I still talk to my ex husbands Aunt and Mother. The two of them don't even talk. The ex doesn't even talk but I still allow his mom and his aunt and uncle to see the kid's because they have not harmed them and they care about them. But..When something I do that they dont like or something i wont do but they want them to do I just tell them "I am the one raising them they are fine, please dont worry about it" then they say im getting an attitude and being a ***** and all this stuff.."Their dad (my ex) Did stupid stuff so he lost custody and im ALLOWING his family to see the kids but there giving me CRAP how does this make sense??I go out of my way and they talk crap
2007-10-30 03:14:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some people have control issues, and you are handling it ok, if you ask me... just let them know you will ask for advice when you want some.
You're right, you are the one raising the children... people who try to tell us what to do and how to raise our kids are crossing our boundaries. I'm sure you ar doing a good job raising the kids, and in the meantime, you are generous letting them see the kids.
I think you are doing the right thing by letting them see the kids, and also by setting good boundaries for yourself, hon.
they will have to get over it.
2007-10-30 03:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are trying to manipulate you.
Your ex came from a dysfunctional family and they do not know how to relate to some one who is not worried about what they think. So they are trying those things on you that have been taught to them as being how to get along with others.
Expect things to get worse if you stand your ground. But do it for the kids sake. Let them see that name calling does not get the desired result from you. Other wise they too will start using name calling to manipulate people.
2007-10-30 03:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by teamepler@verizon.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them if they don't like the way you do things use the door. After all you are the one who was given custody of the children and you are being mature letting them see the children.
2007-10-30 03:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by fi fi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are they giving you advice? Whenever my inlaws give advice, I listen Nicely, thank them for the advice and then do what I think is right. Sometimes their advice is good.
2007-10-30 03:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look try and get with them and just have fun m8
2007-10-30 03:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋