Family & Relationships - 16 November 2007

I have been in a relationship for 4.5 years. I think that we will get married sometime soon, but I am cautious because he was a virgin when we got together. I am afraid that his curiosity will someday get the best of him and cause him to cheat. What are the chances of our relationship surviving?

2007-11-16 07:06:06 · 9 answers · asked by bananie83 1 in Singles & Dating

Last night my spouse gave my child (5) medicine in a shot glass. When he left the room, I poured it into a measure cup and it was over 3 teaspoons! I poured it only 1/2 teaspoon back in the shot glass for my child. My spouse was angry when he heard us and got mad. Saying he usually gives him the medicine after I go to bed! Reading the directions. It is 2 teaspoons for a adult dosage, not to exceed 4 tsp in 24 hours. He is giving my child 3 tsp or more in 24 hours. He thinks he is right about everything, but this really scares me. What should I do to protect my child from this??

2007-11-16 07:06:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Where can i get help to save my marriage because is heading for a crash......

2007-11-16 07:03:39 · 40 answers · asked by effect 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 07:01:28 · 45 answers · asked by effect 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Any stories about being "balanced" with an ex-wife or have you had a b/f play both sides with the Ex? Or that he was "too nice" to stand up to the Ex or gave in on everything?

I have a friend going through this and she says it feels terrible feeling second to anyone's Ex. Shouldn't be that way. Not if she is making him happy in life now and is his present & future. His kids are involved and they've had no problems with the situation. They all love each other.
All along he has told her she is first (after the kids) and then she figures out he has been trying to make her, the kids and the Ex happy. In spite of damaging their relatonship. Ex also interfered early in their relationship. My friend is a really good person and wishes no ill-well on anyone, but it has caused trust issues now. Who's happiness do you think should come 1st, hers or the Ex? How can she trust he will put her 1st now, as he says? She knows what I think, wanted to get some other views or opinions. Thanks!

2007-11-16 07:01:08 · 12 answers · asked by 2008girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

if your wife only wanted to have sex with you twice a week but took care of herself to internet porn everyday?

2007-11-16 07:00:49 · 15 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i love my husband and we have two little girls but i am very lonely of you know what i mean would it be wrong to cheat and not tell him

2007-11-16 07:00:22 · 40 answers · asked by foxxylesley 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Have you ever think that, if you are given a chance to go back to the past and change the future, will you love to go back and chance those decision that you had make? or you have no regrets on everything that you had done in the past?

Sometimes i really think that "if i can have another chance in life to go back to what i've done, i'll make it different, better, etc". Yet, sometimes i think that "if i go back to the past, i'll still choose the same, and i don't regret it".

Anybody ever think of it?

2007-11-16 07:00:06 · 15 answers · asked by Yvonne 4 in Friends

2007-11-16 06:57:59 · 13 answers · asked by BananaPancakes 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A lot of men on here try to hook up with girls. Are they for real, or do such species as they describe themselves as exist. Can a relationship be formed by hooking up with someone on here.

2007-11-16 06:57:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

need help

2007-11-16 06:56:34 · 45 answers · asked by jorge_avila_12 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife has 2 sisters. Both divorced. Her mom wears the pants in the house. 3 sisters live in other countries and they talk to their mom all the time but rarely talk to the poor father. I say poor because he has lost his 2 kidneys. He is really sick but they all talk to their mom all the time… Their dad was a money making machine for them.

My wife always tried to control me. I asked her more than a year to go to a counselor together. Finally we went to 2 different counselors but she did not show up the second time because she says: I am smart and educated and I know what is right!

Both of sisters got divorced because they love the way their mom is acting,. No man can handle it but their Dad! I want you to share your experience with me… My wife never thinks she may make a mistake and when you tell her about her mistakes she gets angry. She threatens, she screams…

She has filed a divorce as another threatening tool to control me. She thought after seeing the divorce papers I will say: O.K, I will be your slave and will do whatever you want but I am not going to do that.

Here are some of her controlling issues: She gets mad if I go to the gym, or play tennis with my friends (I was an athlete my whole life)…whenever we go somewhere she says: whey do you behave like this? Whey did you talk to her? What were you telling to her?? It is so insulting. I believe when I got married I am committed to only one woman and she is my wife. I never think I will be with somebody else… but she just does not understand. I lived with her for a year and a half and every day was like hell…

Do you think my wife can change? Just stop asking why and start enjoying life?
Oh, she is 34 years old by the way. She is beautiful and I am a handsome guy. I always trust her but I think she is very insecure seeing I get a lot of attention.

2007-11-16 06:54:51 · 9 answers · asked by mazyar m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I own a home and I am getting married in a couple of months, does my home automatically become 50% my spouse. We live in Florida.

2007-11-16 06:53:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

me and this guy met on a cruise. we had sex twice, and acted like bf and gf. after the cruise he contacted me right away on myspace.
we didnt talk constantly..but after awhile he wasnt contacting me and i got nervous. i wrote him a message on myspace basically
saying that if he doesnt write back, he doesnt want any part of me..and he wrote back. i surprised visited him a few months after
the cruise, and he was really happy. he kissed me on the lips goodbye, we were only there for about 20 minutes. it was weird bc
i already decided i was going to college near where he lives in a year before the cruise. between the cruise and college we saw
eachother twice, once the surprise visit, and the other time we hung out and talked the entire time..NO SEX. we had a convo
about whether or not he was using me on the cruise or not. he said no he didnt and that he liked me. after that visit, he texted
me right after saying "thanks for coming..cant wait to see you again"..i told him i was glad that we got to talk and he said "i would
never use you" later on i said i was going to bed and i told him to have fun and he said "all my fun left at 12"...which is when i
left. two days later he texts me and were talking about him coming to ny to visit me and we could go to the city..and he said
"way rather see you then the city"..we didnt always talk constantly, but every now and then we did..so basically we were
keeping in touch. the third time we were supposed to hang out , he messed up plans...and i was down near where he lived and
staying at a hotel. he called me and got a cab and told me he was coming to see me..and it doesnt matter how much it costs
he just wanted to see me..but i told him he messed up plans in the first place, and it was too late so there was no point in coming.
5 days later, he mustered up the confidence to call me and apologize for when he messed up plans. he told me to tell him the
next time i was coming down, and he said "lets keep this long distance relationship going"..but we werent in an ldr. this past
august, i came to college near where he lives, a whole year since the cruise. we had kept in contact for one year..and now were 15
minutes away. weve hung out 6 times since ive been here. the first time he just stopped by with his friend and his friend said
that the guy i like wanted to see his girl..meaning me. we didnt have sex, we just talked. he texted me after the visit and said
it was nice seeing u tonight. i told him i was sorry he didnt stay longer and he said he would have loved to, but he didnt want
my suitemates to hate him for being there so late when we have classes the next day. and he said "just wanted to see you." the
second time he came to visit he came to lay with me. we layed together and talked the whole time, and then did stuff, but NO SEX.
i asked him why things happen sexually between us and he said because i like you and you like me. and i said as more than a friend?
and he was like..yeah i like you as more than a friend. and i said..so u didnt come here for sex..and he said..i didnt even bring a condom
so i didnt even have intentions..and we didnt have sex. he then left and gave me a huge hug and a kiss on the lips, and he was a little
offended because he said "why do you have to make me out to be such an asshole."..but he wasnt mad at me, just a little upset.
the next time we hung out we just layed and talked with eachother..NO SEX. i went over there, and it took me awhile to get there
and he called me 4 TIMES..to make sure i wasnt lying to him..and was really coming. he even offered to pay for my cab, and drove me home the next day
and then the 4th time we layed together and talked again..NO SEX. the 5th time we hung out..we actually did have sex..and
he asked me if i was alright..and if it felt good, and we climaxed at the same time. it was really intimate. the 6th time we hung out
he got high, drank, and popped pills. he wasnt himself..he was still sweet to me but he was avoiding me. i asked him what was going
on and he said he wasnt mad at me. and i said..well why are you avoiding me..and he said i wasnt. i said..listen do you like me
and he said..of course i do..its obvious i do. and he said..i just dont want a gf right now..and i think you ask a lot of questions.
i was like..i know i do..except when youre acting weird..i have a reason to act. so i was like well do u like me as more than a friend
and he was confused. i said well why did we have sex the other night..and he was like idk. he was so confused and so out of it.
so he leaves and i get a text from his friend pretending to be the guy i like saying..i had to leave cause i think youre friend is hott.
i called..and the friend answered and was like..we just hooked up..i want your friend. and they came back and the guy i like was
like i didnt say any of that..that wasnt me. so the guy i like was like lets talk in the kitchen..and the friend follows us? and the friend
got involved and pulled me aside and was like..listen he told me the gist..youre friends..he likes hanging out with you..but he
doesnt want a relationship..u hooked up on the cruise what did u think it was ? and i said..how dare you..you dont even know
the story..we didnt just hook up on the cruise. and he was like well idk. so they leave again and the friend calls me saying..the guy
you like is ****** up..call him when hes sober so you can talk..so i was like whatever. then later i get a text from the guy i likes
phone and his friend is texting me saying..the guy you like is passed out..but he likes your friend..can she hang right now? im awake..
and hes telling me yes the guy u like likes ur friend..send the digits over but dont tell him i was on his phone. i was thinking..if the
guy i like wants my friends number..why would he be mad that you were on his phone...wouldnt you just be doing him a favor?

ps. the guy i like was in a 5 year relationship with a girl who cheated on him and got pregnant with another guys kid.
his friends influence him a lot..and when we were hanging out this last hang out he was talking about how he knows a lot of pocketbook
brands bc he would buy them for his ex gf..and he "knows how girls are"..and i think that triggered the way he was acting weird.

and his myspace song is look after you by the fray and his title says "any reason why you would want to date me"
and we havent spoken in 4 weeks..and now his song is i dont wanna be in love. and now his title says " this way is a waterslide away from you"
and now i think hes hooking up with some girl.


1. does he like me and have feelings for me?
2. is he using me?
3. was i just a hookup?
4. what does his myspace title and songs mean?
5. did i pressure him or push him away?
6. will he ever talk to me again or want to see me?
7. do you think hes still in love with his ex gf?
8. why hasnt he been contacting me?
9. why is he hooking up with some girl right now?
10. do you think hell stop liking me, and his feelings will just randomly stop for me?
11. would he honestly hold onto me for over a year to have sex once and thats it?
12. do you think he'll come back around and we'll eventually go out?
13. what if he gets back with his ex gf? does that mean he doesnt like me? what does it mean?

2007-11-16 06:53:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 06:52:18 · 1 answers · asked by racheal m 1 in Singles & Dating

I am wondering if when you are on the internet if you become a different person. For shy people do you become more outgoing and talk to people. For me the internet kind of brings out the naughty side of me. I have shown some scantily clad pics of myself before which is something I would never do in person. Who else changes on the internet and in what way do you change.

2007-11-16 06:52:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

As i havent had much experience with guys i am either get along with them well but still feel slightly uncomfortable until i get to know them or the latest thing with me is any guy who is nice to me or i know is single i either develop a crush or see them as a potential partner. I know a few guys and each of them ive developed some sort of crush on them which has gone in time. Its like at the moment when my male work colleague was being friendly to me in the beginning i was fine but now im finding that maybe i got a crush on him. Which is stupid as in the past ive never seen him in that way and i think its just cause he is being nice. I dont want to ruin the friendship but i cant stop acting awkward/nervous round him and worried hell pick it up. When we go to lunch im fine its just when i see him in his office or out and about the office that i get nervous round him. I think its cause i worry what people will say if i talk to him

2007-11-16 06:51:13 · 2 answers · asked by josephine123446 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

like emotions and thoughts and stuff?

2007-11-16 06:51:09 · 9 answers · asked by *!Its Shay!* 1 in Singles & Dating

i have gone on the look alike meter on the my heritage space but its not working so does anyone know any other web sites i can do the same thing on

2007-11-16 06:50:38 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family

My husband I have been married for almost two years and we have a beautiful son together. However, he is not honest with me about money and other things. I don't belive he has been unfaithful. He also lied to me when we first married when he was in the military. He told me he was working when in fact he was AWOL and we were expecting our son. We had no money or health insurance, and I had to leave the state to be with my parents, because they evicted us from the on base housing. He remained behind to finish up his paperwork with the military. While we were apart for two months, he did not contact me at all. We now live in his home state where I have no family. I have a great job and my son is the only thing I look forward to everyday. He has walked out on us twice for several days at a time and when he says that he will change, it's only for a week or two, then everything goes back to chaos. Should I leave him or stay for the sake of keeping the family together?

2007-11-16 06:49:38 · 65 answers · asked by Taina 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay here is my situation, I really don’t get along with my family especially my mother sister, and brother my dad he is okay. Anyways I know the holidays are coming but I feel realy uncomfortable going since me and my mom just had a recent argument I have work hard all my life and have two kids. She always puts me down and complains that im no good. She talks really bad about me to my bro and sist. She tells them lies that I talk about them and then they don’t like me when I never talk bad about them I just make comments like oh when is my sis starting school and she takes it and than tells her that I said she was no good. She always cold with me and everytime I ask her to watch my kids she gives me a million excuses before she says yes. Sometimes she says she is too busy and cant. Meanwile my bro wont be that busy and ask her to watch his son and she never says no not to anyone else for that matter. I have always spend the holidays with them but I don’t know if I want to this time I know their family but they always judge me and do not treat me comfortably in the environment I feel really uncomfortable like if I get up to go to the bathroom they will go ahead and whisper things about me the reason is ay this is because I have caughten them before. My mom is so sneaky and I fi don’t spend holidays with her this year she will be so upset but not because I did not go but because she will take it against her and she is selfish and think that she doesn’t deserve that when in reality she has always been so unfair and cold with me always. When I open up I told her with an open heart how I felt and she was just like your so wrong.. And now since she has not called me its only been acouple of days but she use to call everyday.. And than she called me the last time to ask me if my bf was going to cook something for thanksgiving I told her yes and than she was like ok bye very rude!

2007-11-16 06:49:36 · 8 answers · asked by sweetie 2 in Family

should i ask this girl out, i know from school and everything, on msn messenger or is that wrong?

2007-11-16 06:47:33 · 3 answers · asked by nuh uh! 4 in Singles & Dating

Thanks for answering my question, but what you are suggesting sounds a little like a fairy tale. Ok, I may be a little bitter right now, but come on ... I thought he was my Knight in Shining Armour - he used to pride himself on not turning out like the rest of his family, but somewhere along the line he lost sight of his goals. I cannot add all the details, 14 years is a long time to try to summarize in one little paragraph!!! Anyhow, I do appreciate your answer, I am just not sure if I am ready to give up on him. I can see the potential.

2007-11-16 06:45:39 · 13 answers · asked by raininonsunday 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Was this just because she wanted to be nice and polite about it?
She also talks about how she still loves her recent ex boyfriend and how she still wants to be with him....but why would she say that she is sorry that she didn't pick me.....does she have any feelings towards me?
I was never with her.....she always rejected me and never liked me in that way....but does she now?

2007-11-16 06:43:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Will you ever feel secure in that relationship? How do you feel about the ex after the divorce is final? Do you feel sorry for them? Do you worry about the time your partner spends with his/her ex (assume kids)?

P.S. I did not have an affair.

2007-11-16 06:42:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she had her problems at the time but i havent seen her for years and i feel kind of guilty. i know she wants to have contact with me but i am holding this grudge. how do i move on and put the past behind me? i feel like i am punishing her by not speaking. i have had counselling but it doesnt erase the anger i feel

2007-11-16 06:42:06 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

need advise

2007-11-16 06:42:03 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 06:39:16 · 15 answers · asked by am 1 in Marriage & Divorce

or not weird? there r these 14 y/o girls at my school who have already had sex, and some do it regularly!! I've been told it is perfectly 'normal' to be interested and look at web porn or something like that when your 14...but these people are young and actually have sex! this is weird. right??

2007-11-16 06:38:20 · 26 answers · asked by maemae 3 in Friends

or do i have to be single to find someone new?

2007-11-16 06:37:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating