We went out for 1.5 years, a mixture of long distance and the normal, (Don't conclude anything yet), and recently, we broke up. A month prior to that incident, I found out that, whenever she went to her buddy's place(male) for gatherings with all the other guy friends, usually, she would spend the night there. I was always fine with it, until recently. I found out "where" she slept, she would share a bed with the male friend who owns the house. Also, sometimes, she would share the same bed with a different close male friend as well. Until recently, she called me, and said that she would like us to get back together again. But things like these still bother me, because, I am not sure if she'll even bother to stop doing things like these, even when I've asked her to. She'll use the "I'm-controlling-her-card". She argued that there is "nothing" going on between any of the friends she shares a bed with. She holds to the policy that, if you don't ask, she won't tell. What are your opinions?
2007-11-16 09:06:30 · 3 answers · asked by New York Bloke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be very uncomfortable with this as well, but I'd still try to look at it from her side. Is that the only place she could sleep except for the floor? Was she drunk and passed out? Afraid that other guys in the house might do something to her if she slept alone?
I would still talk to her about it. Tell her you're not trying to control her; you're just not sure it's a good thing. You know what happens to most guys when they first wake up, right? It just makes her reputation look sordid. If she can give you valid reasons why she sleeps with him and not alone or on the couch or whatever, okay. I trust my boyfriend completely, and I know his female friends and they would never do anything sexual with him, but I would be uncomfortable if I found out they slept together, even platonically. Likewise, I would feel weird sleeping with a guy friend of mine since I have a boyfriend.
2007-11-16 09:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not illegal to just share a bed but are you sure its wise? I mean theres every chance your liking for eachother may get the better of you and you end up having sex. I doubt in this case eithe rof you would be charged as your both underage so the police tend to be lenient in caes like this but still not worth the risk, wait until your older and respect her. Tell her she should sleep in the spare room.
2016-05-23 10:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I can't imagine when this would ever be ok. I know I would never be ok with it.
2007-11-16 09:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by sublime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋