so this guy, my parents and family dont know about because he's black and my parents are pretty racist, apparantley, my ex is too...he left a box on my door with everything we ever did together or anything i ever gave him in it and a note that says "Heres your S*** back you N***** loving B****" he had always said he loved me but we broke up for some reason or another about 3 times. I never really said i loved him back, because i was afraid of getting hurt. I absolutely adore my new boyfriend, but he's very touchy-feely, which im not...and i find myself missing my ex so much, ive finally relized that i do love him...i went over to his house to tell him and his gf was there (my old friend) and he wouldnt talk to me, he wont take my calls, and he somehow thinks this is all my fault. Im not sure what to do..im happy with this new guy, but all i can do is think of my ex when im with him, and i think he may just want sex (which will not happen).What do i do about the entire situation?please!
2007-11-27 09:06:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well. Obviously by reading this i can tell you love him very much and your caught between him and your new boyfriend. What you shuld really take into consideration is thier opinions. is your old boyfrend happy with his new one? and does YOUR new boyfrend really love you. just think. dont worry, just sit down and think over the situation. It seems like your family and your ex dont really get along well. In the long run that could hurt your family. Think about it. Do you love your ex enuff to possibly ruin ur family? if i was in your position, even tho its hard to hear, i wuld just let go of your ex. try things out with ur new bf for a while. give it some time. even if things dont work out with the bf u hav right now, theres always more guys, and im sure youll eventually find the right one for u/.
2007-11-27 09:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by ktrubs<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON. Life if too short to sweat so much over guys. Even though it is easy for me to say, if your guy dug you one he would never ever talk to you like that, and to he wouldn't have moved on already. Do you ever think you want him back because you can't have him? If you are not over your old boyfriend, look at all of the pros and cons, do you really want some guy that calls you the b-bomb? No. Relax and take it easy. I am sure your a great catch. Your new boyfriend might have a different skin color, but that is it. Breathe child all is well. Keep saying that until it is your reality.
2007-11-27 09:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Karmin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not really fair to any of u. if u get back w/ the ex(who did not treat u right after the break up) u will continue having fights and it will end up the same. if u stay w/ the current boy friend u dont have to have sex w/ him if he cant except that then he isnt the right guy for u and u want the best so dont settle and ur friend would be really hurt also. Maybe this guy not returning ur call is a sign for not getting back w/ him.
2007-11-27 09:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET your old boyfriend, for one thing - he is a racist pig. Your present guy, as nice as he may be, is not getting your "all" - and I'm not talking about sex, but your emotional presence - which is with your ex....so do not waste any more of his time. You both deseve to be free to pursue other options.
It is over & done with as far as your ex is concerned. Feel sorry - very sorry - for the woman that is with him now -since she is the one who is now stuck with him. Find a way to feel happy that you are free of such a creep.
Sorry, but anyone who uses the kind of language has has the type of sentiments towards others that your ex has is NOT worth your precious time.
2007-11-27 09:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about that racist *****! If he would dump you because of what you did before..that is just wrong and he didn't love you! Just make it known that you don't love him and you want nothing to do with his dumb ***...if he can't see past the color of skin the fawk him. And you need to make sure your new boyfriend isn't in it just for sex. Some guys are just touchy feely w/o wanting sex, you never know. Talk to him about it.....
2007-11-27 09:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by BunnyBottomBoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if you dont like the guy your with right now...break it off with him. let him find someone who will love him back. And as for you, I dont think you should even get back with your ex. From what your saying its not going to be pretty, andd your ex doesnt want you anymore. He is with your old friend.....I think you need some time to think and to move on with your life.
2007-11-27 09:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pardon me, but your ex sounds like an absolute @$$hole. Count your blessings that you're free of him. If you're not content with your current bf, it's only fair to let him go so that he can find someone who is happy with him.
But don't spend your time mourning the loss of that other guy -- he clearly is not worth it!
2007-11-27 09:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.. you've alienated the old BF, so you can't go back..
The new BF may just want sex, so if you don't comply he will leave too---
At that point, you can cry, and contemplate life.
Then you will pull yourself together, and go looking for #3
We've all been there, done that...
2007-11-27 09:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem here is you, you need to change your life for the better leave both of them and find a non racist boyfriend who you are comfortable loving and loves you
2007-11-27 09:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by mario m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are ready to get in another relationship right now. give yourself more time and forget about your racist ex and your racist parents. make yourself happy
2007-11-27 09:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋