Family & Relationships - 17 October 2007

I recently discovered that my wife has been having an affair with a work college. We tried to work things out but shortly after I found out that she would not stop seeing him and is now pregnant by him, I decided enough was enough and told my wife I wanted a divorce. As expected this other man wants nothing to do with the baby and has advised my wife to get an abortion. My wife now wants us to make our marriage work and raise the child together. The problem is I just cant do that. To me the pregnancy just represents all of the lies and pain that this whole affair has brought about. My wife now tells me that she would get an abortion to save our marriage but the viewpoint of her friends and family is that I should stand by my wife and raise the child together if I really love her. Now I feel so guilty for my decision but I just cant raise the child as my own knowing that I'll resent it for other peoples mistakes. Am I really the bad guy here for not standing by my wife?

2007-10-17 05:23:47 · 72 answers · asked by still ill 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, I am a 30 Yr + normal person living in HK. I have a steady BF. We got along fine but he is more adventerous in bed than I am. Recently he stopped taking any interested in me. I found that he is seeing a fillipina in his office. She is 20 yrs old. I confronted her. She said that she is married, her husband works in Saudi Arabia, and she is only trying to supplement her income. She will leave my BF the day she finds a richer man. Meanwhile, she is giving my man everything he has wanted in bed but I am not willing to provide. Blowjobs, coming in mouth, applying chocolate syrup on the body and then wiping it clean, handcuff. They even videotape their sessions!!! I am concerned about my BF. I can forgive him if he forgets this slut immediately and emerges clean from a medical checkup. But I don't think I can ever match this girl in her actions. My man is a good one at heart and I can tolerate his mistake. But how to ensure that I can retain him for good? Anyone with similar experience?

2007-10-17 05:19:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I had a suspicion my hubby was cheating so I got into his yahoo email. Well there were several dating site emails and porn links. I got into one of them and he had written that he was married looking for a discreet encounter. He signed up for it when I was out of town with friends. I approached him about it, he said he doesnt remember doing that. There were also pictures of some half naked girl saved into his email. He claimed that someone must have sent them and he didnt delete them, but they were in a separate folder marked "Pics" What the hell should I do? Ive logged into his messenger as him and No one has messeged? I dont know whats up?

2007-10-17 05:18:21 · 40 answers · asked by ~The doctors Wife~ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There is this adorable little freshman (Robert) in my class (seniors and freshmen are mixed in this class) and his friend heard me say that i thought he was so cute,( he really is he's like 4 feet tall) and he told Robert. I wasn't expecting him to this cause i know its an insult to a guy especially when it comes from an older girl, and now i feel bad. Then Robs friend(the one who overheard me) came over later and said Rob wanted to talk to me. So i told him i was really tired and he'd have to come over to me, then he never did. What do you think he wanted to talk to me about, and i feel really bad what do i do?

2007-10-17 05:17:15 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I moved into a new apartment building about two months ago, and have had my eye on a guy that lives above me. We've talked superficially (small-talk kind of stuff), and have just recently started to hang out. He asked for my number and he seems really cool. We both smoke pot so that is something cool we have in common. We have good conversation for the most part and I can tell he's not a weirdo or anthying. The problem is I looked him up on Myspace and his profile picture is really douchey. I couldn't look at his profie because he has it set on private, but his picture really turned me off. It's like a web cam pic with a really douchey half smile and a Hurley hat sideways. It's like he's trying to look hot for the ladies but it's not working. Myspace can tell a lot about a person. What do you think of all this? Am I just being stupid?

2007-10-17 05:15:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Not knowing me personally what do u think about me?! BE as harsh or as sweet as u want.

2007-10-17 05:12:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

guys, what are your pickup lines?

2007-10-17 05:08:04 · 9 answers · asked by blonde_chick 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been talking to a really nice guy lately and I think he might be into me but I'm not sure. He said that our kids look good together so is he hinting that we would have a nice blended family? We had a date set up and he had to cancel but then a few days later he bought me a gift to make up for it, but we have yet to reschedule the date??Some days he seems really interested and other days he doesn't. I can't read him very well and I usually don't have a problem with it!

2007-10-17 05:05:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

k well me and this guy have been friends for the longest time...to make a long story short a friend of his that is 21(im 15) got my number from his phone and he wont stop calling me...he is a nice guy and i have tried to give him clues to stop calling me...but he calls everyday like 6 times and if i dont answer he will leave a message saying to expect his call later...ive already told my friend about this and he has tried almost everything to get him to stop calling me and he wont....what can i do to get him to stop calling without being really harsh!

2007-10-17 05:04:52 · 21 answers · asked by SimplySweet 2 in Singles & Dating

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2007-10-17 05:02:44 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

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2007-10-17 05:01:35 · 5 answers · asked by frank_spivey 1 in Weddings

I am engaged to the man of my dreams however he is a virgin and I am not. Please dont judge me!!! I have been baptised since and I have been forgiven I have attended church three days a week every since. I only did it once. And i have regreted it ever since. But it makes him mad at me when he thinks about it because of what I have done. We have not had sex and are not going to until the honey moon. I just want to know what i should say to him. I cant imagine what I would do if it was the other way around. I have told him that its not like I cheated on him. It was 1 year before we started dating. I feel bad but it is starting to make me mad. We have been together for almost 3 years and he has know this from the start . I dont want to loose him over something that happened before we started dating. What should I do? Please help. Thanks.

2007-10-17 05:00:21 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My man says he does not know how to put himself in other peoples positions and try to feel how they must feel,does thgis mean he has no empathy towards others? why can I do it so well?BEcause im a women? Or because ive been through alot?

2007-10-17 04:52:54 · 10 answers · asked by tina m 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

The Wedding Test


I was a very happy person. My wonderful girlfriend and I had been
dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married.

There was only one little thing bothering me...It was her beautiful
younger sister.

My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight
miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. She would regularly bend down
when she was near me, and I always got more than a nice view.

It had to be deliberate because she never did it when she was near
anyone else.

One day her "little" sister called and asked me to come over to check
the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived, and she whispered
to me that she had feelings and desires for me that she couldn't
overcome.

She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married and
committed my life to her sister.

Well, I was in total shock, and couldn't say a word. She said, I'm
going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want one last wild fling, just
come up and get me."

I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I
stood there for a moment, then turned and made a beeline straight to the
front door. I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.

Lo and behold, my entire future family was standing outside all
clapping! With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and said,
"We are very happy that you have passed our little test.

We couldn't ask for better man for our daughter.

Welcome to the family!"

And The Moral

Of This Story is:

Always Keep Your Condoms In Your Car.

2007-10-17 04:52:14 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, I planned to stay at my girlfriends this wkend because her parents are out, so supposly i thought I will indeed sleep with her at night.

However she has told me she has heavy bedtime incontience (I think thats the right word) and she has to wear some adult diapers at night.

Its all abit strange for a 18 year old girl to be wearing diapers at night.. Nonetheless it didnt bother me, at first, untill I woke up the next morning with a girl lying half on top of me wearing a heavy sagging diaper.. i mean, you wouldn't want to leave her lying next to you in a soggy sack of her own urine, right? yes gross as it may seem..

I still love her I find this abit "werid" in a way. Does anyone have any advice? Its all I strange situation so advice would be helpful . Thanks

2007-10-17 04:49:02 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he is a nice guy but unreliable, disorganised, a drug/alcohol abuser and an idiot when drunk. i think i should finish it but will i be throwing the baby out with the bathwater? i will miss the sex, the affection, the companionship, etc

2007-10-17 04:45:49 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a terriffic bf that I am totally in love with and I don't want to break up with him but 2 of my friends won't talk to me b/c they don't think I should date him for reasons. Please give me some advice.

2007-10-17 04:44:05 · 6 answers · asked by heyjesus90 3 in Singles & Dating

I told my mom today I wanted to quit cheerleading and she got mad at me! She's always told me that I should make my own decisions and now she's mad about this one and actually won't let me quit. She thinks it's because of my boyfriend and the fact that I don't have much time to spend with him but that's not it. It's like our coach has it in for me ever since I started dating him. She thinks he's a distraction just because he watches us practice and I talk to him sometimes during water breaks. Then she gets mad at me because I come back late. But people come back late all the time and she doesn't yell at them! Anyway my mom is whining that she spent so much money for me to go to cheer camp last summer and on my uniform, shoes, etc. and blah, blah, blah. But shouldn't she let me do what makes me happy?

2007-10-17 04:43:07 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i believe that everybody has a 'Person'. someone who they feel connected to more than anybody else.
For me, it was my Grandmother.

and It's weird..
Even tho she is gone, she is still my "Person" .

What IS UP with that?

2007-10-17 04:42:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-17 04:41:55 · 20 answers · asked by donellew2002 2 in Weddings

How come when a guy cheats or sleeps with more than one women he's the man but when a women does it she's considered a whore?

2007-10-17 04:41:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

HOW MANY OF YOU HATE GOING BACK TO WORK AFTER A HOLIDAY???? AND WHY???

2007-10-17 04:40:47 · 13 answers · asked by LITTLE NUGGET 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Help!! I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I really love him, but i can't take any more. He has never had a proper job since we met, he goes from job to job and always ends up falling out with the boss, or work just fizzles out. It's either that or he works for family or friends and doesn't get paid. Meanwhile he expect me to pay all the bills from the house, give him pocket money, pay for his car to be fixed etc. I even got him a bank loan last week. I just feel like he's taking me for granted. When i try and talk to him about it he basically tells me he doesn't need the agro!! I'm working constantly and i'm soo sick of it. We're meant to be going on holiday soon & he needs spending money. What would you do??

2007-10-17 04:38:17 · 36 answers · asked by sparkle 3 in Singles & Dating

I just barely turned 18 on September and he is going to be 19 on November so we are planning on leaving whenever we are in Mexico so would there be a problem whenever we try get back in U.S.A? he`s a resident and I`m going to be a citizen so would anything happened or could my parents do something against us especially if they are trying to part us apart?

2007-10-17 04:37:25 · 27 answers · asked by Blanca F.R 2 in Family

I keep getting this dream about my boyfriend. What happens is I talk with one of my friends & they ask me if I really want to be with him. for some reason, I always say,"no." what's wrong with our relationship?(or me, for that matter)

2007-10-17 04:36:36 · 5 answers · asked by ♥Megz♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

appreciation. Please be specific. I have no ideal what to get her and i'm freaking out.

2007-10-17 04:36:14 · 4 answers · asked by donellew2002 2 in Weddings

My annoying, obnoxious and controlling ex came into my work to pretty much threaten me. He didn't like the sarcastic message I left on his cell phone. I didn't yell or swear in the message, just thanked him for not calling me regarding one of our kids. He told me never to leave him a message like that again and he doesn't have to call me if he doesn't want to. We have 50/50 custody and I think we should communicate regarding our children. He thinks the kids should have to tell me things instead of him. How immature is that! His attitude and personality is a big reason he is an EX!! Should I just ignore it or let my lawyer know?

2007-10-17 04:35:52 · 15 answers · asked by mommacat 4 in Marriage & Divorce

well? :S

2007-10-17 04:35:47 · 8 answers · asked by bex 2 in Singles & Dating

Do not have the same strict religious beliefs? I ask this because I have this sister who is older who never has really anything kind to say to us in the family. She is only seems to be happy around her strict religious friends. She can be so cold to us and have the harshest remarks made at us. The thing is it is my personality to be friendly to everyone regardless of their beliefs. My sister had tried to get all of us in the family to follow her line of thinking but we all have our own path in life to follow and we will not follow hers just because she wants us too. Since then she has been so mean and cold. Everyone in the family gets along great with one another and we do not judge each other on who we are because this is a free country and we are free to find our own path. My sister has always been kind of cruel but it has gotten worse the more religious she has gotten. Is it a control issue with her? No I am not cruel to her, it is not in my personality to be mean, to shy.

2007-10-17 04:35:31 · 7 answers · asked by daisy322_98 5 in Family

My fiancé is going through a lot of stress right now. He is self employed, and is not making near the amount of money that he used to. There isn't enough money to pay all the bills! I have a job also, I work 5 nights a week. I do all that, plus I take care of ALL the household duties. He is moody, bitchy, and just plain miserable to be around. I told him not to take all his frustration out on me and he said, "Well I have to take it out on you, because I don't have anyone else to take it out on!". If I wanted to work my a*s off, and still come home and do EVERYTHING, I would be single.

2007-10-17 04:34:59 · 31 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Marriage & Divorce