I know a lot of my friends are married with children and that has its great things but being single and having your own space running your own life? Can I hear from singles what are the best things you love about the single life?
2007-11-25 10:24:26 · 35 answers · asked by daisyduck4007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would love a good relationship but I have learned a lot about myself and wouldn't have done so if I had been in a relationship I still hope for a great union with someone but I am happy with being single for right now
2007-11-25 10:32:47 · update #1
I think both lifestyles have advantages, and each person has to decide which is better for them. A good relationship is better than no relationship, but no relationship is MUCH better than a bad relationship.
2007-11-25 10:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I look at some of my friends and relatives around my age (20) who have children and/or are married and think ~ WOW I'm so glad I don't have that kind of responsibility right now! I love having my own apartment and just having to answer to myself. Yes, I want to get married one day. But for now, I'm really happy being single. I think the mistake so many people make is being desperate to get in a relationship. They go for the first person that comes along because they have this fear of being alone. I am taking my time to find the right guy, I refuse to be rushed! And I'm definitely NOT looking for a person to make me "complete". That's an outdated notion, shouldn't we all try to be complete and balanced people BEFORE we enter into a serious relationship? I would hope.
2007-11-25 10:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by V™ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best things I love about being single is doing what I want WHEN I want, and I cant do that if I am a wife, and mother. I was just thinking about this when I was in the supermarket the other day. It was my sister and I and she doesnt have kids either. We harldy had anything in our carts to buy because we dont need much. So I turned to her and said that if we had children, there would be a LOT more stuff that we would have to buy. I would have to worry about pampers, and milk, and clothes, and just EXTRA money. Most women want to be mothers and wives. However, I have never wanted children, and I PREFER my life just the way that it is. I think the best part of being single is the freedom that it provides you. You dont have to tell anyone where you are going, you can just grab your bags and go. Oh! Thelist can go on and on if I were to tell it. I have to stop right now or I will go on and on and on. Anyway, I just LOVE being single.
2007-11-25 10:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♫i luv♥♫juicy fruit♥♫gum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And I am sure that you will find people who thinks married life is great. I tried my best to get married when I was in my 20s. Now pushing mid 30s still single, I think the time looking is just being wasted. I take couple vacations a year, invest left over money in long term stocks, and enjoy my single lifestyle. I have garage full of toys and plenty of time to enjoy.
2007-11-25 12:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sang K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one thing that ticks me off about women is how so many see having a kid as being this milestone event and if they don't have it and a "career" at a certain age their somehow failures as women. this is the female equivalent of a guy getting a motorcycle and cheerleader girlfriend when they hit forty. here are the bens of being single:
1) money in the bank. different for you women because guys pay but if you don't have kids that's where you benefit. instead of kids you can sock it away in a high yield fund for your future.
2) no family crap! no partner means NO IN LAWS!!:-)
3) no fighting over the remote
4) you can do what you want with no discussions or arguments that lead to no sex
5) no therapy. at least involving dating.
6) you can afford more therapy
7) you have the satisfaction of dating who you want while they brag about the woes of relationships then envy you as you leave with the guy/girl
8) the sex never gets boring and routine
9) no fighting over sex
10) more sex. compared to what you get when your in a relationship.
11) you can eat what you want
12) you can be as disgusting in your own home as you want
13) no DIAPERS
2007-11-25 10:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm married but separated, so not all the way single yet...
I like living alone rather than with the wrong person.
It's liberating not having someone question why I'm in the bathroom for more than ten minutes, or why I've gotten up to go into the next room, or what I'm looking for in my own handbag. You get the point.
If I were with the RIGHT guy, I think I would like that more, though.
2007-11-25 10:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone feels that being in a relationship makes you loose your freedom, they haven't been in a relationship for the right reasons. Married with children is definitely a big life change and even perhaps a responsibility, however if that responsibility is viewed as obligation, it is not healthy.
I am single and I enjoy having my own place, but the companionship of a truly caring and equal relationship cannot be matched by having one's so-called 'freedom'.
2007-11-25 10:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by pbfaery 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dear DaisyDuck:
It's POSITIVE~ Being "Un-Married" !
("single" sounds *TOO "Needy")
It is GLORIOUS~ DaisyDuck!
I strongly recommend it.
WHY?
You come & go when you want~
with who you want & where you want.
It's called *TOTAL Freedom.
You are Accountable to Yourself~
& No One Else !!
No one NAGGS You!
Most Marriages & Relationships
are for "Poor" people !
By "poor" I mean~
poor in character,
poor in security issues
poor in "Emotional Intelligence"
& ALSO poor in the walet!
Being Un-married?
What could be better?
I am a rich man~
in body, soul & spirit!
* PLUS I GOT BANK $$$$$
to enjoy my life with many Fine
QUALITY people!
The majority of people I personally
know who are married? Most are
TOTALLY MISERABLE!
Many are Psychologically Imbalanced
& Full of Drama & B.S. !
I really Repect those who are Mature
enough to have a successful marriage!
They are a True Minority~ though!
I like to Volunteer my time to
worthy Service Organizations.
Being Un-married affords me an
opportunity to make a difference
in other peoples lives.
Shouldn't that be what life is all about ?
PERSONAL Security, *Happiness~
&
Assisting Others~ Less Fortunate?
It works for me!
Be Happy~
Good Luck DaisyDuck! :-)
2007-11-25 10:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by LedHead 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing of being single is being free with no limitations, nobody to restrict your movements, having the choices you like without others interference, less nagging and noise, you can go naked all the time inside the home, loads of benefits. The disadvantages are not having somebody to care about and hug, you feel cold and lonely sometimes.
2007-11-25 10:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The single life is great! Its like your just so free to do whatever you want. You can flirt, and you have nothing holding you down. Its exciting meeting new guys, and trying new things. I also think its fun when you are looking for that special someone. There are so many guys to choose from, and the list just goes on and on. Different personalities, looks, races, and styles. You have so many choices, and oppurtunities. Whats not to love?
2007-11-25 10:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by dorkiii 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think there are ups and downs to both. I'm single as well, and I don't mind it at all. :-)
Being single, you don't have to answer to anyone. Plus, you have a lot more freedom to make decisions on your own. You can flirt with whoever you want, and no one will get mad at you for it. It's just great.
2007-11-25 10:28:56 · answer #11 · answered by Abby 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋