i need help ..... ok so heres the deal the guy i like we talk to eachother all the time i call him and we talk on the phone and we make plans to hang out ..... but then when my friend asked him if he liked me he said no and when she asked him if he would have sex with me he said no .... but then a couple days ago i sent him a letter and it had differnet things in it and it mentioned something about sex so then that day he ims me and asked if i would really hav sex with him and i said yes then he goes ok cool than the next day i talk to him again and i asked him what was up and he said he was bored and i was like well you should come hang out with me and hes lke hmmmmmm lol and he keeps asking me about having sex with him and i say yes everytime ...... so then my friend sent him a letter asking if he would really have sex with me and he said to me yes i would and so i was like so you would have sex with me and hes like duhh! so idk i dont get it at all idk what his deal is =[
2007-10-30 05:36:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 14 hes 16
2007-10-31 15:38:48 · update #1
I agree with genie..how old are you... a few things:
1)Why is your friend writing to him asking him if he wants to have sex with you? That sounds a immature.
2)Have more self-respect, dont tell him that you want to have sex with him anytime he asks, especially if he told ur friend he didnt.
3)It sounds like he is just goofing around and not taking you seriosuly at all.
If you like this guy, depending on ur age, hang out with him, get to know him but stop with the sex questions, that might be the only reason why he will talk to you now cause you told him you would sleep with him, if you do...he wont be interested anymore after he gets what he wants.
2007-10-30 06:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by sweetcutie1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No true friend of mine would EVER discuss whether or not I'd accept sec with another. Sure, I'll talk candidly with a friend, but a "best friend" isn't much of a friend at all if intimate information is broadcast.
Now..... if you bset up your friend to share the information rather than cvommunicating directly yourself ..... who's the one creating the communication problem.
Bottom line: sex without honesty is just an animal act. I'm not being judgmental; that's your choice if that's what you want. But if you really want a relationship, get REAL and speak clearly.
IF (on the other hand) the guy is messing with you, this is what we call a MESSAGE. GET IT?
I'm a grandparent. I want my kids and grandkids to have wonderful lives --- and that includes the sexual part. But when they have intimate relationships I not only want them to be physically prudent but also to protect their emotional and spiritual selves.
So, dear question asker, it's time to ask yourself some tough questions regarding this 'relationship'.
WHAT DO YOU WANT?
ARE YOU HONEST WITH HIM?
IS HE HONEST WITH YOU?
WHAT'S TO GAIN and
WHAT'S AT RISK?
2007-10-30 12:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by innerbanks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying for a relationship or at the very least a boyfriend to date before you start having sex? This does not sound like it's wrapped with good intentions on either end.
2007-10-30 12:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
roxygirl, My dear don"t have sex just to have sex ! Wait until you are in love and married ! That way there has been a blood test and you know your safe !
2007-10-30 12:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he probably realy likes you but didnt want to amit it at first but now you have amitted you like him he probably amits that he likes you to if u do go out and have sex protect yourself but have fun doin it
2007-10-30 12:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Leighanne H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's having a laugh.
how old are you?!
2007-10-30 12:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by genie-in-da-house 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋