to sleep with her and then look for a younger girl later on to have children with?

2007-11-27 07:23:39 · 18 answers · asked by this girl wants to know 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend and I have irreconcilable differences and I need to end this now before things get any worse. Being patheticly attached as I am It has taken me months to muster up the resolve to just tell her its over, but the problem is, that its her Birthday this weekend on Sunday (2nd December).

I'm thinking this far in the week, since I won't be seeing her till Thursday anyway, which is 3 days before her 18th Birthday. Should I break up with her, or at least wait till Monday?

2007-11-27 07:23:16 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Why is this taking so long? I am unable to find a girlfriend. I am in college and I tried joining clubs, going to parties, and I still can't get a girl. I tried meeting girls in class, and I lose contact with them. I have no idea on how to meet a girl. Maybe I don't have good personal skills with girls? What kind of attitude am I supposed to have around girls? I know you're supposed to be confident and have a sense of humor. I have those. I just...it is really getting depressing. All my friends are getting girlfriends, except me...what gives? I realize I'm complaining a lot, but this is really getting me depressed. I guess I'll just do my own thing until the right girl decides to show up.

2007-11-27 07:22:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

From my previous questions I've told you guys that i'm getting divorced from my husband. The original reason we decided to file divorced was because I had a miscarriage, we were both upset and as well my brother has leukemia and was going through chemo and radiation when this happened and alot of all of that took its toll on our marriage.
Yesterday when he dropped by we ended up having sex and after that experience again I realized that I do still love him, and I want to try to make it work. So today when he came by for more of his stuff I sat him down and told him exactly what I've just told you all, that I want to try to make this work and start over, and the most upsetting part was all that he said was he said he still loves me, but doesnt know if he wants to try it again and that he might be moving back to California (we both live in Chicago now.) I just don't know if it's really is too late to apologize.

2007-11-27 07:21:41 · 12 answers · asked by Lucia F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i really like this guy and i think he likes me too because he stare at me for a long time and he dont really look at other girls so i thought he liked mee and i think his sortof scared to ask me out and i really like him hellpppppp mmeee please i dont kno what to do

2007-11-27 07:21:39 · 4 answers · asked by AERO hottie 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-27 07:20:22 · 9 answers · asked by Mrs Mole 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i asked him if he still cared about me or not and he won't answer, he keeps stalling what should i do?

2007-11-27 07:18:48 · 58 answers · asked by she-devil 1 in Singles & Dating

Either referring to a spouse or a boyfriend/girlfriend of a couple months, they always say he/she is my SOULMATE....does anyone KNOW what a true soulmate is?

2007-11-27 07:18:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mother and I did not have a good relationship for the past four years. I have been in and out of her house for almost this six times. I went on my way to put myself through school, survived through homelessness, jobless, four car wreck and severe panick attack. Now am burnt out and I do not have any energy anymore. I want peace of my mind. I went to a car wreck yesterday and totaled my car. I have no car or home so far. The only thing that I do is my school which I have two more semesters left to graduate and get my bachalors. Luckly I have a car insurance and I can get a car. I still have my job. My mind is tired. I want peace. I want to get my own place. Luckly I have good friends who are there for me when I need them. My question is that would you call someone who has kicked you out of her house and even when she wants you back to the house. Would you have even if you had no car to go to work, or school? what would you do if you were me? Where would you start? I feel like I have

2007-11-27 07:15:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My wife, about 3 years ago, met another guy online and (she says) started innocently talking with him saying that they only talked about things like antiques, art, house decorating, etc... But she never told me about this guy until I found out a little over 2 years ago. She said she wouldn't contact him any more.

Ok, so now about 6 months ago I jumped on our computer and she had forgotten to log out of her email... I know I shouldn't have looked, but I did anyway. She was still emailing him and worse yet, had even secretly met him in person several times.

I confronted her with this and she was ADAMANT that nothing physical happened between them and that she hadn't cheated. The problem is that in an email this guy sent to her after one of their meetings, he said that he wishes that he could wrap his arms around her and wake up to her lying next to him. There was more of that kind of intimate talk in other emails too.

I can't seem to let this go. Any advice?

2007-11-27 07:09:40 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ask questions that dont even make sense like whats you favorite ice cream flavor or why do dogs have eyes. im just asking has any body noticed.i was wondering cuz nobody seemed to notice.

2007-11-27 07:07:43 · 20 answers · asked by drough 1 in Singles & Dating

Husband and wife are getting all snugly in bed. The passion is heating up.

But then the wife stops and says, "I don' t feel like it. I just want you to hold me."

The husband says " WHAT???" The wife explains that he must not be in tune with her emotional needs as a woman.

The husband realizes that nothing is going to happen tonight and he might as well deal with it.

So the next day the husband takes her shopping at a big dept. store. He walks around and had her try on three very expensive outfits. And then tells his wife, We 'll take all three of them. Then goes over and gets matching shoes worth $200 each.

And then goes to the jewelry Dept. and gets a set of diamond earrings. The wife is so excited (she thinks her husband has flipped out, but she does not care). She goes for the tennis bracelet.

The husband says "but you don 't even play tennis, but OK if you like it then lets get it.'

The wife is jumping up and down. So excited she cannot even believe what is going on. She says " I am ready to go, lets go to the cash register. "

The husband says, " no no no, honey we're not going to buy all this stuff." The wife face goes blank.

" No honey - I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while."

Her face gets really red she is about to explode and then the husband says " You must not be in tune with my financial needs as a MAN!"

2007-11-27 07:07:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance proposed this weekend and we are both very happy. We have been together for 2 1/2 years and plan to marry 2 years from now (I would like a fall/winter wedding). My parents know my fiance very well and like him as a person. However, they are very reserved people and aren't the type to "jump for joy" at news like this. Even though I am 24 and he is 27, they are going to think we are too young.

I am just hoping for some suggestions of how to word the news. Thanks!

2007-11-27 07:06:43 · 44 answers · asked by Mrs. Bethy O. 4 in Weddings

Would the satisfaction of knowing your were true to your marriage vows and remained faithful (even through rough periods in the marriage) be more important than the regret of missing an opportunity to experience the pleasure of making love with a person other than your spouse?

In other words, would the regret of being unfaithful be worse than the regret of refusing yourself the possible connection with someone else?

2007-11-27 07:05:35 · 49 answers · asked by Salinger 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I can think of a million things he would like, but they are all pretty expensive.

he is a smart guy who love to read, so I have already got him a book that I know he'll love. We are short on cash this year. What do you recommend? I can do anywhere up to another 40$ probably.

2007-11-27 07:01:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't want to do family photos or picture frames, I don't want to give her lotions or bath and body, absolutely no giftcards (she gets them all the time), no pampering at the spa (she's not into that)...I'm stuck! She's the last person to buy for and I have no clue.

2007-11-27 07:00:47 · 26 answers · asked by Gretchen M 2 in Family

If you're not ready for a relationship what's the point of telling someone you have feelings for them and keep
pusuing them in a way where it cleary shows that you want to be with them????????? I'm referring to the other person not being ready for a relationship but telling me he has feelings for me.The reason why this relationship thing can't work is because he's in the military and travels alot. I'm not really into the whole long distance thing either but he shouldn't get my hopes up and make me think he wants more it's just little things. When we talk on the phone he'll tell me that he can't wait to kiss me and calls me little pet names as if I was his girl. I'm 21 and he's 28 I thought he would be pass the whole playing games mess.

2007-11-27 06:59:54 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have a small child who we both adore. We are seeking counseling. Over the past 3 months it has gotten bad. She has been texting a guy she swears is a friend ober 300 times and sees nothing wrong with it. I feel as if she's filling a void emotionally allowing her not to focus on us. She also spends most of her time,emails, and texts talking to 3 of her friends (one who is going through divorce #2, one who is filing #1, and one who just remarried #2) keep in mind we are all only 33 years old. But she says that they have ZERO impact on her decisions. I am no saint, I have never cheated, and I am not accusing her of it, but I want to work things out so badly and she's closing the door. Our duaghter is the most important thing, and my wife tells me it's better to divorce when they are younger (I vehememtly disagree). I am willing to sacrifice some happiness for the sake of my daughter world being rocked. Any help or thoughts please.

2007-11-27 06:58:12 · 29 answers · asked by MG 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm just curious because it seems like there are some girls that would only date guys with darker hair and that are taller because they think it's more masculine. I'm not saying all girls but It seems like quite a bit. I mean don't get me wrong I do have dark brown hair and I'm tall but I don't think little things like that should matter in a relationship.

PS- I actually originally have dark blonde/light brown hair in case anyone was wondering.

2007-11-27 06:57:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

the truth is she was always smarter than me. always stronger, and always more outgoing. she was untouchable. she won a beauty pagent. and she also had a ruthless side. a queen with power that could cut your head off. but for the most part it did not come to that. truth is i probably only had her under the circumstances. i worked so hard for four years and finally i was ready, and i won the girl of my dreams. but then it fell apart as it always does for me. and now here i am. years later. she cut my head off. left me for dead and so here i sit. like a stone. stuck in the mud. for all eternity. peace.

2007-11-27 06:56:56 · 22 answers · asked by steveo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a married bisexual and my husband accepts me for who I am. He knew this before we got married. I also have a long term partner (4.5 years) who's recently given me a ring. She said she accepts my circumstance and that I'm the only person she's ever loved this much and wants to stay committed to me. My husband has no problem with it and thinks it's sweet. He wants to throw a party for us. My husband is not involved with her in any way by the way other than through me by the way, just want to make that clear. I love her to death but part me thinks this is not fair to her since I only get to spend so many nights in a week with her. She's a very busy professional woman and right now this works for her, but I don't if this will be ideal in the long term. What should I do?

2007-11-27 06:55:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce