Family & Relationships - 16 November 2007

my husband of 18 months recenlty met a girl online and has never actually met her in person, but they talk on the phone all the time and email. when i found out i made him move out. it has been 3 months and he has come back twice to try and work things out and then a few days later he is right back on the phone with her. he has not filed for a divorce, we still share all the bills. i recently wrote him a letter telling him that if she is what he wanted then he needed to set me free and the next day he called saying he wanted to be friends. he loves and cares about me but he's not in love with me, he has strong feelings for this other girl. since the letter he has called or texted me everyday. the other day i went to counseling through our church and he asked me about it and i told him i was going so i could be a better wife to my next husband and he hasn't spoke to or text me since then. i am so confused and i don't know what to do or thing. any help?

2007-11-16 05:56:34 · 35 answers · asked by nicspring272 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband cheated on me with his "babymama." She's the one that told me about them having sex. He told me it was a lie. But he never asked her why she told me that. He said she was a B**** and he hated her and that he would never cheat on me with her. I put him out. Now he's calling her conversating with her like nothing happened. Yet still wanting to be with me. What the hell is going on?

2007-11-16 05:52:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

The question is love?????

2007-11-16 05:52:30 · 1 answers · asked by laughing spirit 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 05:51:44 · 21 answers · asked by girlplease 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I recently returned from a business trip and my husband kept saying not to cheat and that all women are the same and other verbally abusive comments. That was last Saturday and he hasn't made it right.
He tends to mend our fights with make-up sex but Im not buying into it this time. I'm done with this cycle of abuse and his insecurity issues from his ex cheating on him years ago. So its been about six days since we've been intimate and I feel like he is just out to satisfy himself and I feel used.

He walked into the room while I was asleep last night, made noise to awake me then stated, Oh don't worry I don't need you I already had someone suck my *beep* and walked out. I was left cut deep. He has said this once before a few years ago and apologized saying he wasn't serious and that he wanted to hurt me and get my attention. Im so confused. I want to end my marriage due to his mistreatment and I deserve to be treated as a lady and not his whore wife. Any suggestions

2007-11-16 05:50:42 · 19 answers · asked by anabanana 2 in Marriage & Divorce

had been corresponding with a sailor in Kuwait since April. We spoke on the phone, email, and IM (webcam) almost daily. He regularly sent me and my son gifts/cards. He returned to the navy base in VA for several days in mid October to undergo testing. He was due to return to our home state just under a week later. We had made plans for month to meet. I was supposed to pick him up at the airport. The last email I got from him stated that he would call me once he knew exactly what day he would be arriving home. That was October 19. I haven't heard from him since and he hasn't returned any of my emails. What should I make of this?

I recently found an up-to-date address and phone number for him. I feel funny about calling - I don't want to appear to be stalking him. I miss him terribly, but he knows where I am and hasn't contacted me. Should I just try to forget about him?

2007-11-16 05:41:06 · 13 answers · asked by zoee_d 4 in Singles & Dating

first my parent wanted me to pass all my cxc subjects and i did
when i played cricket i was the vice captain and the las tyear of school we won all matches except for one we won the nationals trophy
i met my boyfriend and i told them before anyone could tell them about him
i am not perfect but i don't do half the rebellious things they claim i do
i am 18 working paying to go to school and doing an IT Diploma

advice anybody

2007-11-16 05:34:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i have a HEEEEUGE grudge agianst someone, how do i let go of it???

2007-11-16 05:34:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm a married woman, whom would never cheat on my husband ever.I love him more then life itself,we have a great relationship too.I mean we've been married now 12 yrs., so yeah certain aspects of the relationship have fizzed somewhat if you know what I mean, at times our sexlife is mindblowing at times it's not.Which is pretty normal for as long as we've been marriedbut there have been times when thoughts of cheating have crossed my mind.Why?And is this normal?Like I said I love my man and will NEVER cheat but I have fantasized about it.Once again is this normal or is this a sign of bad things to come?

2007-11-16 05:32:52 · 28 answers · asked by catlover30 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, I have just found out my parents are getting a divorce, and although this really sucks i need to know wat is going to happen and what i would have to do being 15 years of age. Will i have to go to court if that happens? What will i be ask to say? What else will occur. If anyone knows or has any awnsers to this or anything else that will really help if you can please inform me. Thank you very much

2007-11-16 05:31:48 · 6 answers · asked by lordyugi91 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Please give me a advice wat to do with my husband?
my husband thinks me i m fat and ugly and always tells me to become lean.that s not a problem but alwaays looks at his frds wife with lust in his eyes even that girl behaves in a different way in front of my husband she always comes to my home and speaks to my husband.once wen i m away for work my husband is working from home she came to my home wen her husband is away for workthen.i found ithis out and asked my husband for wat sake she came .he said that she came to give him the tablets as he is feeling head ache.i m suspecting both of them .wat would have happened am i really thinking in a wrong way or they have some bad relation? i can t understand anything wat to do? please help me


ther is one thing i just hide from you .she is my husband best friend s wife.they are best frds from 10 years.before marrying me his best frd once stayed home and sent his wife and his father in law to movie with my husband.they are so close to my husband in that way.i m just married to my husband 9 months back.now tell me the answer am i suspecting or i do need leave this topic and reduceweight to stay happy with my husband

2007-11-16 05:31:44 · 17 answers · asked by free2dream 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok. well i have recently been going to a new school. And it has been cool. I realized that there is this one guy in my social studies class and every morning he would say hi and then say my name. and if i didn't hear him he would always make sure to get my attention and say it again. He would always smile extra big at me. Sometimes he would call my name and when i would look over at him he would just smile at me, and not say anything. Anyway i had liked him. But, i was way too shy to say anything back. Yeah i would say hi but that would be all. Any way now he has stopped doing all those things. Yet, in class i would catch him staring at me from the corner of my eye. But now he says nothing. what happened.???

2007-11-16 05:30:33 · 11 answers · asked by Jerzigurl 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 05:21:23 · 18 answers · asked by number7ministries1977 1 in Marriage & Divorce

They talk at family get togethers but no more! I wish they could both stop being so stubborn and talk. It is more my mom's stubborness than my uncle's. What do I do? I desperately want them to talk!

2007-11-16 05:17:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my b/f and i want to wait till we get married , to "u know what", he has been getting really frustrated with me lately because he is not getting any... i already told him to be patient... and he trys... but now we are both afraid that we will not find each other attractive in the future when we do get married.. we've been together for 3 1/2 years... what can we do?

2007-11-16 05:17:10 · 20 answers · asked by Me! 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have liked this boy for a while now, and last night when we were out with our friends, he kissed me, like three times! I'm so happy but now I don't know what to do so that he asks me out??!! Please help. x

2007-11-16 05:16:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 05:16:16 · 6 answers · asked by whttigers3 2 in Marriage & Divorce

like me and friends want a lap dance u think its safe

2007-11-16 05:14:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Sometimes I think my husband is emotionally abusive. I do something almost everyday that either makes him mad, hurts his feelings, or aggrivates him. He says that if I could control my temper and "come to the table with a better attitude" that we wouldn't fight near so much. But, there are somethings and sometimes where I feel that he is out of line. He will say things that hurt me and then he gets mad when I get upset. I'm so confused! After the fight, he makes me believe that it IS my fault that we fight for days on end. But outsiders of the relationship think he's a controlling, abusive, jerk. But, he's so smart that I take the blame because he seems to have a good point. How do you know if it's you or your spouse's problem? (This is his 2nd marriage and my first. The first one ended because they couldn't get along either)

2007-11-16 05:14:08 · 54 answers · asked by Hick Chick 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel so awesome today. I know some girls say they got upset knowing they lost their virginity but I feel really great about it. I met this guy last night and he was really hot. I wasn't planning on losing it last night but once we got started I was really ready. He's older (17) and he thinks I'm 15 (I'm actually 13) but he wants to get together again tonight. I know I'm babbling but I'm just so excited. Anyway my actual question was did any other girls get really happy after losing their virginity too or am I weird?

2007-11-16 05:12:53 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

girls use the jealousy weapon frequently against their BFs, but don't they ever bear in mind that that could turn against them so badly?! also, when a guy dumps his gf for her extreme abuse of this weapon, how will she feel? will she feel responsible? will she ever notice that?!

2007-11-16 05:11:05 · 28 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 05:10:21 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend of over 12 years has recently started having an affair. My problem is I know both of the women involved, neither know that I know, but its very uncomfortable when we are all together. You see, the woman he is having the affair is, his mother in law. We all live in the same sub division, hang out quite often, BBQ's, movie night, etc... What should I do?

2007-11-16 05:09:55 · 23 answers · asked by Stephen 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 05:09:45 · 35 answers · asked by parkdad73 1 in Marriage & Divorce

with their mother in law? how do you deal with it? i'm goin crazy!

2007-11-16 05:08:57 · 13 answers · asked by *KiM* 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend absolutely hates my friends because he says they're just not his type of people. He says that in a calm, rational way but when it comes to being around them, right afterwards he'll completely talk smack about them FOREVER. It's the most annoying thing I've ever heard. and how can i not be upset at the fact that he always has to say something bad about them. How come he can't just accept that they're people he doesn't like and GET OVER IT?

What do i do now?

2007-11-16 05:05:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I are living in our first place together .. we are young, and semi-struggling financially. We live in a small studio apartment in the ghetto. The neighborhood is very, very dangerous. The 6 month lease we signed is coming to an end shortly, and I desperately want to move. The rent here is the cheapest around, so my husband wants to stay here to save up the most money possible for our future.
While I understand this motive, we might not have a future if we keep living here! He doesn't want me ever exiting the apartment for anything because of the neighborhood. Theirs a grocery store right up the block, but I can't go to it when we're out of something. I have to wait for him to get home at the end of the day.
It's basically like being trapped in a miserable little jail cell all day every day. I only want to move up like $50 more in rent a month, but he's afraid of the moving costs like a new deposit somewhere else. Should I not complain about staying another 6 months?

2007-11-16 05:04:47 · 20 answers · asked by Mary 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My grand father has ancestral property and he has 5 sons and 2 daughters. Can he make a will of ancestral property to everybody or any one he likes. Please reply. If made can any one challenge.

2007-11-16 05:03:12 · 6 answers · asked by sree h 1 in Family

Do most men shy away from women who have been thru a divorce and have children?

I have a little boy and am going thru a divorce. I'm afraid of life after the fact. No one will want me. I have a kid. I'm in no rush. However I'd like to pursue an old friendship with a man I knew before I got married. He was sweet but had to break up the friendship when my boyfriend (now ex hubby) entered the picture back then. I don't wish to scare any guy off. Any advice would be great. THANK YOU!!!

2007-11-16 05:02:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 05:02:05 · 4 answers · asked by WonderWoman 5 in Singles & Dating