Are there any decent men who aren't turned off by a pregnant woman/ single mother?

Question

I am pregnant, and afraid that I will never be able to find a decent man to fall in love with because of the baggage that baby will bring. I love my baby so much already, but I am so scared that now I will be alone forever because of the decisions I have made.

I guess my question is, are there any women out there who have found great men during or after a pregnancy? And are there any men out there who aren't completely turned off by the thought of a pregnant woman/single mother?

This is my first baby, and my fear of solitude has me going crazy...insight?

I was engaged to the father for over a year and dating him for 3. I am finishing University in a month, but he has dropped out. He tried to pressure me to have an abortion, and because I won't, he says he can not support me, my decision, or our child... I don't know if that is of importance here..but I thought I would add it.

Answer 1

hey sweetheart join the crowd, you're not allowed...in fact, the next guy you meet who could be the one, will probably be a man with kids (luckily they'll be living with the mom)

So I don't think a decent man who makes a connection is going to hold it against you. Now, a young punk won't, but that punk is not the type of guy who'd stay around

Best thing is to take care of yourself, get your life going as best as you can
Bring baby up with manners, don't give it lots of sugar/processed foods or let it watch tons of T so it ends up with ADD-like symptoms, etc.

Does the dad have weekend visitation rights? My sister dumps her four kids off at our rents every weekend and goes out all weekend long, but our mom loves the grandkids so...

Anyways, it'll be a little harder in certain ways. but because of high divorce rates with kids involved, many men in same boat as you

focus on baby for now... but do get out and about and who knows who you meet.

You could try online dating, put up lovely pic and photo and look for people in area, then they see in profile you have baby..so no need worry when they approach you

Just let them know what happened, like boy was immature and bailed out or whatever

Answer 2

I understand exactly what you are going through...my partner of three years left me when I was 5 months pregnant, and after being depressed for a while I realised it was for the best, why would I want a man like that in my life anyway.... It took me a while to open up to guys again, I was so afraid of being hurt but I realised that not all guys are jerks and eventually started dating again. I have always been up front about being a single mum and always stressed that my baby would always always come first no matter what and most guys are really cool about it and some others run for the door but I guess its all trial and error. It took a while but eventually I found the man of my dreams and my son absolutely adores him as well and now calls him "Dad". So keep your chin up, its going to be hard and don't be afraid to ask people for help, but I promise that you will find someone that will love you and your baby!

Answer 3

I have had three children, I am divorced for a long time. I had a relationship for 12yrs and I had three children, now the bad side is he wasn't the greatest guy so when we broke up it was a good thing. I think that it's harder to find a good man (if there are any left to get) But if you are not with the babies father why would you want another man just slow down and enjoy your baby someone will come along. If he loves you he'll stay so that's all that matters.

Answer 4

I wouldn't use the word decent, but, definitely caring and thoughtful. I use myself as an example, going out with a single mother, whose baby was 8 months old and definitely wasn't comfortable around me. Building up trust and love, we worked through all the hurdles, me taking on a fatherly role, and eventually marrying her. Here we are 9 years later, adding 2 more children, and never letting her know that a stepchild means 2nd rate parenting. She knows i'm not her father, but is extremely happy and proud that i am her dad.

Answer 5

Most men find Pregnant women very beautiful..you glow....you are in the process of creating a miracle....I
have had men come at me more when I was Pregnant....then again for some it's a turn off. Don't worry...the right MAN will find you at just the right time...maybe right now isn't...but your day will come. And don't settle for anything less than what you're looking for.

Answer 6

I work with a single mom who is going through a divorce and has a 1 year-old son. She is 21, cute, and is a desirable woman. I'm 24. When I mentioned that I go out to clubs with one of my friends she said that she loves dancing, gave me her number, and told me to give her a call when I go out.

I like her but I don't want to be more than friends right now. I'm coming off a recent breakup with a girl that I had strong feelings for and I'm not ready for a serious relationship. I don't want to lead her on, especially because she's a single mom. I think I would date a single mom, but not right now. I don't want her to be a rebound girl.

Answer 7

Sign me up for Bottle feedings, Diaper changes and Late nite Burpings also :)
I am an experienced father and i loves being a daddy :)
By The way I am Available :)

Answer 8

Lots of guys would be fine with you being a single mother, it's completely acceptable to most guys now. One thing to think about for the future, some guys would be put off by a spoiled, nasty kid so bring him/her up as well as possible!!

Answer 9

There are men that will date a single mother but you should be careful of men that want to get with you while you're pregnant a lot of times that have other things on they're minds.

Answer 10

There are definitely guys who would. Just find a guy who wants the family life and can't wait to have it. I'm sure you are a special lady if you were already able to get pregnant so don't fret.