She doesnt want me to hold her hand in public only in private, she doesnt want me kissing her on the lips in public and in private. I can only kiss her on the side of the face in private not in public. So basically i cant do nothin to her in public like put my arm around her or hold her hand. Gee, what should i do. I mean i respect what she says but affection is an important part of a relationship and it doesent seem like that way at all. For example, we were walkin around the park and i held her hand she quickly jerks away just cause she seem people on the other side of the field. Geee she was goning out with her ex for 6 yrs. and it was also like this. I cant imagine myself doing that. I need some feed back here
2007-11-25 10:33:06 · 6 answers · asked by Eric R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sounds like just a friend to me. You're probably too young to have a girlfriend anyway. You can kiss girls and hold their hands without being their boyfriend. Why be a boyfriend to a girl that won't let you do things that you could pretty much do with anyone. I'd ditch that *****.
2007-11-25 10:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people don't like public affection but those people are generally few and far between. When I'm with my fiance I don't care who sees us holding hands. I love the man so of course I want to hold his hand. It sounds like she's insecure or that public affection just isn't for her. This is okay for her but bad for your relationship because it sounds like you really want this. Over time it will only get worse. If you differ on something like this, reconsider being with her. You said it yourself, "I can't imagine myself doing that". This is a sign that you aren't meant to be together. Breaking up can be hard, but if you are looking for some affection from her, she's not going to give it to you in public. If you don't like that then find someone else. It just means that you two aren't a good fit for each other.
2007-11-25 19:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went out with someone who was not very affectionate too....and I really wanted the affection. I resented him for what I felt was him not understanding how important it was to me...and that was one of the things that led to our break-up. I was very hurt in the beginning, but after some time and finding someone else who is very affectionate, I have realized that if I stayed with my previous boyfriend I would have felt that I was settling for something I didn't want. I am so glad to be with my now husband who shows me all the affection I could ask for. It is your decision, but if you want affection, don't settle for someone who can't give it to you. If she is uncomfortable with PDA's (public displays of affection) or even Private DA', that's okay...it is what she wants in a person, but that doesn't mean that you have to settle for it. If you can't imagine yourself doing that, be honest with her...AND YOURSELF...and do what you need to do to be happy.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-11-25 18:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are explaining her behaviors, but offering no indication of WHY she thinks these actions are or are not appropriate.
You need to get tothe bottom of the bigger question *WHY*.
Is this indicitive of her religious or cultural background? Was she abused in the past?
If you do not understand why, you cannot know if you are willing to accept her the way she is.
2007-11-25 18:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you can't deal with it, this relationship is not for you. even if you love her, if you can't live with her you should just be friends. talk with her about it some more.
2007-11-25 18:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by ... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she sounds like the right girl for you.....
2007-11-25 18:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Not Always Sure 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋