I made a mistake on not being with my ex when she was pregnant with my baby. And didn't give us a better chance for us to work things out once the baby was born. I hurt her by not being there. I hurt by not doing the things with her that I was doing with the person i was dating. Thats a huge mistake I did. And I relized now that I made a huge mistake. and I told her that. But all the things i did to hurt her are still fresh in her mind. And now she has found someone new that she is happy with. I want nothing else but to make up for my mistakes and for us to be a family like we wanted from the start..
2007-10-30 05:22:10 · 6 answers · asked by guss74gk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've probably blown it.
Be a caring, participating father to your child (and don't use him/her as a sounding board for your woes). This has to be real.
Clear out the worthless clutter from your life, or at least lock it in a closet. You are a father now, so be a good one. THAT is your goal, not winning back your ex and child's mother, because right now that's all that is available to you.
There is a remote chance the ex/mother will see something in you that was not apparent before. Don't hope for this, don't expect it. That's not what you're doing, that's merely a bonus. But you MUST be a worthy father.
2007-10-30 05:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. The ball's in her court now.
What you CAN do is evaluate the situation: What did you do wrong? What would you have done differently? Why did you do the things you did? What have you learned to do or not do in the future.
Failure is only tragic if you learn nothing from it. Look at your situation and learn something from it. If you think it will help, tell your ex what you learned and how you're going to change. If nothing else, you've learned a life lesson. The cost may not have been worth it, but as long as you learned something, you will never have to pay that cost again when the situation arises in the future.
EDIT: While I disagree with the "Show her your penis" advice, I did get a chuckle out of it. Maybe once you start your relationship on the mend, you can tell her that you looked for help on the internet, but the first answer that came back was to whip it out and you decided that maybe you needed to find your own answers. Making someone laugh adds a lot to the healing process.
2007-10-30 12:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone, you have done enough damage to her already. Move on and learn from your bad behavior, if you have, that is. The fact that you even ask this shows you are still very selfish and self centered; try considering others for a change.
2007-10-30 12:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is tough. first you gotta be there for your kid, then maybe when she sees you want to be a good father she could get turned back on to you. just be a good dad, what comes will come.
2007-10-30 12:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her your penis hahahaha thats a good one bro! lol...Seriously dude,your in deep sh!t.If you broke her heart its going to be hard to win her back.It depends.If she's the slutty type of girl then she will get back with you.But don't get your hopes up.She might get back with you just so she can get some dick...lol...I don't think she will get back with you for "true love".
2007-10-30 12:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by NONAME 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry. You can't fix it.
2007-10-30 12:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by NOT TELLING!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋