Family & Relationships - 30 October 2007

My husband and I have been together for 4 years, married for just over a year. Recently I quit my job to pursue my passion and have now replaced my income doing so. He was okay with me quitting but then became ugly and mean about it. Very passive/aggressive. Honestly he's been like that on and off our entire relationship. It was one-sided from the get go- I did what he wanted, when he wanted, and once my hobby became my job, that changed and he was NOT okay with it. He has never wanted to be part of my life; until I told him I was leaving him because I can't live my life doing everything by myself. I didn't get married to do that. I told him I didn't feel like he cares about my desires. We have separate checking accounts; and pay bills separately. Now that I've threatened to leave he's decided he wants to be involved. He now wants a wife; not roomie. He waited until I didn't care anymore to change and I don't feel the same way about him. At 1 time I wanted him. Now I'd rather work

2007-10-30 05:55:04 · 14 answers · asked by *Artesia* 2 in Marriage & Divorce

im friends with this guy... but sometimes i donno if we're flirting or not. and this time we were talking about something when he said nothin scares him more than doing something with a girl and she doesnt want to do it. and i said u wouldnt expect a girls to make the first move. then he said i wish they would cuz u know that i'll never say no haha. and i said girls r scared too. then he said u have nothing to be scared about. cuz we're here for u. any move u throw us we will accept. then i said nooo then he said alright i accept.
is he telling me to make the first move???
or is he just telling me how he feels???

2007-10-30 05:51:32 · 8 answers · asked by hihihi 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-30 05:51:07 · 10 answers · asked by babydoll67005 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been thinking about it lately, and to me it seems I have.

My mother has been hitting me ever since I can remember. When I was 12 I got a bad mark at school, and she bashed my head against the wall, then hit me with her feet in my belly (i was on the fround because of the head wound). She gave me a black eye or a slpit lip from time to time.

My father beat me with the belt when I was 5, but other than that he was pretty absent from home. (he was away for long periods of time due to his job).

Mother has been constantly telling me I am stupid and ugly. I was so afraid of her that I once burst into hysterical crying at school because I could not solve a problem and I knew she would beat me when I get home.

They have me food and from time to time they bought me second hand clothes. I never had an allowance in my life, I have started working since I was 14.

Sexually, they have told me that sex is bad and that I am a whore if I sleep with a man.

2007-10-30 05:48:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Cause weve kissed and cuddled up together in bed he wanted go furthur but i didnt and he was fine with it and diddnt preessure or anything lol so is there like a conversation we should have or what

2007-10-30 05:45:09 · 9 answers · asked by Perfectwings 3 in Singles & Dating

I told my cute neighbor that I am a drummer in a band to try to impress her... Now I feel obligated to each night bang on my kitchen pots and pans for a half hour.

2007-10-30 05:43:41 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Im 21 years old been married with my wife for some time, I dont know what to do anymore about her. She always wants to go out and spend money and if she doesnt get her way she will litterally cry and wine about it. We started are relationship smoothly on my behalf but hers wasnt, and the reason why is she was still communicating with her ex and while we were bf/gf I found out she would go to his house to wash clothes or even to just chill even when he wasnt there. Im having a bit of a problem trusting her, she's very stupid at times. She mostly cares about materialistic things, this next coming semester she is going to try to go back to school in which I dont mind cause education is always important, but on top of that she wants to work 2 jobs and also goto a fitness training center and I think to myself OK!, your married and you know I wanna have some time to spend together but you wanna go and do all this as if your not in a relationship for time.

2007-10-30 05:40:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

see i have had two girl friends nd i went out with one for a month and she dumped me the other one whent for two years she was getting ready to move i was sad but then she comes up to me and says she found some one else now ever since then i have never found anthor i mean im fathful my friends said i was whooped when i had a girl cause all i talked about was her now im alone and bored i mean see i tell jokes i get them laughing its just when i ask them out see i about 350 lbs but im funny i have a nice truck i very nice and polite i use manors and my biggest thing is i cant stand to see a girl cry i melt into a thousand peices

2007-10-30 05:37:07 · 12 answers · asked by colby t 3 in Singles & Dating

i need help ..... ok so heres the deal the guy i like we talk to eachother all the time i call him and we talk on the phone and we make plans to hang out ..... but then when my friend asked him if he liked me he said no and when she asked him if he would have sex with me he said no .... but then a couple days ago i sent him a letter and it had differnet things in it and it mentioned something about sex so then that day he ims me and asked if i would really hav sex with him and i said yes then he goes ok cool than the next day i talk to him again and i asked him what was up and he said he was bored and i was like well you should come hang out with me and hes lke hmmmmmm lol and he keeps asking me about having sex with him and i say yes everytime ...... so then my friend sent him a letter asking if he would really have sex with me and he said to me yes i would and so i was like so you would have sex with me and hes like duhh! so idk i dont get it at all idk what his deal is =[

2007-10-30 05:36:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I come from a very stubborn family. My grandmother was the 'glue' that held us all together. She passed away a year and a half ago and my mom and cousin took it really hard. They got into a huge arguement and haven't talked since. We all did our own thing last Christmas. Since our family was never really super close in the first place, we all kind of gave up on each other. I refuse to see this happen.

I don't know how to get everyone together again for Christmas when everyone is still upset about my grandmothers passing and practically hate each other.

I can see that we all love each other deep down and we want to stay together as a family but no one cares enough to try and some are too stubborrn to show up if I try to be the ring leader in all this.

What do I do to keep my family together?

2007-10-30 05:35:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My boyfriend and I live together and are planning to get married and start a family. He already has a boy from previous marriage and he pays child support, which I think he should. We have enough to pay the bills, housing etc. My concern is if we have a child, he won't be able to me help out financially since a good amount is going to child support. I guess i'll be the breadwinner and I'll have to pay for child care and other expenses. My question is, has anyone been in this situation? if so, how did you manage? Should I get a 2nd job, should he get 2nd job???

2007-10-30 05:34:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is keeping a secret from me...i found out that he's been keeping-in-touch with his ex again.They've been together for 8 years till i came and ruin everything.She was away,he was lonely, i came.They were best friends as he said,they know each other too well,more than the way i know him.Something in the past happened,and what they did is foul for me.Because of her he lied to me.I was hurt because honesty is very important to me,i believe that trust is one of the foundation of a happy marriage.

Recently,i had this same feeling as before.And when i go through his mails i saw truth about my intuition.Actually,there's nothing wrong with the letter.It was just the fact that he's keeping secrets from me again.And its her again.

Am I invading his privacy?Don't i have the right to know these things as a wife?If there's nothing to hide then why hide the truth?Am I a bad wife?

2007-10-30 05:34:25 · 24 answers · asked by louiedy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-30 05:30:37 · 20 answers · asked by kitkat21769 1 in Singles & Dating

im 6'2" and she is 5'4" do you thnk im to tall for her???

2007-10-30 05:24:52 · 15 answers · asked by KrAzY 2 in Singles & Dating

...ask a girl her bra size? even if ur not in a relationship or anything just chilling at his house, and uve known the guy for about 2 months

2007-10-30 05:23:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my boyfriends babys mom went crazy when she found out were together and really serious. so shes going crazy and trying to take the one thing that matters the most to him, his daughter. she said he cant see her and shes gonna move out of town and he cant know were she lives. okay. so easily i can say go to court and everything will be settled. but thiers more to the story.They had thier daughter in high school and both of them are still young so for finance purposes before the baby was born they both signed legal guardianship to her grandma,(who has really good insurance.) but hes been thier since day one and he buys her everything. Hes all sad and depressed and i hate it! i wish i can do something but we have no idea what to do. & ya he can easily go back to her, which is what she wants, but its hard to leave something you love and you know its great and you want to make it work. but i feel bad because i know how much he loves his daughter. so HELP!!
please.

2007-10-30 05:22:52 · 7 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family

I made a mistake on not being with my ex when she was pregnant with my baby. And didn't give us a better chance for us to work things out once the baby was born. I hurt her by not being there. I hurt by not doing the things with her that I was doing with the person i was dating. Thats a huge mistake I did. And I relized now that I made a huge mistake. and I told her that. But all the things i did to hurt her are still fresh in her mind. And now she has found someone new that she is happy with. I want nothing else but to make up for my mistakes and for us to be a family like we wanted from the start..

2007-10-30 05:22:10 · 6 answers · asked by guss74gk 1 in Singles & Dating

I am the first to admit, it is easy to say leave him or her. I stayed with my wife after catching her 4 years ago in an affair. Since then I/we have been to hell and back to get where we are now. (I still think about it everyday) But we took a vow that was cracked deeply and we are slowly mending it. That vow we took back in 1995 means more to me now, than then. The following couple of years after the affair we could have split. I know I have worked harder than I ever imagine to get our relationship to the level we are at now. All I am saying is it is hard to keep a vow, but very easy to break them. Some marriages must end in divorce, but many are just from lack of effort. So how much is your wedding vow worth to you?

2007-10-30 05:21:22 · 35 answers · asked by Opps 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-30 05:21:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've always, well.. wanted a different dad. He used to be abusive, up to about 4 years ago when my mom's friend called child services on him.. nothing really happened to him. He still lives with us and he still screams and curses and all that but he just doesn't hit us. I dont even know if he ever hit my mom.. I was always too scared to ask. But now I think my dad is sneaking off with someone else. He leaves and tells my mom not to ask where he's going. I wish I had a different dad, my mom just deserves better. What is your opinion on this?

2007-10-30 05:19:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We would like for it to be easy for a girl to sing that is also contemporary.

2007-10-30 05:16:49 · 7 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Weddings

My uncle has died and he did a will and my mum was in his will. My aunt and cousin was saying my mum is trouble when my mum is not trouble at all and my uncles son chucked the cheque on the floor we wasnt there cause we wasnt told at the time. If my uncles will is proper can my uncles sons take my mums money from my mum. Thanks for answering. Everyone there was a shamed of my aunt and my cousins.

2007-10-30 05:14:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-30 05:13:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am an attractive woman who has dated but I masterbate atleast 4 times a day even when I'm in a relashonship is this wrong should I find a way to quit seriouse answers please

2007-10-30 05:11:02 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

and then regret that decision??

2007-10-30 05:09:05 · 16 answers · asked by bhackle2 3 in Marriage & Divorce

hey , I had a boy friend. he is very professional, sincere(doesnt oogle at other gals),loves me very much(still) and is a very serious and focused person. he is ambitious too.
the problem is ,he expects me to be like him while i am just the opposite. to be frank, both of us fell for looks without knowing eachother properly.he was very abusive(physically,verbally and emotionally). i beared with him for about 8 months. after that , he saved me from a very bad guy and i was thankful for that and stayed with my bf, suffering his abuses. once,when he called my dad abuses, i decided 2 leave him.
i left him and we had vacation for 3 weeks. he didnt mind much then. but when i came back after vacation , he is claiming he cant live without me and he wants me back. now he is very caring and very understanding.
should i go back to him ? will he be able to accept me as i am now onwards? or is it just an infactuation from his part?

2007-10-30 05:07:02 · 16 answers · asked by Cutie 4 in Singles & Dating

I'm baffled.What do he want me to say or do?He said she's still crazy about me and get this IT'S MY FAULT,for leaving him that this has happened.I don't mind talking to her but what am I going to say.Her mom is locked-up for selling drugs and her aunt is in the military.Any advice please help?.

2007-10-30 05:06:24 · 10 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Friends

I didnt think i'd hear from him. I wrote back, went back and forth until his answers turned into just 'nice' and 'yeah'
what the hell?? i was hoping he'd make plans with me for this week or something. i reacted silly, I said, so when are you stopping by? (; i live about 40 min away so he said, a little far for a weeknight, maybe weekend. I have driven to his place 3 times so i said, haha, i did it! I got no response so about 15 min later i wrote, i'm just kidding with you. He is a man of few words...but come on...I know he is looking for nothing serious, but i dont want to waste time with someone i wont see

2007-10-30 05:06:10 · 12 answers · asked by gally g 1 in Marriage & Divorce

about at this moment? Just wondering... :)

2007-10-30 05:04:29 · 42 answers · asked by †100% Angel† 6 in Singles & Dating

She was a pretty girl in class, much to others' admiration. She was the first girl that I really loved. She was the first to make my ears hot when we were together. I think about her day and night inevitably. I tried to maintain distance from her as i feared that once she knew that I had feelings for her, she would avoid me. During a national exam, her certain mathematical instrument malfunctioned and without hesitation, I lent her mine. I felt really comfortable with her. She did not show signs of rejection against me either. Maybe she thought of me as just a good friend? Well, we were with a few friends revising for our exams. 8pm, it was getting dark and she had to leave. I offered to send her home. "Nah", and that's all she said. She then packed her stuff and left quickly. At that point, I was devastated. Maybe I went too close? I am in the midst of my exams now and can't afford to flunk it! I really need advice to forget her. I don't think i stand a chance either. Thanks lots!

2007-10-30 05:04:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating