Do people realize that their past relationships do matter?

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Do people realize that their past relationships do matter ?

everybody wants to find their "perfect mate" and good luck to all, you deserve it

my question is, is that it seems us americans like to hook up with an excessive amount of sexual partners...build our personal numbers up high, have children out of wedlock, basically make ourselves very undesirable as a "perfect mate " . After we "ruin" our lives, we want to find a "nice" significant other to pick up the pieces and try to fix our lives.

I have had alot of replies from women saying that pasts do not matter. This is not true. Most of us feel that women who sleep with alot of men will always sleep with alot of men. This is a small world, and like it or not...everyone knows what everyone does.

Even if the girl doesn't tell you their "number" (most of them do, because they think it will make you closer), their friends or family usually end up saying too much around their boyfriends/husbands. We find out even if we don't want to, so it can't be hidden

This also goes for the guys. Our pasts bother women as well ( I have recieved many emails on this).

I gave up on what I saw as the available "singles pool" here, moved to Germany and found a good wife. For all of you who want to know "how do i know", I really took the time to know this girl, and I found out everything from her and family and friends. I let her know what was important to me in a realtionship.

I just want to know people opinions on how we can improve this trend, that is ruining the american family. Check this link out.. http://www.innovations-report.com/html/r...

Answer 1

I believe that past relationships do matter. First of all, from these, you learn what kind of person is right for you or not right for you. I have had many past relationships, and when my husband came along, i knew he was the one, he was and is everything I want. Life constantly throws us hurdles, and people will come and go in our lives, we decide who stays and who goes. These relationships whether they be friendships or something more, mold us into the person we have become.

Answer 2

If your life is so boring that you really need a crusade, you can do better than this.

Good luck.