I'm baffled.What do he want me to say or do?He said she's still crazy about me and get this IT'S MY FAULT,for leaving him that this has happened.I don't mind talking to her but what am I going to say.Her mom is locked-up for selling drugs and her aunt is in the military.Any advice please help?.
2007-10-30 05:06:24 · 10 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
But now that I'm thinking about it,he has some damn nerve!
2007-10-30 05:07:06 · update #1
I think he is trying to emotionally manipulate you. If I were you I would stay the hell away from this situation.
2007-10-30 05:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about this girl...be there for her as much as you can. You do not have to deal with her father but so much. It really takes a village to raise children...especially ones that have no one available to them that are helpful or even willing. Thirteen is such a young age and to be pregnant has got to be terrifying for her. There is no way that man can relate to anything that she is going thru. But encourage her to open up to her father so that whatever is missing from the father and daughter relationship can hopefully be repaired. That way she won't go out there and get pregnant again after this. Don't turn your back on her because her father is an ******. Don't worry about pointing fingers as to whose fault it is that she's pregnant. The point is she is and what is going to be done about it and where do you go from here to help her so she won't make the same mistake again.
2007-10-30 05:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Erica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what a jerk. He fathers a newborn with you and in basic terms walks away? i think of your son's interest is quite organic and it quite is approximately time this "guy" take some accountability. no count number if he needs to appreciate his son or no longer, he needs to stand as much as the actuality that he HAS a son. My subject could be with regards to your son's reaction. If this guy continues to be a jerk, your son ought to get injury. yet as you mentioned he's 24. he's the right age to make this determination himself. i think of you should offer him the records and help him each and each of ways no count number what happens.
2016-10-03 00:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by goulette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you speak to her on the phone, and let her know you care about her but that she has to understand you and her dad are no longer in a relationship. He is her parent and she needs to rely on him. Then let her know again that you do care about her, and if she needs to talk she can give you a call. But stress that the situation is not one that you can directly become involved in. Any decision affecting her life (and that of her unborn child) must be made by family.
2007-10-30 05:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is non of your fault that his 13 year old is pregnant.
Secondly, it's good that she listens to you. You should call her and accompany her to the social service for advice.
2007-10-30 05:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does av a neve dunt he, how dare he blame this on u, if you want to b friends with him then see if she will have an abortion as shes a bit young for all this if u want nothin to do with it ignore them, if u wanna help the gorl ,make a deal that u want nothin to do with ur ex
2007-10-30 05:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by lilhails 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to her, and do anything you can to help her--even if it's just sit and help her cry ---- right now you are the only "Mom" she has...
You might want to consider slapping your ex upside his head...
2007-10-30 05:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
handle the ITS YOUR FAULT thing later but still talk to the child because like it or not she still needs your help right now
2007-10-30 05:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugggghhhhh.
he's just bitter and unwilling to take responsibility for his own child.
this girl needs you though.
i think you should visit her, go through her options, let her talk.
her mom isn't available so if she wants to talk to you, you should be there for her.
don't take any sh*t from that guy though!
2007-10-30 05:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by genie-in-da-house 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her that when you brook up with your ex boyfriend that was your choice but him getting her pregnant that was their decision and you have nothing to do with it. I mean she could have stopped him when he wanted to do it with her. jeez!
2007-10-30 05:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋