me and this guy met on a cruise. we had sex twice, and acted like bf and gf. after the cruise he contacted me right away on myspace.
we didnt talk constantly..but after awhile he wasnt contacting me and i got nervous. i wrote him a message on myspace basically
saying that if he doesnt write back, he doesnt want any part of me..and he wrote back. i surprised visited him a few months after
the cruise, and he was really happy. he kissed me on the lips goodbye, we were only there for about 20 minutes. it was weird bc
i already decided i was going to college near where he lives in a year before the cruise. between the cruise and college we saw
eachother twice, once the surprise visit, and the other time we hung out and talked the entire time..NO SEX. we had a convo
about whether or not he was using me on the cruise or not. he said no he didnt and that he liked me. after that visit, he texted
me right after saying "thanks for coming..cant wait to see you again"..i told him i was glad that we got to talk and he said "i would
never use you" later on i said i was going to bed and i told him to have fun and he said "all my fun left at 12"...which is when i
left. two days later he texts me and were talking about him coming to ny to visit me and we could go to the city..and he said
"way rather see you then the city"..we didnt always talk constantly, but every now and then we did..so basically we were
keeping in touch. the third time we were supposed to hang out , he messed up plans...and i was down near where he lived and
staying at a hotel. he called me and got a cab and told me he was coming to see me..and it doesnt matter how much it costs
he just wanted to see me..but i told him he messed up plans in the first place, and it was too late so there was no point in coming.
5 days later, he mustered up the confidence to call me and apologize for when he messed up plans. he told me to tell him the
next time i was coming down, and he said "lets keep this long distance relationship going"..but we werent in an ldr. this past
august, i came to college near where he lives, a whole year since the cruise. we had kept in contact for one year..and now were 15
minutes away. weve hung out 6 times since ive been here. the first time he just stopped by with his friend and his friend said
that the guy i like wanted to see his girl..meaning me. we didnt have sex, we just talked. he texted me after the visit and said
it was nice seeing u tonight. i told him i was sorry he didnt stay longer and he said he would have loved to, but he didnt want
my suitemates to hate him for being there so late when we have classes the next day. and he said "just wanted to see you." the
second time he came to visit he came to lay with me. we layed together and talked the whole time, and then did stuff, but NO SEX.
i asked him why things happen sexually between us and he said because i like you and you like me. and i said as more than a friend?
and he was like..yeah i like you as more than a friend. and i said..so u didnt come here for sex..and he said..i didnt even bring a condom
so i didnt even have intentions..and we didnt have sex. he then left and gave me a huge hug and a kiss on the lips, and he was a little
offended because he said "why do you have to make me out to be such an asshole."..but he wasnt mad at me, just a little upset.
the next time we hung out we just layed and talked with eachother..NO SEX. i went over there, and it took me awhile to get there
and he called me 4 TIMES..to make sure i wasnt lying to him..and was really coming. he even offered to pay for my cab, and drove me home the next day
and then the 4th time we layed together and talked again..NO SEX. the 5th time we hung out..we actually did have sex..and
he asked me if i was alright..and if it felt good, and we climaxed at the same time. it was really intimate. the 6th time we hung out
he got high, drank, and popped pills. he wasnt himself..he was still sweet to me but he was avoiding me. i asked him what was going
on and he said he wasnt mad at me. and i said..well why are you avoiding me..and he said i wasnt. i said..listen do you like me
and he said..of course i do..its obvious i do. and he said..i just dont want a gf right now..and i think you ask a lot of questions.
i was like..i know i do..except when youre acting weird..i have a reason to act. so i was like well do u like me as more than a friend
and he was confused. i said well why did we have sex the other night..and he was like idk. he was so confused and so out of it.
so he leaves and i get a text from his friend pretending to be the guy i like saying..i had to leave cause i think youre friend is hott.
i called..and the friend answered and was like..we just hooked up..i want your friend. and they came back and the guy i like was
like i didnt say any of that..that wasnt me. so the guy i like was like lets talk in the kitchen..and the friend follows us? and the friend
got involved and pulled me aside and was like..listen he told me the gist..youre friends..he likes hanging out with you..but he
doesnt want a relationship..u hooked up on the cruise what did u think it was ? and i said..how dare you..you dont even know
the story..we didnt just hook up on the cruise. and he was like well idk. so they leave again and the friend calls me saying..the guy
you like is ****** up..call him when hes sober so you can talk..so i was like whatever. then later i get a text from the guy i likes
phone and his friend is texting me saying..the guy you like is passed out..but he likes your friend..can she hang right now? im awake..
and hes telling me yes the guy u like likes ur friend..send the digits over but dont tell him i was on his phone. i was thinking..if the
guy i like wants my friends number..why would he be mad that you were on his phone...wouldnt you just be doing him a favor?
ps. the guy i like was in a 5 year relationship with a girl who cheated on him and got pregnant with another guys kid.
his friends influence him a lot..and when we were hanging out this last hang out he was talking about how he knows a lot of pocketbook
brands bc he would buy them for his ex gf..and he "knows how girls are"..and i think that triggered the way he was acting weird.
and his myspace song is look after you by the fray and his title says "any reason why you would want to date me"
and we havent spoken in 4 weeks..and now his song is i dont wanna be in love. and now his title says " this way is a waterslide away from you"
and now i think hes hooking up with some girl.
1. does he like me and have feelings for me?
2. is he using me?
3. was i just a hookup?
4. what does his myspace title and songs mean?
5. did i pressure him or push him away?
6. will he ever talk to me again or want to see me?
7. do you think hes still in love with his ex gf?
8. why hasnt he been contacting me?
9. why is he hooking up with some girl right now?
10. do you think hell stop liking me, and his feelings will just randomly stop for me?
11. would he honestly hold onto me for over a year to have sex once and thats it?
12. do you think he'll come back around and we'll eventually go out?
13. what if he gets back with his ex gf? does that mean he doesnt like me? what does it mean?
2007-11-16 06:53:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
points, points, your silly, more points
2007-11-16 07:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by reneej 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok first off you did not need to be having sex with him. You met on a cruise which lasts about a week and have sex twice. that is messed up i am sorry but it is. i think that it was just a set up and that he just wanted you for sex. he may of liked you by your looks but not what is on the inside. really though you need to take better care of yourself before you get to lost in the way you are living right now. you are waiting for the guy that had sex with you and then dumps you for drugs, for drinking, and for pills. if that is not a sign for you then i think that you are really lost. what are you going to do when you get married and well your husband to be or your husband asks you what you did in your senior year and in college (trust me it happens) and you do not tell him the truth. you know that your marriage is going to fail just because you did not tell him. if he really loved you then he will understand. forget about the guy that you had sex with on the cruise and get it right with God and things will work out.
2007-11-16 07:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
before everything, enable me inform you some element you haven't any longer concept approximately.On that cruise, there have been probable one hundred adult males or greater who had the hots for and could have slept with you and not had any emotional thoughts or desire for a dating and dedication. next, you're having intercourse(that produces toddlers faster or adjust beginning administration or no longer) and he liquids, smokes weed and pops pills. Now call 10 women who've been married to a guy like this for 20 yrs and are elevating young ones who're properly behaved and do properly in school. next he will possibly no longer leap interior the sack with you through fact: a million.He could have herpes out breaks 2.He could desire to get to renowned you properly adequate to decide on if he needs to devote till now risking making a babay 3.He could have well being issues 4.He may well be bi 5.He may well be gay sounds like he has expressed that he does not desire a dating with you, possibly merely intercourse each and every now and then. i'm sorry, it exchange into no longer love in the commencing up orgasm for him,no longer even love at 5th orgasm.You the two could desire to decide on in case you would be casual intercourse companions and danger screwing up your existence via having pregnant or sell off him for somebody who needs a dating.
2016-10-02 12:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need to grow up a little before you should have a relationship...if you're worried about myspace music and sex...sounds a little like high-school drama to me. Take some time for yourself and figure out who you are and what you want. Once you've matured, you'll probably find a mature relationship where you won't have to ask all these questions.
2007-11-16 07:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it takes an entire story to explain something--then I don't think there is any future in this relationship for you.
2007-11-16 07:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Fred F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call a therapist...thanks for the 2 points
2007-11-16 07:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by outtonight_21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are so nuts. That's why he wants nothing to do with you. That must've been some good sex for you to be all sprung like this. Please get over it
2007-11-16 07:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
move on find someone else and thats it simple and straight no beating around the bush
2007-11-16 07:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by eos_jammer25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your crazy. And need to be admitted to the funny farm.
2007-11-16 06:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋