I'm in my 40s but look much younger, like early 30s....slim and fit. Lots of guys in their mid 20s ask me out and to be honest, I usually refuse as I wonder if it is a 'sex experience' for them rather than looking for love. Guys in your 20s, please tell me, can you really be serious about a woman in her mid 40s? Say you get on really well with her? Is it just to sleep with her and then look for a younger girl later on to have children with?
2007-11-27 07:23:39 · 18 answers · asked by this girl wants to know 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Chances are they find you attractive...And who's to say if any relationship will work out coming from a bar, regardless of age.
Give them a shot if you click with them...who cares about age.
2007-11-27 07:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your a very intelligent lady and your assumptions are correct you fall into the bracket of the cougar search. Mystery of the older woman and all that but after that is gone the guy will settle down with someone that they can have a family with meaning someone around the samne age or younger then they are. I nactually fell for a older woman myself but it is only a five year difference. I was 23 and she was 28. There may be that one guy that has chosen not to have a kids and enjoys the older woman status that someone of your age could bring them.
Maybe you just have to be upfront with these guys and find out what they want tell them your interested in a relationship not a fling. I think the older woman has alot of mystery and well intrigue that some men are well seduced by.
2007-11-27 07:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy in my 20s (sorry that I'm answering), but I can share my experiences. I'm 30 and my pseudohusband is 25. We started dating when he was 22 and I was 27 (yeah, I look younger too). Everything was great in the beginning. Eventually when the passion wears off, you start to realize that you really are from different generations, and you really are different people. His friends are his age or younger. My friends are my age or older. If you're in your mid 40's, I'd say it nice to spend time with a 20 year old, but not so good for a lasting relationship.
2007-11-27 07:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by ron-D 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Better ask older guys who have been one and had friends in their 20s and now look at things better as a whole thing. In no way a guy in his 20s is going to take seriously a woman in her 40s other than "for the experience", or "for the records", to "make a memory" for when he finds the right one later. It's just to "pass time". Unless you find a guy who has low self esteem and can't find someone better, and will try to hide you from his friends, if he has any. All you will do is to bring your self esteem even lower than what it is now, for what it seems to be, is VERY low, your standards should be much higher than that, regardless if you find or not someone. Hanging out with a 20x, will only make you feel less and less and wont help it. Start by giving some value to yourself, before someone will appreciate you for what you worth. If I were in my 40s I wouldn't date someone of my age that can coexist/hang out, or have fun with guys that barely finished college (if they have finished) and are just so many stages in life behind. Love yourself more, if you do, the guys you will accept or come to your your life will change accordingly.
2007-11-27 07:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) Not everybody wants kids!
2) Girls in their early twenties are practically children, and women in their late twenties want a ring and a guy to pay all their bills. Women in their 40's want us for us - companionship, sex (yes it's important!!), romance, love, etc.
3) Women peak sexually in their 30's and 40's, men peak in their twenties. Makes perfect sense. Initiate it if you want! We love it too!!
4) Maturity, common sense, self-confidence, and self-sufficiency are very sexy. Immaturity, follishness, weakness, and utter dependency are big big turnoffs.
5) A trim, sexy, happy, fit forty year old; or a chubby, depressed, miserable girl just out of undergrad? Hmmm... I know what I'd want. A partner, not a daughter or a student.
6) Sanity & stability tend to increase with age - most men think most women are crazy as bats. We love you, and we by and large respect you, but most of you ladies are batsh1t crazy. Except when you hit about 37-38 - then you often attain something regarding sanity. This is exceptionally sexy!!
7) It's nice to have someone who doesn't expect us to pay for everything. A $$ split of 60-40% or 70-30% is sexy.
When we have to always pay for 80-90% of everything, it makes us wonder what you "love" us for - us, or our career. A woman with a similar amount of cash isn't trying to bleed us dry - and more importantly, likes us for us.
8) A woman who looks great at 40 will likely still look good at 60!! A slob at twenty five will stay that way till her dying day, most likely.
9) Men like kids, but they like sex more. Plus you can adopt or do fertility stuff. We love you for far, far more than your breeding/maternal abilities.
10) Knowledge, wisdom, and experience are sexier than ignorance, foolishness, and naivete.
2007-11-27 09:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
40's is right on the edge of what I call the viagra trip. Viagra was made for women, not men. I am in my 60's and I don't need viagra with 25 year old girls, as with older women.. Younger guys do not have this problem, they just stick it anywhere, so enjoy it while you can..
You will be in your 50's before you know it, and my advise, at this stage of your life, would be for you to form a relationship around someone around your age. They just might be there when you get 60.
2007-11-27 08:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not in my 20's anymore, but I can tell you that you are, for the most part, correct about it. The thought of being with an older woman is empowering. But after a while, if a guy starts thinking about settling down, he is going to want to do so with someone in his age bracket. While guys in their 20's may be more fun, the flip side is they are less inclined to know themselves and be more untrustworthy in a relationship.
2007-11-27 07:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Avatar 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Mostly, guys in their twenties want to date sexy women. Why should they be pressured into expecting an outcome of commitment before they date? Just have fun and see what happens. You'll increase your chances of finding a good man if you simply date who you like and don't have expectations. When you meet a good one the chemistry will happen. If you sleep with a few in the meantime, is that such a bad thing?
2007-11-27 07:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some of them actually think there serious about a relationship. They are 20 and just really don't know.
2007-11-27 08:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by troubled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG in a girl age 33 and quite a few younger guys have asked me... i'd also like to know!!!
2007-11-27 07:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by little miss lovely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋