Family & Relationships - 16 November 2007

2007-11-16 09:19:39 · 1 answers · asked by syd o 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a male neighbor thats about 60 years old, retired with a good pension. My wife visits and talks to him a lot. He visits her at my home but seems to always leave before or when I get home. Also, they sometimes like to have a few drinks together to the point of her being trashed when I get home on a few occasions.

Now I dont want to jump to any conclusions but what is going on here? My wife and I are both in our mid 30's by the way.

2007-11-16 09:16:02 · 10 answers · asked by cougar_mccxxi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband used to adore me before, but he no longer values me, says wtever I do is my duty and job but wtever he does is an act of generosity over me and i should be grateful for it.
He wants me to compromise on every level and but doesnt want to compromise himself at all. he refuses to forgive and forget

Pls dont suggest tht i leave him and move on, i need to get his head straight .....so realistic ans pls....

2007-11-16 09:15:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Alright, I've been with my bf 6 months.
He is deployed to Iraq right now.
Before he was deployed we were sooo in love and everything was perfect, after he was deployed we rarely talk, he doesn't call me, only emails me about having sex with me and has totally ignored my emails about Christmas and important things.
Yesterday I sent him a message on myspace.com asking him if he was okay and that I had sent him a christmas package.
Well he read it and didnt even reply, this morning i got an email about sex from him. that's it.
I havent gotten a call from him in two weeks and he seems like doesnt care, he goes online and doesn't even tell me if he's okay.
So my question is should I leave him or should I stay?

2007-11-16 09:12:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Is it normal for your wife of four years to refuse to have sex with you when you're alone with her at home (no period or physical problems involved)? What would this mean?

2007-11-16 09:11:38 · 17 answers · asked by cougar_mccxxi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Please.............................
I know she still loves me.I can't live without her.
Please help me...I have not eaten for 3 days...sleeping peels can't make me sleep,too.I know that she has not eaten for 3 days...I am worrying too much about her....she has switched off her cell phone....
can u scrap her on orkut?
her profile is:
http://www.orkut.com/Scrapbook.aspx?uid=6172854952689891403

i m serious........and i know she is awaken right now............I can't scrap her as she has told me not to scrap her....her exams r coming in a week....I dont want to spoil her results....she is too much upset......i want her to be fresh before her exams...please help us to meet again......I am requesting u......

2007-11-16 09:08:24 · 8 answers · asked by Bhavik Koladiya Delta Airlines 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We went out for 1.5 years, a mixture of long distance and the normal, (Don't conclude anything yet), and recently, we broke up. A month prior to that incident, I found out that, whenever she went to her buddy's place(male) for gatherings with all the other guy friends, usually, she would spend the night there. I was always fine with it, until recently. I found out "where" she slept, she would share a bed with the male friend who owns the house. Also, sometimes, she would share the same bed with a different close male friend as well. Until recently, she called me, and said that she would like us to get back together again. But things like these still bother me, because, I am not sure if she'll even bother to stop doing things like these, even when I've asked her to. She'll use the "I'm-controlling-her-card". She argued that there is "nothing" going on between any of the friends she shares a bed with. She holds to the policy that, if you don't ask, she won't tell. What are your opinions?

2007-11-16 09:06:30 · 3 answers · asked by New York Bloke 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I got married in August. We are both 25. For work, he does summer sales and makes about $60-80,000 in one summer but he's gone from the end of April-end of August. The rest of the year he goes to school and works part time. I have a good job with benefits and 401k and all of that and I make about 50k a yr. This year, his company offered to let him go out Jan-Apr and he would like to do that. But he wants me to quit my job to go with him. I think that is stupid. He makes more than me but his job doesn't have benefits or anything like that for our future. Plus, this is the last year he is doing sales like this. He says I can always get another job and he expects me to quit so I can move to another state with him for 4 months while he is in mtgs from 9-noon then selling all day until 9 or 10. This is really causing some major fights. I feel lucky to have this job

Am I being unreasonable here? Of course I will miss him but it just doesn't seem to make sense.

2007-11-16 09:05:36 · 21 answers · asked by Leah 3 in Marriage & Divorce

if you found out that a girl liked you and the whole school found out...what would you be feeling the most? whould you be more mad that the whole school found out? or would you just be more freaked out? and what could fix how you feel?

2007-11-16 09:05:11 · 3 answers · asked by bisexualgirl 2 in Singles & Dating

would u trade ur life 4 another life?? i wouldnt

2007-11-16 09:05:05 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

THeres this guy tht I have been talking to that claims that he wants to get a divorce but he is still living at home because he can't afford to move out, and still pay for everything........he says tht he wants to be involved but kind of also says (at other times) that he can't imagine being away from his two year old. When I bring to his attention that the stituation seems like a bleak one for me.....he says that he won't have me waiting forever its just complacated......I can only imagine whats going on in that house, I mean we talk on the phone constantly and he "says" that he is sleeping in another room. Can all of this be possible?

2007-11-16 09:03:26 · 7 answers · asked by femmefatale_2804 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 09:03:03 · 18 answers · asked by frontbutt22 1 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-11-16 09:02:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Should I tell them at thanksgiving? And how should I break it to them. My grandmother will be there.

2007-11-16 09:02:18 · 11 answers · asked by Pants face 3 in Family

which are your best and least qualities?

2007-11-16 09:01:42 · 23 answers · asked by shooting star 4 in Singles & Dating

My husband is an E7 in the military and we decided to live apart till he retired. With his BAH he pays for our home and the Bills ( he gets $2k for BAH = overseas). Anyhow, I have a job that only pays 30k a year so i dont make ends meet with my paycheck (to many bills and a 2 kids to take care of on my own). I have been asking my husband for money but he feels that i should be able to to take care of us 3 with my paycheck. He has two other kids and pays them 800 dollars in child support. I have asked him to send us some extra money for trips (kids are in traveling sports) and he refuses and only sends me money for entry fee's. So the base pay he keeps and we see nothing, does anyone else see something wrong with this or is it just me or am I better off getting child support? He insists he pays for everything and yes he does but its because of us that he gets paid that extra money for our home.

2007-11-16 09:00:38 · 4 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok...
well I geuss I'm trying to be christian but I have horibble habits!!!
lieing and cursing are my most horrible ones and It feels like a burdon to try to be christian ...
To be honest I really dont wanna go to hell
and I'm very scared of my faith...
I'm 12 and feel like this is effecting my life and am scared to ask my mum or dad these qestions cus there not big time christians...My church is 2 or 3 hours long and horribly boring...
so I try to avoid going to church or atleast that one...
when I started going to another church for younger people my grandma wouldnt let me go back...
please ...I need advice!

2007-11-16 08:59:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am from a very close family....hubby is not. My husband and I alternate family functions each year. I get Thanksgiving this year and he gets Christmas. This year my family is getting all the extended family together for Thanksgiving (aunts, uncles, cousins/kids, grandparents, great grandparents). This is approx 25 people (4 generations) in 4 different houses and some of us have to travel. I warned my husband prior to marriage that I am very close to my family and that I am used to spending a lot of time with them and he assured me he understood. Now that we're married, he never has time to deal with the travel/stress of family functions and I rarely get to see my extended family. For some it's been 3+ years. He is already complaining about how miserable TG is going to be and saying it's MY JOB to make it comfortable for him. I offered to stay in a hotel, but he's too cheap. He seems to think I can somehow "control" 20 other people and have everything to his way. What can I do?

2007-11-16 08:58:33 · 8 answers · asked by Amy27 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife is open Minded and probably wouldn't mind to be involved in a threesome but I dont know how to start talking to her about it.

2007-11-16 08:57:42 · 11 answers · asked by SOL 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 08:54:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there is this guy that said he loved my friend then said he loved me. this is all more than a friend. i dont want to tell my friend that her bf is hitting on me what do i do

2007-11-16 08:52:33 · 6 answers · asked by sexy girl 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married a little over a year. Before we got married we both had bachelor/bachelorette parties.
We talked about what we both would be doing. We agreed that both of us would not go to a strip club. We both wanted to respect our relationship and made a decision together. Neither of us had never been to one and I at least had no desire to go to one.
I had my party had lots of clean fun and did not go to a strip club. The following weekend my husband had one and he and his friends went to a strip club. To this day this annoys me to no end. We made a decision as a couple to respect each other and he didn't. I know guys go to strip clubs all the time...and honestly I would not care if he wanted to go to one and we went together. but the fact is he didn't respect our decision as a couple. .I still have some resentment over this situation. How do I move past this??

Serious answers only please

2007-11-16 08:51:50 · 10 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My bf and i had separated for a week and during the weekend his friends dragged him to go to the carnival and when he went one of his friends from 2nd grade(girl) was there and ask her to get on a ride with him and she went with him.After that all he was talking about was her and he would also talk to her when he'd see her.Then the week past and we got back together there was a lot of rumors about that night everybody in a class that they both have(but in different periods)are talking about it and one person told my friend and she told me that they got on more than one ride together and i was so shocked that i told him and we sort of broke up for awhile and i asked him to tell me the truth about that night and he told me that they got on several rides and nothing else.I believed him and didn't believe him at the same time cause he told me like a week later.Then on Wednesday he said hi to her and it got me sort of uncomfortable because i don't want anything bad to happen between us

2007-11-16 08:50:16 · 18 answers · asked by cgyr12506 1 in Singles & Dating

will a guy always miss his first true love even he found a new girl friend? my bf and i are happy together but i know that he deeply loved his ex and his family and friends knew that he loved her so much too, and they all like this girl so much becoz she was a very nice and pretty girl!! and i agreed that she is a pretty girl with nice heart and would do anything for my bf before, but somehow just didn't work out on their relationship! i m just wondering is that means it will be so hard for him to fall in love with me deeply like the way he loved his ex girlfriend? or i should accept the fact that she will be always in somewhere special of his heart? pls help!

2007-11-16 08:49:59 · 7 answers · asked by dayme 1 in Singles & Dating

He went on vacation last week and I got really depressed. When he got home he asked me how I'd been and I said "Pretty bad." He didn't ask me to elaborate or if I was okay. I've cried for the past three days right in front of him. I'm having some health problems I need to talk about with him, but nothing I do seems to get his attention. Today he handed me some kleenex while I cried, but then turned on the TV while I sobbed for half an hour. Any suggestions on what I can do to get him to notice me?

2007-11-16 08:48:22 · 24 answers · asked by Jody 6 in Marriage & Divorce

There is this kid that goes to my middle school, that is a jerk to me, and embarrasses me and my friends all the time. He is rude, and he gets me into trouble. How can I get humiliating revenge on him, without feeling guilt, and without getting caught? Also, DON'T TELL ME "REVENGE IS BAD" OR ANY LECTURES LIKE THAT. ALL I WANT IS IDEAS! SHEESH!

2007-11-16 08:43:48 · 34 answers · asked by Bryan 2 in Friends

I am not ugly i am not the most popular i have tons of friends and ita lk to other ppl.

2007-11-16 08:43:22 · 1 answers · asked by doggypaws32 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 08:40:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my husband and i had been together for three years total and where good friends before then . Then I married him about a year ago he is 22 and i am 28 when we got together i had my tubes tied he begged me to untie them and have a baby with him so i did. I was his world and he lead me to believe the baby would be also. But now that the baby is here he still wants to run like we have no responsibility I am a stay at home mom and i have no time to myself at all no friends or anything i dont go anywhere without my husband . But him on the other hand still acts like he is single and free not by cheating or anything but by always wanting to leave me at home with the baby to do what he wants and when i mention me going somewhere and him staying at home with the baby he gets mad its like he dont think he should do this because he works or because he is a man and i am a women and its my job . So my main question is am I selfish because he seems to think so.

2007-11-16 08:39:04 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We are best friends, have incredible sex and our relationship is the envy of our friends. But the last six months he has been growing more and more distant from me. I know he has stress at work, but that has always been the case.

We used to have sex 4-5 times a week, now it is only 1-2 and only if I get things started. He never turns me down, but never acts interested unless I openly propostion him.

In addition, it is important to note that he has been watching porn even when I'm home or available for sex. He has always watched porn, I do too sometimes, so that is not the issue. It is an issue now because he has energy for porn, and not me! I'm not prude, I am in good shape, I am good looking and I LOVE sex. We have done everything he watches in porn and more.

SO what is wrong? Why porn when I'm home? Why this lack of interest? He says he is too tired, that it isn't me, but I am afraid I'm losing him. What can I do?

2007-11-16 08:33:13 · 19 answers · asked by Heather L 2 in Marriage & Divorce