Father use to do drugs now he's clean for two years how do u get along with a father like that he's bipolar he takes pills that control his mood he stopped taking them & he flares @ the whole family for no reason so what do i do?
2007-11-27 07:32:00 · 18 answers · asked by Libra86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, tell him that you don't like his behavior when he does that and why (such as "it scares me" "it makes me feel like you're angry at me" or "it makes me feel like you hate me". If that doesn't help, when he flares up, just stand up and say, "Dad, I love you but not when you act like this. Please stop!" You don't say if he's violent so I hate to advise you to leave the room or anything more. I know some are violent and will chase you and attack you and all. In that case, I hope your Mom will stand up and tell him to leave. That's about all I can suggest. Maybe talk to his counselor or someone at Al-Anon. They are the very best sources of help and advice for these situations. Good luck.
2007-11-27 07:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by devilicious_woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a professional but have had a little experience with this problem. What seem to work the best was to remove my self from the situation when it occurred. Then during a quiet moment let him know how proud of him you are and explain that it is upsetting when the "flare ups" occur. Leave it at that for now. If they continue then suggest that he go back to the doctor because what is happening is not normal. And pray your little behind off that God will send a blessing from heaven and heal him.
2007-11-27 07:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by dvdnedbalek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drug uses are happening in personality changes in the individual, that remain constant after withdrawal.
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People often develop multiple personalities.
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2007-11-27 07:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, understanding and support him. I know from my parents both were alcoholics til they died. It was aweful for me as a child to clean up their messes and pretend we had a happy family live.
Nevertheless, he should not stop taking his meds. Make an appointment with the physician who gave him the meds. Perhaps your dad is having side effects and perhaps that's why he does not feel like taking them. There are good drugs out there like Effexor and other meds. I would make an appointment also with a therapist. I think your dad has extra stress i n his life. Just be patient. I am an retired Social Worker.
2007-11-27 07:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by angelikabertrand64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to realize that your dad did a really huge thing for himself by quitting drugs and give him a little credit for that. It's also very hard to deal with bipolar disorder. You've got to put yourself in his shoes and understand that he's not trying to be a big pen*s on purpose, he has a bunch of screwed up stuff goin on inside him. Try to talk to him more when he's not in those moods and maybe it will bring the two of you closer together where you can overlook the times where he loses it.
2007-11-27 07:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Bit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you scared of him? My friends dad was like that and when he would lose control she would stay at my house. It was very hard for her, and i'm sure its hard for you to have a father like that. Is he not taking his pills all the time, or what is it? Its going to take sometime for him to be in a normal mood. If you want to talk about this more than you can email me.
2007-11-27 07:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by ilovecali00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! There should not be a loss of life penalty for drug purchasers or sellers. Is there one for cigarette addicts or alcoholics? Why do you think of pot people who smoke are morally bankrupting this u . s . a . and what info do you have that they're? Pot is only yet another intoxicant and between the main secure time-honored to humankind. this is been used for 1000's of years all worldwide. Marijuana enables those with scientific problems like glaucoma, AIDS dropping, nausea from chemotherapy, muscle spasms, etc... there's a place for marijuana. Marijuana isn't bodily addictive like opiates, benzos or barbs. don't think the anti-marijuana propaganda. in case you do no longer desire to apply it, do no longer. yet do no longer you think of that killing people is worse than marijuana? do no longer you value life?
2016-11-12 22:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his addiction has shifted from illegal drugs to pills, which is why he flared up like he did(withdrawl from pills). Which means he hasn't really recovered, just changed drugs. He needs to quit drugs all together. Are you an adult? If so, you can tell him he needs to quit everything. If you are a minor, see if you can stay with a relative or contact Child Protective Services.
2007-11-27 07:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though he may be sober, there are many issues that are difficult to face without some guidance. You dont say how old you are, but consider either alanon or alateen to get support, and to find out what it is he is going through and how you can get through the tough times.
2007-11-27 07:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by MrNeutral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is on the correct medication, talk straight and let him know how good it is to be around him at that time. Let him know how it upsets you when he goes off his medication. Be prepared for it not to matter. If your father does not care enough about his relationship with you to stay in good condition then you must move on with your life without worrying about him. Everyone is responsible for their own life, you have no obligation to put yours in the toilet for another.
2007-11-27 07:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋