Family & Relationships - 27 November 2007

i know im not depressed but im very sad right now.

i havnt been that nice to my friends lately, so i can be more loyal and a better person to my girlfriend. but a couple days ago she ditched me. so i tried calling her, and she hit the ignore button on her cell phone 3 times. then she turned off her cell phone.
she says shes sorry, but she refuses to explain why. i try and accpet the apology, but its gonna take me a few days to fully get over it inside of me. i forgive her, its just part of me inside still is sad about it.

and today i just found out that my uncle has only a month or so to live. i called my girlfriend and she cheered me up. then she said she had to go, but i later figured out she lied. she just stayed at home but decided to go onto instant messaging and chat with her friends, but she blocked me so i couldnt kno.

im really really sad. i considered killing myself, but im not going to. please help me not be sad

2007-11-27 09:14:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

the problem is that my ex bf father of my kids his family still likes me the kids 4 of them call me auntie my ex's sister likes me to vist her the mom talks to me the brother and dad as well i went to their house with my kids on thanksgiving and had dinner with them the problem is that my bf says that its not right to be going over their house and spending time with them he said it's ok to let my kids see them but for me not to visit them.. should i listen to my bf or should i not???

2007-11-27 09:14:56 · 14 answers · asked by valrietorres 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've fingered girls before, and I've given them orgasms. But I have no idea exactly how to find the clitoris or how to know if I'm rubbing it. All I know is it's supposedly some ball near the top of the vagina?

2007-11-27 09:13:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am in the middle of a nasty divorce and I have asked my parents and my four brothers on more than one occastion to stop inviting my soon to be ex-husband and his mother to family functions. They still are doing this. Actually this past weekend 2 of my brothers actually called him to hang out with him and have all the kids get together and my parents actually took my ex mother in law out to dinner. This is a man that cheated on me as well as laid his hands on me. I guess I feel like my family doesn't care about how I feel about this at all.

I feel like telling them I will not be at the annual Christmas dinner with the family this year. I feel this way because I don't feel like my family cares about me at all. What do you think?

2007-11-27 09:13:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-27 09:10:33 · 7 answers · asked by Man About to Marry 1 in Marriage & Divorce

im 17 and i recently found out on my own that my dad isnt really my dad and my mom lied abotu her age when she got pregnant. i wanna know my dads name so bad but she refuses to say anything and says that my dad is my dad. but there is soo many facts that prove it wrong, which explains why she hid my birth certificate. i need to know! please anyone outthere know of any nonprofit ways to find my father with out my mom knowing im searching? HELP PLEASE her name is melissa wright from fox island

2007-11-27 09:08:46 · 6 answers · asked by megan 1 in Family

Picture this at a party:

Husband and wife with 2 kids, 14 and 11... the husband is flirting and kissing his best friend's wife in front of his wife... he is also holding her hand, arms around her, and touches her boobs, including in front of his kids at times. His wife is not particularly reacting to this, and neither is his best friend... what do you conclude from this?

However, if you ask the wife what she thinks of her husband kissing and spending a ridiculous amount of time with this other woman she dismisses it, and says it's nothing...

What do you think? I can't get my head around it... would you think this is an affair?

2007-11-27 09:07:00 · 22 answers · asked by lil_els2000 4 in Marriage & Divorce

so this guy, my parents and family dont know about because he's black and my parents are pretty racist, apparantley, my ex is too...he left a box on my door with everything we ever did together or anything i ever gave him in it and a note that says "Heres your S*** back you N***** loving B****" he had always said he loved me but we broke up for some reason or another about 3 times. I never really said i loved him back, because i was afraid of getting hurt. I absolutely adore my new boyfriend, but he's very touchy-feely, which im not...and i find myself missing my ex so much, ive finally relized that i do love him...i went over to his house to tell him and his gf was there (my old friend) and he wouldnt talk to me, he wont take my calls, and he somehow thinks this is all my fault. Im not sure what to do..im happy with this new guy, but all i can do is think of my ex when im with him, and i think he may just want sex (which will not happen).What do i do about the entire situation?please!

2007-11-27 09:06:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just talk to a female for months and finally when she gives in you stop calling.
Have anyone gone thru? Please tell me what is your reason for doing this. Just wondering.

2007-11-27 09:06:18 · 7 answers · asked by ♥Miss Self-Sufficient 5 in Singles & Dating

i was never popular in school because my family isnt rich.my mom and i live in a 1 story house.with 2 bedroms and Ext.just once i want a friend in my life

2007-11-27 09:05:59 · 53 answers · asked by meagan 1 in Friends

I've been married 9yrs. We have two beautiful young children. I just found out that my husband cheated on me when he was serving our country in Iraq. He didn't tell me, I found out through a missed placed email. She is still in Iraq and they had been emailing each other for the past few months. Now I question what I should do. Leave him and start over. That famous saying " Once a cheater....." goes through my head. Or try and work things out. He says he loves me and wants to work on our marriage. That she meant nothing to him. (but isn't what they all say) I also have my kids to think about. Please any advice would be welcome. I so very confused right now.

2007-11-27 09:05:16 · 17 answers · asked by MaeLynn 1 in Marriage & Divorce

after 20 years you discover that your parents are not your real parents .
i cant imagine ...

2007-11-27 09:04:23 · 34 answers · asked by ink 2 in Family

OK, my fiance bought me an engagement ring. Dont get me wrong, it is pretty but it is not the one I wanted. It has the same size diamonds and same total weight but the setting is different. He paid the same amount on the one he bought as the one I wanted. I dont know why he just didnt get me the one I wanted! Again, same size diamonds almost the same setting. I like prong set and he got me channel set, what I said I didnt like, why are men like this? Was he not listening or what?

2007-11-27 09:03:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

ok.im a 16 yr old male who likes another girl in my class(diffrent race if it matters)anyway ive known her 4 bout 2 yrs but she never really started tlkin 2 me till this year.out of no where she just started talking to me and flirting.heres everythin she does:she looks at me from across the room occasionaly(we catch each other and look away),tlks/follows me 4 a bit after class,once wrote that she loved me on a peice of paper(might of been a joke though),likes to compete with me(test and grades),once asked me 4 money,whenver i tlk 2 her she smiles and sum other stuff i cant remeber.anyway this girl is BEAUTIFUL!!i mean every guy in skoo is after her.i would grade her a perfect 10!i just find it hard to belive that this super hot and popular girl likes me or would ever want to go out wit me.so do yous think these are signs that she likes me and i should try 2 ask her out?if so how would i ask her out?i want 2 keep it casual. like maybe do somethin after skool or watever.anyway plz help!!

2007-11-27 09:02:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He used to be able to, but now when I try to snuggle up he just pushes me away or says something like " I'm reading."

It's been five years and I have cobwebs!

Serious advice only please.

He is 60 and I am 55 and still consider myself vital. Oh, and we've tried counseling but he never would do any of the assignments. He doesn't want to talk about it either.

2007-11-27 09:02:16 · 16 answers · asked by Cid Young 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i like this boy in my class, i told my friend who knows him n she asked if i he wud go out with me n he said yeah probably.
but today in class when he was there i just couldnt talk to him, i was sooooo nervous so i tried to make him laugh and i caught his eye 2 times when he was laughing and he smiled.
i like him so much but i dont know what to do.
flirting tips anyone?
thanks

2007-11-27 09:02:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We met like 2 years ago after chatting on yahoo for a while.
He seemed too frisky the first time we met so I didn't call him
back or get on messanger anymore.

The other day I got online for a second and he messaged me.
He said that he had been looking for me these past 2 years and has tried dcalling me old numb. I didn't believe him so I asked him what my old number was, he got it right.

I hung out with him the other day and he said while he was being all touchy feely before, that he did like me and there were more sides to him. He kept talking about all the ways he searched for me online and e-mailed me periodically.

Yet again he started and I left him hanging.

He hasn't text me in past few days. I asked him how he was doing and he said he had fun but he felt stupid. I asked why and he said that "You know why"

Should I give him a chance?
Is he just after me for play? I didn't do much with him but I am generally more conservative than that.

2007-11-27 09:02:01 · 11 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2 in Singles & Dating

I was drunk with some friends,
and my friend's girlfriends said,
"You look like you could be gay."
I asked, "Why"?
She said, "Cause you are good looking, and usually guys who look like you are gay, like so and so... who are so hot..."
WTF
Is her statement even valid; is this normally true, like she said?

2007-11-27 09:00:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay my parents are getting divorcid.....me and my dad had a really good relationship....until he started drinking.....all he dose is passout on the couch and i have to watch my littel sis.....My mom she is a clean freak........alll this stuff has split my family apart......ever since they have got divorced just one littel thing to make me upset would make me yell and cry and just go carzy...It's like i am getting angry and the nezt thing i now i have hit my sis in the face.....My mom thanks there is something wronge with me and I should do something....I don't no who to trust....wat do you think.....i am relly woried one day someone might end up dead plz help

2007-11-27 09:00:49 · 8 answers · asked by Natasha S 1 in Family

2007-11-27 09:00:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

When was the last time your parents saw you naked? How old were you and had you started puberty ???? My cousin showed his mom and dad his pubic hair when he first started growing it, and he showed my parents as well!!! (his aunt and uncle) just wondering if anyone else wasn't shy about this.....its kinda strange

2007-11-27 09:00:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-11-27 09:00:10 · 2 answers · asked by Echo 52 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I apologize for it seems I am asking the same questions but i dont know where else to get advice. Well my wife seperated and took the kids. She says she doesnt want a divorce but leased an apartment 6 months. she calls me few times a day and we see eachother daily in the last few days for a short while. even though its only been a week i taking hard. It doesnt seem to hurt her as much maybe because she has the kids but she says the reason is that she knows in her heart this is going to make us have a stronger marriage. She talks to me over the phone like if we were still together. I catch myself waiting by the phone. Should I still talk to her the same? She still asking me to help her find another job. should I? Should I give her separation papers or will this push her away. It seems like were seperating but she still wants the benifits of having a supportive spouse. I want to believe her when she says we will be a family again but statistics say this is the begining of the end.

2007-11-27 09:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-27 09:00:02 · 23 answers · asked by killerqueen 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I really made a stupid mistake. I totally forgot my first anniversary. It was not intentional by no means. But, she sees it as me not wanting to be with her any longer & doom for our marriage. I love her very much and have absolutely no intention of splitting up. So, as some background to the situation, here is what I am dealing with. My wife is pregnant with our first child. I have been working overtime at my day job and picked up a second job as a waiter to make some extra cash to pay off some bills that I have before the baby comes. I have been very worried about money as she will not be able to work very much after the baby arrives and it now looks like my day job company is on the rocks and may not last 3 months. I am totally stressing being a first time dad and wanting to be the bread winner. I have not told her about the job so as not to worry her more. But, I am totally in the doghouse and don't know how to right my wrong. I lost sight of the forest for the trees.

2007-11-27 08:59:52 · 49 answers · asked by Tim 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She's been very critical,verbally abusive, and emotionally, always sided with her husbands. Sent me to mental hospitals, ex i came home drunk one day she called the cops about 5 cops were in my house. She's never believed in me said i would be a looser like my dad. But i have proved her wrong ..but she still treats me like im a step child. Tells me that my(half) lil sister will never be like me. She treats my sister totally different. but on the other hand when i have been in really bad sistuations like when i ran away with an abusive boyfriend she picked me up. And she still is very negative with me...always but doubts in my head about my fiance etc.

She's hurt me so much pple...but i still talk to her because she also has helped me when i've needed her the most & b/c my grandma lives with her. What do ya'll think of this? I'm now a mother of a 3 month old and i can't ever imagine doing this to my son.

2007-11-27 08:59:48 · 7 answers · asked by Tica 2 in Family

If a couple who is getting married in a church, stands there before a minister and takes an oath of lifetime marriage in their "House of God", if you will, wouldn't it seem that if that couple gets divorced or separated, that they are breaking the oath to their god and religion? Isn't that an insult to your own faith?

Perhaps most people should be married in a court room rather than in a church if they don't really take their marriage vows and oath to each other and their god seriously or maybe think twice about getting married in the first place.

2007-11-27 08:58:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This is a lil note I left my girlfriend in her locker. She won't get it until tomorrow morning so I was wondering what some of you other girls would think if you received it. We've been together eight months.



Hey baby, I know I tell you that I love you a lot, but I just want you to know that I do because I care about you and I wanna keep taking care of you. These last eight months have been amazing. The time we spend together is something I wouldn't trade for anything anyone could offer me. I'm not good with words and stuff because the way you make me feel is hard to explain. I guess it's like when I'm with you I have this sense of feeling that everything is just the way it should be and it feels so good. You make me feel strong and proud. I'm sure that you're the best thing in my life. I can't wait to see you and that beautiful smile tomorrow. I love you, babygirl.

2007-11-27 08:58:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I got a VERY good Christmas bonus. I did all my Christmas shopping for my family, took care of some things that I needed to catch up on, and put back enough to keep my head above water when my husband gets laid off next month (He always has a 3 week lay of fin January). I have 2 kids. I'm in college. I work two days a week, have classes 3 days a week, and between homework, work I bring home FROM work, being a mom, and taking care of the household stuff, it seems like I never do anything for myself. On top of that, I've been helping my father pay off my mother's funeral expense- we lost her in May and my Dad is on Social Security and needed financial help with that. So today, I took some of my Christmas bonus money and spent it on ME- things I've wanted for months but put off getting because other people needed things first- and now I feel guilty. Was it wrong of me to do this?

2007-11-27 08:57:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-27 08:57:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating