nobody ever asks me how i'm doing. they say they have too much going on in thier life to ask about mine?

Question

are they rude? do they not care? or am i just being self-centered?

and when i refer to nobody, i'm referring to my parents my 'best friend', etc... it makes me feel bad when they don't ask! i feel like i don't matter. my parents don't always answer when i call, and it makes me feel like i'm a pain in the butt... but i only call them once a day. you'd think as my parents they could care enough to answer. my friend is another can of worms. aparently since i don't have kids i'm not 'worthy' enough of being her best friend anymore. she dismisses all of my suggestions to problems when she asks for advice, etc.... i'm just feeling like the world is pushing me away. what do i do? i try to not let it get me down, but i cant help it when i'm feeling alone and annoying.

i don't have kids.

Answer 1

I'm that guy in my family...I'm not ignored, per se, but asking how I'm doing isn't the usual routine because that's MY job to assess how everyone else is doing. That's just family dynamics, and in some ways these roles stick with us for life. When you are truly in need of their attentiveness you need to have a method for gaining their attention so that your issues don't go unaddressed. Beyond that, though, try not to take it so much to heart. It could well be that folks check in with you so infrequently because you always seem emotionally well-adjusted. (Still, it IS nice to be asked, isn't it?) By the way, how ARE you getting along these days? Enjoy your holidays, and be well.

Answer 2

It sounds like these people you know are not as mature as you to sit and listen to someone else's problems and try to help. Don't hold it against them, I would feel sad for them since they are still in the same place they were when they were kids. I am sorry you have to feel neglected but there are people out there who really do care about your day unfornately there are more people who can't see past their own problems then there are people who can maturely ask others how they are doing and care about it even though they have their own problems as well. Be happy you are further in life then the people you know, you are one of the lucky ones. I have found more people who really care about me and my day at Church if you're not already apart of one maybe you should try to get involved at one near you, you might find a lot of people who care about your day there. Not all churches are the same though in fact no 2 churches are the same so go to different ones if the one you go to doesn't feel right try another. Once you find the one you feel you belong to you will find people who care about you very easily. If you find it hard to meet people make sure you are also trying to introduce yourself to people and going to the other functions they have there. I think you will find this a very easy way to be cared for and to have people to turn to when you need something. I look forward to hearing from you and all the people you will meet who care about you. I have confidence this will happen for you.

Answer 3

You're not being self-centered, in fact, quite the opposite! How incredibly kind of you to pick up the phone when you yourself have a busy life with kids!!!

I'd say spend more time with your little ones. Their care and concern for you is far more important.

A bit of the old cold shoulder might be just what the others need to reawaken their consideration for you.

Answer 4

BONG GIRL you NOOB. She said she does not have kids, and her once BFF does, so her so called BBF thinks she wouldn't undertsand or give good advice because she does not have any kids. * Thats because they are self-centerted and think you should be the one asking them.But don't . Be greedy like the, give them a taste of thei own medicine.

Answer 5

start hanging around unemployed people