Would the satisfaction of knowing your were true to your marriage vows and remained faithful (even through rough periods in the marriage) be more important than the regret of missing an opportunity to experience the pleasure of making love with a person other than your spouse?
In other words, would the regret of being unfaithful be worse than the regret of refusing yourself the possible connection with someone else?
2007-11-27 07:05:35 · 49 answers · asked by Salinger 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure it will make a difference on your death bed... But, if you made the mistake of straying from the commitments of your marriage and destroying the trust and respect of your spouse, AND if you held those values to be an important part of who you are... then your days between straying and dying may be filled with the guilt of your selfish actions. Marriage is bigger than those wants.
2007-11-27 07:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by NH_MCD 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It isn't about being faithful or unfaithful. It is about, at the end of your life, looking back and knowing that you were a good person over all. That you had morals and values and that you kept to them. It is about looking at the man in the mirror and liking who you see.
Do I think sometimes regret staying in a bad relationship? You betcha! Do they regret not getting out sooner, if they finally did? Sure! But the answer to a bad relationship or a rough marriage isn't about sleeping with someone else.
2007-11-27 07:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I Only Had
If I only had one more chance I'd take it all away
Now it's too late for on my death bed I lay
Was the price of life really worth the pay
There's so many things that could be a better way
If only I had thought things through I would have no regret
This time on my death bed is the last chance I get
Not to long after people will start to forget
As I take my last breath was it really worth it?
If only I had remained true I'd see you by my side
Instead you're waiting to celebrate the moment that I die
For at last the pain will end no longer will you have to cry
At last I've finally gotten the power to make your eyes dry
If only I could say what I really want you to hear
But not even those I cheated with have come near
At the end of this road of life looking in the rear-view mirror
For me my life's gone dark and gray, for you it's sunny and clear.
Ahhh....if only...do you want this to play on your mind when you die? If not, stay faithful to her. She deserves it.
2007-11-27 07:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Geek 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your underlying faith system. If you subscribe to the main faiths then your marriage is sacred, made before your God and so the resistance of temptation will bring it's own rewards. If you are at sea with faith, then the respect you have for your spouse should speak for itself. Your self respect should also advise you away from any dalliances as a marriage is hard work and quite an achievement in todays society.
2007-11-27 07:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the regret of knowing you were unfaithful would definately be huge bigger than thinking that you missed an opportunity. But if that is how you truely feel (that you missed an opportunity that you may regret) then perhaps you shouldn't be married or should not get married.
Marriage is a life long commiment.
2007-11-27 07:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
On my deathbed,
I would be the most happy with being with that one person through thick and thin.
Sex is fun but meaningless if there is no love and I knew I had caused someone I loved pain by my actions. It is not denying myself something in choosing to stay faithful with just one person it is actually enriching my life in knowing that I can give myself fully to one person and that I had the willpower to do so. Giving in to an urge is easy but to supress an urge shows a person that they are strong and in control of their own life.
2007-11-27 07:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On my deathbed, I would only regret the things I had not done. However, during my life I choose to not do certain things that may cause grief to the people I love and frustration or complication for me.
2007-11-27 07:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a bad start to our marriage. Neither of us were faithful and we separated. We got back together and have been faithful ever since. I am really proud of myself for being faithful for once in my life. We had tried getting pregnant before we separated and no luck. Not long after we got back together, we finally got pregnant. I am now 27 weeks along. I would not regret being faithful to my husband.
2007-11-27 07:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is always a tough question. For me I think not knowing if I had a better connection with another person would be harder. All marriages go through rough patches at times, but if I felt like I had exhausted every possible way to fix it I would try and move on.
2007-11-27 07:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Krystal G 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am 56 and have been faithful to all of my committments.
It has not done any good other than Not adding to our problems.
So we now have an open marriage where each of us is free to roam within this marriage. My spouse and I are no longer intimate because I hate him and he calls me a (unt all of the time.
We stay together for the medical insurance and the mutually held investments and assets.
If your spouse is agreeable , otherwise it will taint your character.
2007-11-27 07:12:51 · answer #10 · answered by momonster 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋