What type of relationship can you have with someone you dated & now they want to do there own thing?

Question

We dated. Soon after she said she wasn't ready to be in any type of relationship with anyone right now. She enjoyed being single way too much. We ended things ...I guess you can say on good terms. As friends. It's been awhile since we last spoke (I've recieved text msgs from her here & there ...no big deal) let alone hang out. She's doing her own thing now. She's also the kind of girl who doesn't know what she wants. I think that her & I did have something special. I still care about her. I do want to give her, her space. Let her breath. What if too much time goes by? I just don't know if that will eventually just fade me out completely out of the picture. What if she finds someone else? Should I call her? Will there ever be "us" again with a girl like this? How do they ever realize when there finally ready to be in a relationship? What makes them change there minds?

Answer 1

Wow, brother I wish I could tell you the way, but its not easy, and lets face it our society would be working against you. Besides that, the type of person she is, might not help it work. You could have an unconditional love relationship were you love each other UNCONDITIONAL, as oppose to the way it was before were you only loved each other when you were commited. But technically, this is going to happen anyways, HOW it goes, well thats up to the both of you..... and right now, neither one of you is really accepting, or talking about how you feel about each other, you can still lover her if she's screwing someone else right? Let her know that. You can still lover her, even know she's lost right? Let her know. You can love her even if she does something so stupid as get a drug addiction and get pragnat by serval different guys over the course of several years? Let her know. Because that would be unconditional love, if not, time to let it burn, time to move on.....