had been corresponding with a sailor in Kuwait since April. We spoke on the phone, email, and IM (webcam) almost daily. He regularly sent me and my son gifts/cards. He returned to the navy base in VA for several days in mid October to undergo testing. He was due to return to our home state just under a week later. We had made plans for month to meet. I was supposed to pick him up at the airport. The last email I got from him stated that he would call me once he knew exactly what day he would be arriving home. That was October 19. I haven't heard from him since and he hasn't returned any of my emails. What should I make of this?
I recently found an up-to-date address and phone number for him. I feel funny about calling - I don't want to appear to be stalking him. I miss him terribly, but he knows where I am and hasn't contacted me. Should I just try to forget about him?
2007-11-16 05:41:06 · 13 answers · asked by zoee_d 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
October 19 is just under a month ago to me, that's a long time. I think you should move on. If he resurfaces then find, enjoy your friendship. Please do not use the address and phone number that you FOUND. That's not cool. If someone did that to me I would be freaked out a little. Besides, you never know what you may learn from his updated info. You are exatly right! He knows how to contact you. Let him reach out to you.
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2007-11-16 05:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First what kind of testing did he come home for. Was it medical or was it a service test? Do you even know if he did in fact make it back?? Plans may have changed. Either way the news of what he got or results may have been less than satisfying or even distressing to him. I dated a man in the Army and this happened to him. He withdrew for a while shortly after a return trip and then a couple of months later began to correspond with me again. He had very good reasons none of which were a wife or other woman....give him a chance to explain his dissapearing act before you go crazy over it. Drop him an email let him know you are concerned about him and maybe even a letter explaining how you are feeling right now. Give him a little time before you let it go.
Fel free to email me if you want someone to bounce this off of on a deeper level.....
2007-11-16 13:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a big adjustment returning to the US after being overseas. He could just need some time to get back to being himself. Best case scenario, something has come up and he will get back with you soon. Worst case scenario, he may have just needed someone to talk to while he was over there, and now that he is back, he doesn't have that need anymore. Either way, I would let him contact you back. You've made the effort, he knows you are there, and he'll get in touch with you when he can or is ready to. If nothing else, you can feel good that you were able to make a difference in someone's life while they were serving our county!
2007-11-16 13:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe something has made him leave the forces quite quickly and maybe all your contact details are on his PC that belongs to the forces. Don;t feel wierd about calling - you deseve an answer. Get on that phone now! If you don't you will never know what happened - at least if he doesn't want to know you can move on - but answers are a must!!!!
2007-11-16 13:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the harm in contacting him after a while? Tell him that you wanted to make sure he was safe and that you got a bit worried about him when you didn't hear from him. That will open the lines for communication and if he wants your relationship to continue, he will proceed. If he doesn't contact you after that, then yes your sailor has abandoned you
2007-11-16 13:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This will sound harsh and I am sorry, but I think he was just using you because of the lack of available in Kuwait.
2007-11-16 13:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he had someone else that he went to. I think he was feeling lonely and was leading you on. you don't have to call, a month is too long for any other explanation
2007-11-16 13:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let it ride. He may have a wife and family. He can answer your emails if he wants.
2007-11-16 13:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and call him one last time, this time though, ask him what is going on and ask for the whole truth, if what he tells you is not what you want to hear, then move on.
2007-11-16 13:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Erikawithasmile 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would try to call him once, and if i got the voicemail i would leave a message, and then let it go, he might be ill, i would tell him if i reached him, that i was concerned..that way the ball is in his court...
2007-11-16 13:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by marcellahanseth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋