My fiance proposed this weekend and we are both very happy. We have been together for 2 1/2 years and plan to marry 2 years from now (I would like a fall/winter wedding). My parents know my fiance very well and like him as a person. However, they are very reserved people and aren't the type to "jump for joy" at news like this. Even though I am 24 and he is 27, they are going to think we are too young.
I am just hoping for some suggestions of how to word the news. Thanks!
2007-11-27 07:06:43 · 44 answers · asked by Mrs. Bethy O. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I want to tell my parents this Sunday, it will be the 1st time I can see them in person. Unfortunately Fiance can't come along, he has to work. So it's going to be me by myself. I think my parents would prefer that anyway.
Okay, I really don't need to be told to "be an adult." Thanks.
To everyone else: What nice responses! Thanks!
2007-11-27 07:16:09 · update #1
*L* Some of your responses are hilarious! It has helped take some of the edge off!
2007-11-27 07:18:47 · update #2
I suggest you simply tell them together. If they have issues, then you need to politely tell them.
We are adults who have made this decision after considering all the factors. We hope that you support us in this descision and look forward to our life together in this newly combined family.
If they have issues and express them, the appropriate response would be.
We appreciate your opinions and concerns and we respect them. Likewise we ask that you respect and honor our decision as well.
Then, you just have to let the chips fall were they may. Remember there is no law that says they have to pay for the wedding nor offer anytype of financial support. Therefore if you are relying on either of this be aware that it may not be there.
Good luck and Congrats!
2007-11-27 07:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by wrkey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations. Second - don't worry too much about this whole "telling your parents" thing. From what you've said in your question, it doesn't sound like they would have much of a problem with your engagement. They know and like your fiancé, you guys have been together for a while, and you're happy - these are some of the most important hurdles, which (it seems) have already been overcome. The rest is easy. Just tell them something like "mom, dad, I have great news...
2007-11-27 07:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just take them for a nice meal and gently explain to them that youand your partner have been together for a while now and you both feel the time is right to settle down and make a proper committment to each other,so would like their blessing and approval on getting engaged as their thoughts and feelings are very important to you both.as for being to young,no way,my son and fiancee got engaged 2yrs ago aged 17 and 16 they are still engaged now and very happy together,even though a wedding is some way off yet,age is not a factor.good luck and have a great life together also a winter wedding would be stunning.
2007-11-27 07:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by alison h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You simply tell them. Even if they aren't the jumping for joy type, that doesn't mean they'd be unhappy. Personally, I think this is the type of news that should be joyful to deliver. You're an adult, it isn't as if you're 16 years old. Yuo say mom, dad, Jimmy and I are getting married! He proposed last weekend, and I said YES!
2007-11-27 07:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is how my sister broke the news.
We were all sitting around the dinner table eating. My father had just told us a funny joke and we all laughed. Then there was silence while we chewed our food. My sister clears her throat and says....
"Sigh, well I have some good news and some bad news.
I recently dropped out of college. I just couldn't take it anymore. I fell in love with my art professor and we're going to be running away to Italy in two days...we have to be discrete because there's something about him on FBI's most wanted...it's just better that we don't tell anyone...I know how you guys wanted grandchildren, so uh, hope you're ready to throw a baby shower!"
My mom's face turned white and my dad choked on his wine. My dad says, "Well, ahem, honey what's the good news?"
My sister smiles and says, "Well, that was all a joke. But I am getting married though!"
It was HILARIOUS. Now my future bro-in-law has the nickname "Casanova" LOL.
Congrats to you :)
2007-11-27 07:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a little worried because you said your parents are reserved and yet your fiance didn't ask your father permission to have your hand in marriage. That's not good. He has already not shown full respect to your parents.
I don't think you need to say anything special - you are an adult right? Then just tell them that you are happy and want to spend the rest of your life with this man and you want them to be happy for you.
2007-11-27 07:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they are reserved, then you jumping up and down excited is probably not the way to go. Let them know that the two of you have decided to marry and that you are both really excited about it. Let them know that you have thought a lot about it and think it's the right thing for you. They are going to have their own views no matter what, just be as clear and concise as you can. Congratulations!
2007-11-27 07:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK so I won't say be an adult but if you are this concerned about your parents reaction maybe you do need to grow up a bit.
No need for cutsie poo games, just tell them that your fiance asked you to marry him and you said yes You plan to have a fall/winter wedding and you hope they will be very happy for you. That's all you need.
2007-11-27 07:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them that he has proposed to you in passing. I am sure they will know what that means. Getting married at 26 and 29 is not too soon. Get them involved in planning the wedding and they will likely try to help all they can. Just make sure you let them know its your decision this time and won't be dissuaded.
2007-11-27 07:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Runa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 24 you're old enough to be engaged. Just tell them! It's not like you've only been together 2 months.
Congratulations!!
2007-11-27 07:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋