Okay here is my situation, I really don’t get along with my family especially my mother sister, and brother my dad he is okay. Anyways I know the holidays are coming but I feel realy uncomfortable going since me and my mom just had a recent argument I have work hard all my life and have two kids. She always puts me down and complains that im no good. She talks really bad about me to my bro and sist. She tells them lies that I talk about them and then they don’t like me when I never talk bad about them I just make comments like oh when is my sis starting school and she takes it and than tells her that I said she was no good. She always cold with me and everytime I ask her to watch my kids she gives me a million excuses before she says yes. Sometimes she says she is too busy and cant. Meanwile my bro wont be that busy and ask her to watch his son and she never says no not to anyone else for that matter. I have always spend the holidays with them but I don’t know if I want to this time I know their family but they always judge me and do not treat me comfortably in the environment I feel really uncomfortable like if I get up to go to the bathroom they will go ahead and whisper things about me the reason is ay this is because I have caughten them before. My mom is so sneaky and I fi don’t spend holidays with her this year she will be so upset but not because I did not go but because she will take it against her and she is selfish and think that she doesn’t deserve that when in reality she has always been so unfair and cold with me always. When I open up I told her with an open heart how I felt and she was just like your so wrong.. And now since she has not called me its only been acouple of days but she use to call everyday.. And than she called me the last time to ask me if my bf was going to cook something for thanksgiving I told her yes and than she was like ok bye very rude!
2007-11-16 06:49:36 · 8 answers · asked by sweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
After reading your scenario I think you should spend your holiday with your friends. You have your children and your boyfriend to celebrate with. Perhaps you could invite another family that you are friends with to join you! It is up to you to make happy memories for your children. They will remember holidays and family gatherings as unpleasant unless you help them have pleasant memories. If you are having a miserable time on the holiday your children are not going to be enjoying it either.
For your sake as well as your children's make a Happy Holiday Season for yourselves!
2007-11-16 07:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Terry2fish 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you feel so uncomfortable with your family, then do not go there. You have to stop being mistreated, and if you are not there, then you will not have to go through the turmoil. This is suppose to be a day to be thankful for what you have. Maybe your family needs to not have you there in order to appreiciate you. If they want to put you down, then it is time to stay away, and let them be the one to try to make things better. You need to be honest with them and tell them how you feel, and not go around them until they treat you better. It is important to be around family, but not if they treat you badly. Then it is time to let them know what it would be like if you never came around again.
2007-11-16 07:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me that you are trying to make amends and be with your family, and they take you for granted. I'd say go with the friends. When your family is ready to treat you like a person, you might feel like giving them a chance, but you're going to be miserable if you spend your holidays with your family, because you won't have their respect. It seems to me like they are not ready to deal with their own issues, and they take advantage of the fact that you want them in your life, but believe me, when I say this:"Better is a piece of bread on the rooftop with love, than a copious meal in a house with strife" - ain't that the truth!
You are going to hate the holidays and not have any at all, or alltogehter refuse to get into the spirit of the holiday just because the people whom should sorround you with their love, are doing otherwise.
Holidays are supposed to be spent with people who love you and show it to you. It's all about love and showing it. They might love you, but that's shitty way of showing it, and you need to let them know that you aren't going to take more of their crap. Happy holidays to you!
2007-11-16 07:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no longer a foul guy or woman no - sound's a sturdy plan to relax and relax - Did lots of this final twelve months - yet too plenty self indulgence with none social interplay can substitute into uninteresting and depressing - why no longer circulate to a pub one night with buddies and doubtless get laid?
2016-11-11 20:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go where its going to be calmest for the kids. They are the ones who matter. They dont need to be exposed to drama. I vote with friends. And if your mother doesnt like it let it be her problem. You do not have to listen to her tirades.
2007-11-16 07:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom sounds like a *****! Avoid her! You have to set the tone for how thongs will be.
Hang out with your friends.
2007-11-16 07:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
question too long to read, so without even reading it, I'm gonna say Family.
Always family before friends!
2007-11-16 06:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by HUSSLA 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's too much for me to read.... You should spend it with your family.... always with your family
2007-11-16 06:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jenelle 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋