Family & Relationships - 25 November 2007

my ex is blackmailing me emotionally. he keeps saying he is going to commit suicide. I fell for it for 5 years. I talked him out of it every time - or maybe it was just a game to get my attention and to get his own way. Our relationship ended a month ago, and he is blaming me for his depression (even though he was depressed before we met (which he denied until 3 months into the relationship).I know I shouldn't be so weak. I can't be treated like dirt because he suffers from depression. my friends tell me he is bluffing and i should cut all ties. It's a bit of a gamble to take seeing as he has tried to commit suicide twice before (before we met). I found out recently he spent time in a mental institution. He has no (close) friends and no family. I am the closest to him, but i can't take it anymore. (it brings me down). I care about him yet i want to break free - but how would i feel if he did hang himself? i wish i'd never met him. i don't know what to do. what would you do?

2007-11-25 10:49:28 · 22 answers · asked by ♫●♥♪♦ Water Lizard ♫●♥♪♦ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've heard mixed reviews about spray tanning. I'd like to try it sometime before my wedding to see if it's an option for me. What experiece have you had with it?

Did you look orange?
Does it rub off on clothes?
Is it worth it?

2007-11-25 10:49:03 · 10 answers · asked by Why? 5 in Weddings

Ok as far as dating what race do you prefer the most white black hispanic or asian then tell me what gender and race you are then if you want tell me why thank you so much =)

2007-11-25 10:48:36 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

OK so.. I'm preparing a draft work choices agreement for my wife and I. We both work from home and the hours are really flexible .. we can be "around" when the kids arrive home from school.... and we spend more time together.

In terms of working conditions, what do you think is fair? For example... should the "quickie" be limited by time and or quantity.... or should it remain spontaneous?

Also, should tantrums be allowed in the workplace?

Do you have any other recommendations for this draft workplace agreement?

2007-11-25 10:48:20 · 10 answers · asked by Icy Gazpacho 6 in Marriage & Divorce

i called him and he said he was busy and i said i love you to him and i wait for him to say it he didnt it because there was people around?
what should i do?

2007-11-25 10:47:58 · 2 answers · asked by lovely 2 in Singles & Dating

I know all the what could be answers, and the right things to say to this senerio. But, it does not help me. I am a person of faith, but i guess i have not found peace there now either. I feel our family, grown childern, are fragmented, we cannot seem to get together any longer, without one or the others having drama in their lives, or in need.The details are to numerous and complicated, surfice to say, we have grandchildren that are having babies, our children raising there grandchildren due to poor parenting skills.Then there seems to be the dependency on us, we try to let them manage on there own as much as practical.Yet, when we have needs, not material, but emotional, like just visiting to say hi, or a call, it never comes.It hurts. They say were great and they love us, but there emotions don't seem to show it, when i try and explain, they seem to chalk it up to my older years...It makes me sad..

2007-11-25 10:45:59 · 10 answers · asked by do.drop 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Well, I am a sophomore in high school, I play the guitar and drums in a band and I am generally pretty popular because I am a nice guy who will help someone out. So, with the
stereotypes of high school comes the fact that the nice guy who helps others out ends up getting looked over.

So, honestly from the pictures below, am I attractive? I'm just asking, I don't really want any grief about insecurity and stuff because I know this isn't all that important right now.

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2007-11-25 10:45:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you first start out liking her and then the relationship develops from there and then you fall in love with her? How many months or years does it take for you to feel that way about someone?

2007-11-25 10:43:21 · 3 answers · asked by beauty&mind 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-25 10:43:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My man gave me a cheap engagement ring that cost less than $100. I'm so good, I deserve better. Should I make him get me a more expensive one?

2007-11-25 10:42:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He just told me "if you want to we can," so I took it like he didn't really want to. Is that the right interpretation?

2007-11-25 10:42:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My man gave me a cheap engagement ring that cost less than $100. I'm so good, I deserve better. Should I make him get me a more expensive one?

2007-11-25 10:42:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

are they rude? do they not care? or am i just being self-centered?

and when i refer to nobody, i'm referring to my parents my 'best friend', etc... it makes me feel bad when they don't ask! i feel like i don't matter. my parents don't always answer when i call, and it makes me feel like i'm a pain in the butt... but i only call them once a day. you'd think as my parents they could care enough to answer. my friend is another can of worms. aparently since i don't have kids i'm not 'worthy' enough of being her best friend anymore. she dismisses all of my suggestions to problems when she asks for advice, etc.... i'm just feeling like the world is pushing me away. what do i do? i try to not let it get me down, but i cant help it when i'm feeling alone and annoying.

2007-11-25 10:40:58 · 5 answers · asked by Natural Mom 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-25 10:40:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend poured her heart out 2 me. I didn't know that her & hubby were having so many issues. They both admit to being madly in love/soulmates, yet fight like cats & dogs. He was fed up after 3 years & attempted to kiss a massage therapist after a 2 hour back rub down. She rejected his attempts thank God for my friend, but ended up calling my friend to tell her what happened. When he got home he was ready to talk about it & poured out his heart to her about how her coldness to him in the marriage makes him feel like she doesn't love him and he was at a breaking point. Not wanting out of the marriage, just feeling like his wife has given up on him & him in turn letting all guards down to "manly" urges. They have 3 kids, 1 new born. Stress & financial issues are high in this home. They seem to truly be meant for one another, what can they do? He seems to be sincerely sorry but how can she know for sure? They are gonna go to there church for some counseling! :(

2007-11-25 10:38:26 · 11 answers · asked by S A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I really do since I've been hurt in the past many times and I stopped trusting people. I wish I can trust people outside of my family.

2007-11-25 10:37:28 · 15 answers · asked by Closed 5 in Friends

I'm 23, a law student, and fairly desirable, I would say (not to sound conceited, haha). My friends say I'm really attractive (5'5", long brown hair, brown eyes, 120lbs). My ex and I broke up about a month ago. It was fairly serious - we'd talked about marriage. Now, whenever I see happy couples, I feel sad and alone. A lot of my friends have gotten engaged recently, and as much as I want to be happy for them, I'm insanely jealous and can't help but feel bitter about the whole situation. I know I don't need a man to complete me, but it would be nice to have someone to love. I can't figure out why I'm not meeting the right guys, and why I'm not finding someone. How do I stop feeling so bitter about being single?

2007-11-25 10:34:58 · 9 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Marriage & Divorce

She doesnt want me to hold her hand in public only in private, she doesnt want me kissing her on the lips in public and in private. I can only kiss her on the side of the face in private not in public. So basically i cant do nothin to her in public like put my arm around her or hold her hand. Gee, what should i do. I mean i respect what she says but affection is an important part of a relationship and it doesent seem like that way at all. For example, we were walkin around the park and i held her hand she quickly jerks away just cause she seem people on the other side of the field. Geee she was goning out with her ex for 6 yrs. and it was also like this. I cant imagine myself doing that. I need some feed back here

2007-11-25 10:33:06 · 6 answers · asked by Eric R 2 in Weddings

How should I deal with living in the same house as a person who does absoultely everything wrong, and I get blamed for it? Who is always making comments on every aspect of everyones life except her own, who is lazy as all hell, who doesn't shower, who is a total b*tch to everyone, including her friends, and is just all around unbearable?

2007-11-25 10:31:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-11-25 10:29:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

looking for new positions,....in the bedroom,... any suggestions ??

2007-11-25 10:29:34 · 10 answers · asked by Foxie 3 in Marriage & Divorce

and someone asks you directly if your husband ever hit you.. how do you answer? Do you say, "No"? What if someone comes along and says, "Yes he did. I saw him spank you that one time."
How are you supposed to answer?

I'm just curious.

2007-11-25 10:29:04 · 54 answers · asked by crc00000 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am pregnant, and afraid that I will never be able to find a decent man to fall in love with because of the baggage that baby will bring. I love my baby so much already, but I am so scared that now I will be alone forever because of the decisions I have made.

I guess my question is, are there any women out there who have found great men during or after a pregnancy? And are there any men out there who aren't completely turned off by the thought of a pregnant woman/single mother?

This is my first baby, and my fear of solitude has me going crazy...insight?

2007-11-25 10:28:11 · 15 answers · asked by Emoney 3 in Singles & Dating

I have court papers stating that my husbands ex and him alternate weekends with the kids. Holidays and special days (mothers and fathers day, thaksgiving and easter) supersede the schedule, does this mean if we have thanksgiving and it was her weekend, that the schedule now flips, since she lost her weekend. or is her weekend just voided?

2007-11-25 10:24:35 · 4 answers · asked by mscarriem 3 in Family

I know a lot of my friends are married with children and that has its great things but being single and having your own space running your own life? Can I hear from singles what are the best things you love about the single life?

2007-11-25 10:24:26 · 35 answers · asked by daisyduck4007 4 in Singles & Dating

I am interested in starting a dialogue with this question

Do people realize that their past relationships do matter ?

everybody wants to find their "perfect mate" and good luck to all, you deserve it

my question is, is that it seems us americans like to hook up with an excessive amount of sexual partners...build our personal numbers up high, have children out of wedlock, basically make ourselves very undesirable as a "perfect mate " . After we "ruin" our lives, we want to find a "nice" significant other to pick up the pieces and try to fix our lives.

I have had alot of replies from women saying that pasts do not matter. This is not true. Most of us feel that women who sleep with alot of men will always sleep with alot of men. This is a small world, and like it or not...everyone knows what everyone does.

2007-11-25 10:23:47 · 2 answers · asked by baron d 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Is an engagement ring from khols that was orginally 3,000 and marked down to 729 for the holidays poor quality? Please give me your opinion.

2007-11-25 10:23:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

first of all i am not a wimp. im just down because i have just lost my grandma and i dont have support from anybody. i feel i look terrible. do you think i look terrible? anyway thats not even important

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people on here have said some really horrible things to me. why do you want to vent your hatred onto me when i did you no wrong? i love playing music (guitar and vocals) and i need to be able to do that but this is just bringing me down. i was recently rejected by a girl so that has also contributed to my depression. i tried praying to jesus. please i wish anyone out there can just show they care. i need your support

2007-11-25 10:22:52 · 47 answers · asked by dave 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years.......

And he's starting to get really funny about me spending time with my friend from school who i've known for 10 years now!!

Before i was with my boyfriend my mate from school told me he liked me but i said i wanted stay mates cos i didnt like him in that way!! but my boyfriend found out and told me to stop seeing him!! what shall i do??

2007-11-25 10:22:16 · 6 answers · asked by Charlotte M 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been married for 9 years.my m-i-l is 17 years older than I am.Her kindness has made me so attracted to her.Over the years my emotions have become stronger.I'm so in love with her that I just want to do whatever she wants.My f-i-l is a grumpy oldFashion man who's emotionally torturing the love of my life. The problem is that my wife is a wonderful woman.I don't want to hurt her.Over the past few years I was thinking to myself that this is just a fantasy and it will never hurt anybody.I would say that I'm mentally strong enough.I would say it's true that I think of my m-i-l whenever I make love to my wife but I can handle it.I was wrong. Recently, I've been hitting on my m-i-l and I hate those men who hit on women. The most disturbing thing is that I recently had a chance to be at my in law's place alone and I desperately went through her laundry and satisfied myself with her dirty panties.I swear I never enjoyed sexual desire more than that.I felt guilty but I did the same again.

2007-11-25 10:19:52 · 24 answers · asked by mentor 1 in Marriage & Divorce