Family & Relationships - 30 October 2007

a friend of mine recently told me my hubby sent her an msn messege telling her what time i go to work and if she wanted to come over for"you know what i mean." when confronted about it he denied saying that to her but he didnt deny talking to her. at this point i beleive her over him just for the simple fact that she came and told me to reassure me she didnt want my husband. is it possible she made it up or is there more to it

2007-10-30 03:32:56 · 16 answers · asked by happy1 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-30 03:29:25 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm 18 and I lost this gold ring that my grandmother gave me. I'm an air head and I lose things all the time, and it's not that I don't care or appreciate the things I have but I seriously just forget. I'm a screw up.
I'm already kicking myself for losing it and I know that my mom, with all reason, is going to flip out when I tell her. She's going to be so mad at me.
Any advice on how to handle this? Should I just toughen up and take the heat? Is there anything else I could do?

2007-10-30 03:28:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He finally met a new girl and wrote me about her. Does it mean that the 20 phone calls a day and the 30 emails a day are going to stop. I hope so because I don't know how much more I can take. Why did he want to tell me about a new woman though? HMMMMM I had better think about this some more. it might just be another game he is trying to play. I swear some people are crazy!!!!

2007-10-30 03:27:34 · 11 answers · asked by Patty M 5 in Singles & Dating

This is how his letter(my son) to me and my husband reads.

To:Mom and Dad
I Love You mom and dad, you are the best mom and dad i could ever have. I like dads BBQ, and also moms cooking. You can be a little strick sometimes, but I love you mom and dad.

Any suggestions on what we can do different, is there anything wrong, is he trying to tell us something? Is this ok?

2007-10-30 03:26:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-30 03:24:35 · 17 answers · asked by Pumpkin 2 in Singles & Dating

hey everyone :) well im 15 and me and my family are moving houses shortly - not too far away still in the same suburb. So of course i was going threw all my stuff chucking things out, have you's ever chucked something out then later on wishes you hadnt?

also does anyone have any tips/tricks on making moving as easy as possible - with packing, cleaning, moving ect?

thanks!

2007-10-30 03:24:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

From the time I was 11, up until I turned 23, I was very very overweight. I have only had one "boyfriend" growing up and I use that term loosely because I later found out that he cheating on me and using me. The majority of guys that I met were very mean to me because of how I looked. I'll confess that for a long time I had very low self esteem and suffered from depression. Since then I have lost about 95% of my excess weight and all of a sudden men that I meet are interested in me and hit on me. The problem is that now I have no desire to date anyone or get married. My family does not understand this and they keep pushing me to settle down with someone when in reality I'd much rather be alone. I don't want to get hurt if I should gain back my weight and I feel that if I'm not loved for who I am on the inside, I'd rather not be loved at all. I have asked them to stop but my cousin especially insists on trying to hook me up and she makes comments about me being single. What should I do?

2007-10-30 03:22:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

well my friends have told me that when a guy plays with his belt he is thinking about sex with the girl he's with... just wondering if its true lol? x

thanks x

2007-10-30 03:22:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We live in a 2 family house so it's my family on the top floor and my grandmother and the aides below us. The aide from Sunday I feel like is "invading us" in a sense. Whenever my grandmother is asleep she just walks up to us and starts chatting away with my parents who are busy but are "too kind" to tell her to leave. When we are eating dinner, she brings her plate of food that we bring her back up to us upstairs and plops herself down at the table; sometimes when we have private family dinner discussions I don't want other people around. Just last month when planning my sister's Sweet 16, the aide sort of invited herself and planned her schedule so that sh wouldn't be working on Sunday the day of the party?

How do I get my parents to listen about this? They are too nice to demand the aide stay downstairs or to leave us at the table when talking privately.

Have any of you been in similar situations with aides who sort of like to cling on to the familes they work for?

2007-10-30 03:18:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Is it ok for a man to hit a woman if she calls him an insulting name? Nothing physically, just calls him the "b" word during an argument after he has called her very demeaning things.

2007-10-30 03:18:08 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend of 6 months seldom calls me by my name,we have a long distance relationship, but he calls me everyday and says he misses me.I told him several times that I don't like it that he does not use my name. but he carries on not using my name whilist I always use his name . He is quite affectionate but I reckon if a person who says that he wants to be close to you and does not call you by your name is afraid of affection is not he?

2007-10-30 03:18:06 · 11 answers · asked by Veronika B 1 in Singles & Dating

I know if I were to marry my boyfriend I would be big as a house. His cooking is sooooooooooooooooo good. Our first 6 months togther I gained 20lbs because of his cooking. lol

2007-10-30 03:17:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I still talk to my ex husbands Aunt and Mother. The two of them don't even talk. The ex doesn't even talk but I still allow his mom and his aunt and uncle to see the kid's because they have not harmed them and they care about them. But..When something I do that they dont like or something i wont do but they want them to do I just tell them "I am the one raising them they are fine, please dont worry about it" then they say im getting an attitude and being a ***** and all this stuff.."Their dad (my ex) Did stupid stuff so he lost custody and im ALLOWING his family to see the kids but there giving me CRAP how does this make sense??I go out of my way and they talk crap

2007-10-30 03:14:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-30 03:11:32 · 12 answers · asked by inlovewith maria 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm ugly but I really like plastic surgery. I'm studying dentistry and after I graduate I'll specialize in oral and Maxillofacial Surgery (4years) and take further training(1-2years)to become a cosmetic facial surgeon. I've always wanted to become one; I like both medicine and art but I'm afraid
that ugliness doesn't match with "enhancement of appearance through surgical and medical techniques"
should I just become an oral surgeon?

2007-10-30 03:08:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My husband is in the military there are several details to this i don't have time to tell such as may 14 mothers day two months after getting residency green card he left me had dometic dispute and said if it happened again he could go to jail and loose his greencard. Well july he ran into the military he is 35 myself 30 he wanted to get his citizenship faster 1 yr instead of 7 the military will give him that after 1 yr of service Well he was allowed a 5 min call home we argued he said i don't need you anymore the military is taking care of my process! He never invited me 2 basic training graduation which he couldn't have had if i didn't help legalize himand i was the one he didn't invite!! after he got in ait where he is now he can call on nights and weekends has a cell phone i have called him almost everyday he never answers sometimes hangs up on me he never calls his 2 yr old daughter or my 7 yr old it is really discusting and it is hard for me to move on without him telling me WHY

2007-10-30 03:08:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Want to hear the opinions of married folks out there. Was listening to a radio talk show this morning and was shocked by how many moms just HATE Britney!

2007-10-30 03:07:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Please be kind in your answers. I am not looking for insults or harsh judgements. I am feeling fragile and confused enough as it is...

I started playing this online game about a couple of months ago. I am married, with 2 kids. I got to know this guy in the game and pretty soon it turned into something more. I have never done anything like this before. I have been married nearly 9 years and I love my husband very much. This was only a spare time recreational thing. I was certainly not looking for someone else.

I think I have completely fallen for this guy. He feels the same way, and he is married with kids too. We are both complete wrecks here. We can't quite get over the strength of our feelings for each other. We have seen each other's pics. I have tried to walk away but it's tearing me up inside. I can't eat or sleep. We have talked about meeting, but that would be making the final step into a real affair. I don't want to ruin my marriage. Help...

2007-10-30 03:06:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am a 15 year old boy and she is 17. She used her tounge and everything. Then just yesterday she asked if I wanted to shower with her...Im kinda nervous obout this whole situation. What should I do? I dont want to get her in trouble. I like her and everything, just not like that.

2007-10-30 03:01:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what are the actions of someone truely sorry for hurting you as apposed to the actions of someone who got busted and now has to make things better? the old sorry or sorry they got caught dillema......what is the difference in their actions...

2007-10-30 03:01:36 · 14 answers · asked by suitablepenname 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-30 03:01:29 · 6 answers · asked by >.< 1 in Friends

i know, being 18 in college right now seems like the perfect path for me right now! but a boyfriend of over a year now and with him being in the Airforce has made difficult to see each other like we use to. Don't get me wrong out relationship has been through a lot and we have made it threw all of them! I know how to be independent I'm practically on my own right now. I believe that if you have God in your life everything goes so much easier, and i do believe any marriage can work! My boyfriend and I want to move in together and a soon enough get married. I don't really have that much going on in my hometown. I'm finishing up my freshman year by December and would continue my education where every i go! What advice to you have for my situation? Move and get married?

2007-10-30 03:01:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 20 years old and have a job and love working.
My now ex bloke wanted a baby with me and i said no i have no intension of ever having a baby,maybe in years to come my views may change but right here right now i do not want kids.
I love my body and do not want to spoil it and right now i have no room in my life for a child i want to live a little and work.

So he told me to think again or it was over,
So i told him to get stuffed no one threatens me like that it was over.
He now sends me email saying how evil and cold i am because i put my job first and i should get pregnant the feeling of being a mother will change when i have one growing in me but i am evil not to even give it ago.
I replyed with the fact we have been together 3 months and how the hell is that long enough to know we will be together for ever i hardly know him and i have never told him i love him.

SO the question is in light of the above facts am i evil?

i think not but my sisters agree with him and say i am evil

2007-10-30 03:00:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Our child support order was done 7yrs ago he wasn't making much, now he has his company and i dont know where to get information to take to child support office since he never reported the drastic change of income. The attorney generals office isn't much help and pretty much as long as he sends his $200 a month they're satisfied.

2007-10-30 03:00:17 · 7 answers · asked by linda 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what i do my husband doesnt really work. we have been married for a year now and this is really getting to me. he leaves home from 5 am and works until 10 pm forhis job i go with my friends at about 12 pm but when i come back around 2 am he is still doing the dishes and cleaning up! im getting tired of his lack of performance how do i get him to work or should i kick him to the curb?

2007-10-30 02:57:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm an A' B' Honor Roll student....with all pre ap classes...and on top of that i play to Varsity sports....Volleyball and Basketball....I help out every now and then around the house...but is it so much to ask for a IPOD? my moms been promising me one for a while but something always comes up....I hate that things havent gone my way in a while...what should i do?

2007-10-30 02:57:37 · 12 answers · asked by Mimi 2 in Family

Such as your wedding colors are black and red and your getting married in April, or making carmel apples as favors (take home) and your wedding isn't in the fall? I'm so sick of people telling me "thats not the thing to do/colors to choose in the spring"
you know what
It's my wedding, I don't give a crap, i'll do what I WANT DONE!

So tell me (i know some of you are out there) What are you doing out of season that people think isn't 'right'?
:)

2007-10-30 02:55:52 · 16 answers · asked by ? 5 in Weddings

There was this new kid at my school who just came like two weeks ago and he always beat me up.

2007-10-30 02:53:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My brother in law came to me with the intention of breaking ice this eve......
telling me my attitude pisse* him off.. .and wehn i started by saying that "you"dont patch up even wehn i apologized .. he said that was not a real apology!!!

Well ..he said we cannot make up i think..i said the ball's in your court..and then he very roughly shunned me after i said i know your style/nature now... so its upto you"
he shooted off saying ""what my nature???: and then stormed off my door!


In past few years we have had a hot n cold relationship but there have been times of very strong emotinal bonding .
We used to best friends. i have gtot over him totally .. and im sure so has he.
But our fights dont stop ..one fight if ever resolved the fresh one waits very next day .. im tired ..
im married to his elder bro mom of two .
he is a father to be sooon.

what do i do? we live under 1 roof .. and im just unable to cope with this nonsense!

2007-10-30 02:53:09 · 16 answers · asked by barley 2 in Marriage & Divorce