hey , I had a boy friend. he is very professional, sincere(doesnt oogle at other gals),loves me very much(still) and is a very serious and focused person. he is ambitious too.
the problem is ,he expects me to be like him while i am just the opposite. to be frank, both of us fell for looks without knowing eachother properly.he was very abusive(physically,verbally and emotionally). i beared with him for about 8 months. after that , he saved me from a very bad guy and i was thankful for that and stayed with my bf, suffering his abuses. once,when he called my dad abuses, i decided 2 leave him.
i left him and we had vacation for 3 weeks. he didnt mind much then. but when i came back after vacation , he is claiming he cant live without me and he wants me back. now he is very caring and very understanding.
should i go back to him ? will he be able to accept me as i am now onwards? or is it just an infactuation from his part?
2007-10-30 05:07:02 · 16 answers · asked by Cutie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him too bad and to move on . No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship . You need to find someone who treats you right . good luck .
2007-10-30 05:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman deserves to be in an abusive relationship. No matter how nice and sincere he seems, he will never change from the way he is.
One of my exe's was in an abusive relationship and even though her friends and family told her to leave she never would. Or if she did he somehow always seemed to talk her into coming back. Long story short, he ended up murdering her and is now in prison. We all miss her and hope that she is in a better place.
Get out while you still can!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-30 12:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by resurrected 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, you shudnt go back to him cos he has abused u so much.. a person can get a chance once but not everytime. you shud directly ask your bf whther he'd accept you the way u r or not.. and then make a decision.. it might be an infatuation or might not.. judge it and go by ur instincts
2007-10-30 12:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.. eventually there will be a cycle of abuse..
1. He hurts you
2. he will ask for forgiveness ( usually on his knees)
3. because of women's "emotional weakness" you'll forgive him
4. He will change for a couple of weeks and then back to #1
8 months is enough!
2007-10-30 12:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by Decepticon punk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT go back to him...all he wants is control over your life. You don't yell at or abuse someone you love. If you decide to go back, the sweetness will disappear. Move on...find someone that appreciates you for you and doesn't want to change you.
Good Luck!!!
2007-10-30 12:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back to an abusive relationship, he will never change, he will eventually go back to his old ways when you do something he doesn't like.
2007-10-30 12:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back. Always move forward! How do you expect to get anywhere! Good luck!
2007-10-30 12:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being on vacation makes that happen. you miss someone just cause. id be careful. take it one step at a time. no matter what though, he has to accept you for who you are. period. if not, move on.
2007-10-30 12:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will not stop the abuse
he will not accept who you are
if you want what you had before the vacation, go back
if you want something better for yourself, move on
2007-10-30 12:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by fretochose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he did help you alot but if hes abbusive then NO dont go back for your own good
2007-10-30 12:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kendall C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋