Family & Relationships - 3 November 2007

why is that women are not able to understand that love and attraction are not one in the same? a guy can go sleep with a stripper he doesnt love, because she is a visual stimuli. where as for his wife who has gained weght, he loves her but visually not stimulating.... it doesnt mean you are not standing by her side or that you want to leave, or that your ungrateful for the children shes bared, or that your insensitive to her needs.... i beleive that woen are stimulated by there ears, and men are stimulated by there eyes. if over weight women are so attractive why arent there more magazines on the newstands promoting this like there very own victoria secrets....... i love y wife i just need some advice, a solution, cause im not leaving her. i want women to answer this, what is it that you think is a turn on to men?

2007-11-03 23:55:32 · 16 answers · asked by mujahidfurqan 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A man comes and cleans my tropical fish tank and he cleans tanks in his spare time. he told me to buy a cat fish to keep my tank clean. I find them very theraputic. dose any one else find them theraputic? and dose anyone else have any fish?

2007-11-03 23:50:14 · 2 answers · asked by Phillip K 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband moved out and in with a woman he was having an affair with. The only thing he took were his clothes. Everything else he owns is still here. We had my brother living here and he told me that was the reason he did what he did. My brother moved out yesterday (it was truly horrible with him living here). My husband keeps saying he wants to come hom. I dont want to rush him but dont want to be taken advantage of either. When this other woman is around she is up his butt because she knows he still cares for me. When she is not, we are together. How long should I give him before I say its over. He is a good talker, but has also come through in the past (not that this has happened before). If you wish to discuss, leave me your emai. Thanks.

2007-11-03 23:49:47 · 12 answers · asked by jenn 1 in Marriage & Divorce

...after couple of break ups...?

2007-11-03 23:47:53 · 26 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Marriage & Divorce

it has to coast about $300 or less but not less then $200

2007-11-03 23:45:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husbands best friend is reverting back to single life, and is trying to drag my husband out everywhere with him, however we have 3 children and are happy! How can i explain to him we will end up unhappy too!

2007-11-03 23:37:53 · 21 answers · asked by R B 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I understand married daughters in Karnataka before 1993 do not have rights on ancestral property acquired by grandfather in family partition and presently owned by his widow. Grandfather had only one daughter who has 2 sons and a daughter referred to in the question. Now, it is proposed to share the property between the 2 sons only, as there are no property rights in ancestral property for the daughter in view of the fact that she was married in 1982 and died in 1998 leaving a husband and a son. Husband has remarried.

2007-11-03 23:36:57 · 3 answers · asked by sumukha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

That is save the "Dream Wedding" money and put it in a college fund for the kids. That is money you will never get back.

2007-11-03 23:29:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What is your job at home.

2007-11-03 23:24:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He's a moody/gets angry quickly type of person

but we're not perfect .. we all have bad things in our personalities and i love him despite the bad things in his personality

He admits those bad things but says things like (this is me) (i was born that way) (i'm just like my father) (although my mom is the most special person in my life she couldnt change that in me)

I can't completely change him for sure, but if i help him control his temper or find ways to get him out of this un-nessecery bad mood .. do u think i can pass ? do u think there are ways i can help him with ? should i talk to him about that plan i'm making to change him?

By the way .. we're engaged and getting married soon .. been engaged for almost a year but never got to see each other during that year cuz he was studying abroad so our relationship was a phone or IM relationship

So do u think i can ?
Therapy and leaving him are NOT options

2007-11-03 23:18:34 · 14 answers · asked by Maria 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-03 23:15:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what do u think is a good age to start dating?????

2007-11-03 23:10:37 · 17 answers · asked by cindy 2 in Singles & Dating

I have met this boy who likes me before..we never really ended up. I thought it was okay for him but then soon after a year he sent me a message in friendster. he was asking if I was angry with him and I told him I'm not..when I checked out his account and scrolled down I saw an account whose picture is me!!!! and my name is being used too...she gave a comment to the boy saying I love you but then I don't remember making another account.

Then i checked out the faker's account. the boy had a comment there too saying that he loves her too...what am I gonna do??? I guess the boy was doing it ... the shoutout of the faker says about how much he loves the boy..it gives me the creeps... another person s using my name and my pictures... I think the boy's obsessed or something...I'm being scared..he sends me messages too...

2007-11-03 23:10:04 · 1 answers · asked by mione 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 26 years old and this is my second marriage. My first marriage was very abusive. Now I am married to this great guy, I can say I am married to my best friend. The problem is we don't have sex. He has ED and cannot keep it up for more than 1 minute. I honestly forgot the last time we had sex. He seems to have an orgasm when penetration is not involved but when he tries to please me he can't keep it up. This is ruining my self esteem. He had medical help, even with medication he still has problems. We talked about this situation a number of times with no progress. We have been married for more than a year now. I just can't see myself growing old with no sex! I am a pretty attractive lady and casual sex is going across my mind and I am feeling terrible! We can't afford any therapy right now and I can't count how many times we talked about this. I don't want to divorce again because of my daughter who is very attached to him. Should I cheat, or be sexless my entire life?? HELP!

2007-11-03 23:05:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I feel so hurt and not able to cope but it was all my fault 2yrs ago had a fling and got caught i deeply regreted it he didnt deserve it. He has been trying to get me back but he had to many issues wouldnt let me live it down. The fling has been in and out of jail abusive to me now hes out and i cant get him out of my life so my ex is now with my sister.

2007-11-03 23:02:51 · 13 answers · asked by marling61 1 in Marriage & Divorce

her boyfriend has 2 c.p.o's against him, and has broke the c.p.o 1 time already, what can I do to protect the kids

2007-11-03 22:58:12 · 11 answers · asked by thegentleman_123 1 in Marriage & Divorce

All in all, I am 23 three and have been with my spouse for almost 6 years now. In that time we have been through any kind of hurdle a relationship can go through ( cheating, children , death in the fam, being broke and having lots of money, so on and so forth), We are even considering having another child in a few years.

I am a very happy person and I love him SO much words cant even explain, but I have absolutley no desire to get married, not now , not ever. I figure if everything is fine the way it is, why screw it up? Mind you, out parents both went through very messy divorces, I guess I just shyed away from the idea of marriage and he wants to do it more than ever. I know im not my parents and they have since moved on from eachother and are quite happy in new relationships but generally I have no want or desire to get married at all.

Is this normal?

2007-11-03 22:51:52 · 7 answers · asked by Crystal84 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My Ex ended our relationship I met my new girlfriend 3 months after my ex and broke up. Now My ex has been spamming my email with about a hundred emails a day all from differnet accounts she has be doing it to current girl friend. We have changed our email and that did not work. She has not been violent more of an nucence, But how do I get rid of her for good!

2007-11-03 22:51:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

No they're not handicap from the waist down....They are just past their prime and sex does not interest them anymore, it's not a priority compared to work and family. Please, I don't need suggestions for drugging them or checking myself to see if something's wrong with me......

2007-11-03 22:47:48 · 4 answers · asked by Colley 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok i dated this girl for 2 years and we were each others first love then one day she had to move away so we spent her last days together and b4 she left she said i love you and kissed me then she burst into tears and left the next day she moved on the other side of the world and i didnt see her for 2 years but i never stopped thinkin about her, i hav dated many girls and i dont hav a problem with gettin women (not to sound cocky) but no one seemed as perfect as her, i was completely head over heels for her, so one day out of the blue i find out she is coming bak into town for a week to stay with one of her close girlfriends that was also one of my friends so needless to say i was very excited because i waited for so long to get the chance to see her i mean we talked online a few times but it wasnt the same, so she finally came bak and i picked her up from the airport and we had to most amazing week, parking under the stars,kissin in the rain, catchin up where we left off, we were stuck on each other all week so one day we were layin in the grass lookin up at the stars and she looks over and says i love you with all my heart and i have missed u so much, then i expressed my feelings to her and she kissed me and said i wanna move back one day and get married so we can be together for the rest of our lives, so i told her ok i really care about u and ill wait for u no matter how long it takes or what i hav to do to b with u jus as long as we r together, then the week was up and we parted on very good terms, so she left and we talked on the phone and online for two weeks then on day out of the blue she says i love u but only as a friend and after i left i only thought about one person and that person wasnt you im sorry, i was crushed because i asked her if there was any1 else and she looked me in the eye and said she will never care about anybody more than she does me, she said i will understand if u dont wanna ever talk to me again and by this time i am furious but instead of yelling i jus said im not gonna yell at u because it wont change anything instead i jus want you to kno u did me wrong and i really loved u but i guess that jus wasnt enough im sorry goodbye and i havent talked to her in months and she even ignores her best friend because even she knows i didnt deserve that but neither of us hav talked to her since but i cant help but to miss her sometimes and i kno im not supposed to but i cant help it and i jus wish the feelings would go away its been months and i still am troubled by this, thanx for listening any advice for me? what should i do? y do u think she did that to me? do you think i should ever try to b with her again? am i a complete idiot for still missing her after what she has done? i jus dont kno what to do anymore

2007-11-03 22:43:05 · 6 answers · asked by JJ37 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm new to this things so please give answers in full details. Please....

2007-11-03 22:37:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

buys you drinks,and flirts with you, then kisses you goodnite and tells you he doesn't want to sleep with you?

2007-11-03 22:36:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am 14year old boy and im not sure if i get an orgasm or not. what does it feel like and what is the best way to get one?

2007-11-03 22:33:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I go through her washing basket in her room sometimes and get some old used ones and sniff where it smells used. Is that legal? i wanna make sure and ill stop if it isnt legal.

2007-11-03 22:33:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hes very americanized.. very good looking. ive been on a few dates with him and recently told my friends about how excited i was about my new crush.. they were quick to start with the racist comments and placing him in categories.. i was quite taken back and wasnt sure how to react.?

2007-11-03 22:21:13 · 12 answers · asked by SGPearlGirl 3 in Singles & Dating

I've had possibly the worst year ever. Many deaths close to the family, had to leave home for a night, abusive parent, bad luck with guys. I'm only 16 years old. I feel like everything bad is happening to me.

2007-11-03 22:16:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

and never attarct single men?

2007-11-03 22:15:09 · 3 answers · asked by Mishaj 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

it was my first time..ive neva done it b4..i regret it so deeply its realy tearing me apart..it made me realize how much i realy love my husband..how much he realy means to me..im trying so hard to get that message across to him..i know i cnt push or be mad at him for daughting me..its my own fault..no one in this world can hate me more for wot ive done than i hate myself..i miss him so much..we trying to work things out but theres constant friction and i dont know how to make it stop..i just wana make him happy..show and make him feel that there is there will neva be any other man or woman i want..he says his trying..but i dont feel that..it feels like i cnt do anything right in his eyes..that there is always sumthing im doing wrong..how do i show and make him feel that i love only him that i only want need desire him..how can i make him hapy again..make our mariage strong again..i dont wana pay for my STUPID mistake 4 the rest of my life..kids mis him 2..damit i love this man so much

2007-11-03 22:12:46 · 12 answers · asked by musicslave 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am in love with a wonderful perfect woman. Everything about her is so kind and understanding. I'm sure I could never find someone more perfect. There is only one problem: she does not love herself as I do. Every time I tell her she is beautiful she responds with "no" and she thinks she is not worthy of me. This really makes me sad - there are so many horrible, evil people out there who have such an inflated opinion of themselves, yet this perfect, wonderful woman thinks she is ugly and not worthy. The other night she tried to leave me because she thought I could do better than her and wanted me to try. I had to argue for ages before she would accept that only she could make me happy and that my life without her would be awful. Even if she did this every week, I would fight to stay with her because she is understanding, loving, wonderful, beautiful... and just perfect in every way. I want her to be happy with herself.

2007-11-03 22:12:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Who told you about sex for the first time?

2007-11-03 22:07:56 · 19 answers · asked by mona_atraki 2 in Singles & Dating