I'm 18 and I lost this gold ring that my grandmother gave me. I'm an air head and I lose things all the time, and it's not that I don't care or appreciate the things I have but I seriously just forget. I'm a screw up.
I'm already kicking myself for losing it and I know that my mom, with all reason, is going to flip out when I tell her. She's going to be so mad at me.
Any advice on how to handle this? Should I just toughen up and take the heat? Is there anything else I could do?
2007-10-30 03:28:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's better that you tell them rather than them finding out later.
Honestly, stop excusing your irresponsible behavior. You're not a screw up. You someone who is screwing up. You can change that.
2007-10-30 03:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, yes you are going to have to take the heat. This is a sensitive issue, you lost an heirloom item. But make certain you are expressive in your shame. Don't be mad when she gets mad at you. Yes, take the heat. It's will die down eventually.
And whats the problem with losing things all the time? Maybe you need to reorganize or just get better organized in your life? Try something different so you don't lose things so easily.
Sorry, I know you must feel horrible about that.
2007-10-30 10:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't call or consider yourself a screw-up. This is coming from a mother. Telling your mother now, expressing how truly sorry you are and that accepting the fact of how your mother reacts is not the forefront of the issue here. But for you have it be more of "honesty and responsibility". It will hurt less if your honest now with her, then waiting and having her discover that the ring is missing later on down the line. Then it's not just about the missing ring, but more about the fact that you tried to keep it from her. If your mother reacts poorly then remember that it is coming from being hurt that her mother's ring is missing and not to take things being said or done personal. I'm sure you've learned to be more attentive to things after this incident. and who knows the ring may turn up. Maybe this will be an opportunity for you and your mother to share something between you both and start a new traditon. I have shared similar incidents with my own children, and I'm telling you...rather than being hurt about the incident itself, I know it hurt a lot more knowing my child lied and tried to cover it up hoping not to be discovered.
2007-10-30 10:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by hawaiiangidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically you need to, as you put it, "toughen up and take the heat." An option for you for the future would be to rent a safe deposit box or have someone, your mother for instance, take care of things like this ring until you find yourself at a point in your life where you feel you are responsible enough to manage such things. It is good to recognize such a short coming, everyone has some, now it is up to you to take the steps to minimize the effect it has on your life.
2007-10-30 10:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by dsi_samw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a 16 yr old son I totally understand - really! You sound like him.
First you are NOT a screw up!!!!
You're 18 - period - not your fault.
You will eventually learn to look after and keep track of stuff but it takes time and everyone is different.
I would say - take the heat.
Start with explaining how very sorry and sad and mad YOU are at yourself explain you have been searching high and low and have been kicking yourself.
As long as you don't come off to "matter of fact" about it I hope she will spare your life (lol) this worked for me and works for my son when he thinks of it.
Good luck.
2007-10-30 10:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by RICHARD S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back track all your moves to see if you could find it first.....You should not wear things out of the house of value if you lose them so easily...be an adult you can just tell your mom you lost it or u can wait until she notices that your not wearing it and let her ask and the n confess. But it better if u just tell right off the back.
2007-10-30 10:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by saving grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a screw up, you can't take all the blame! If your own family know you lose things, they should of waited until your not as bad of a screw up before giving you the ring.
STOP think, re-visit your movements on when you last seen it, and back track!
2007-10-30 10:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need you just face the music. Your mom will be mad and you will probably cry. But if you know that the ring is gone then its done.
And I am pretty sure that your Mom knows that you are forgetful because after all you are her child.
2007-10-30 10:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pugmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Yeah, I think you're just going to have to deal with being yelled at by your mom. It'll help to tell her, and take full responsibility, instead of waiting for her to notice it is gone. I would be upset with my daughter if she did that, but after I yelled for a little while I'd get over it. After all, these things happen, and sometimes they are unavoidable. Good luck!
2007-10-30 10:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stop beating yourself up -- if you feel you are prone to making mistakes and being careless, work to change it... remember it's taken you 18 years to become this way, so it's going to take a little time to change. And you can do it.
Yes you should just toughen up and take the heat. and you can also let your mother know you are going to work toward changing things.
Put rings away when you take them off, put keys in one place all of the time, so you know where they are... etc.
and take care!
2007-10-30 10:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋