We live in a 2 family house so it's my family on the top floor and my grandmother and the aides below us. The aide from Sunday I feel like is "invading us" in a sense. Whenever my grandmother is asleep she just walks up to us and starts chatting away with my parents who are busy but are "too kind" to tell her to leave. When we are eating dinner, she brings her plate of food that we bring her back up to us upstairs and plops herself down at the table; sometimes when we have private family dinner discussions I don't want other people around. Just last month when planning my sister's Sweet 16, the aide sort of invited herself and planned her schedule so that sh wouldn't be working on Sunday the day of the party?
How do I get my parents to listen about this? They are too nice to demand the aide stay downstairs or to leave us at the table when talking privately.
Have any of you been in similar situations with aides who sort of like to cling on to the familes they work for?
2007-10-30 03:18:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If this lady ( aid) has a boss, go to the boss with your complaints.
If the aid works independantly, you have to put your foot down in a nice way and inform her she is hired to care for granny, and hasn't been invited to being a part of the family. She's an employee, NOT family!!
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Many families though have opened their hearts to others who carry the burden of carrying for their loved one when they don't, but it sounds like it's time your family told her where her place is!! If she doesn't like it, she can quit! Her place is with granny NOT YOU!
2007-10-30 03:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she is just trying to be social and perhaps feels that she is tired of being around only the elderly like your grandmother. you may have to talk to her supervisor and get someone else to take her place but otherwise just ignore her and perhaps she will take the hint
2007-10-30 10:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your parents to lay the ground rules... they have no boundaries, i guess?
2007-10-30 10:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋