Family & Relationships - 17 October 2007

I have a history of choosing the wrong men in my life the abusive ones, the men who dont want to help me out in life so im single now and raising my 9 year old son who does not belong to my husband, it does get lonely but im holden out for the right one im 38 and if it never comes i guess ill be alone forever, any suggestions ty jewels

2007-10-17 03:02:07 · 13 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my girlfriend is not a virgin she lost it 2 yrs ago. but now regrets it. she claims she only did it once. but i'm a virgin and feel confused about the whole thing. what should i do.

2007-10-17 03:01:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i want to know whats going on cause we would have still been together

2007-10-17 02:58:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I am getting married next summer. My fiance and I have been living together for three years now, so we have everything we need for a home in regards to items that are typically purchased as wedding gifts (appliances, silverware, towels, etc). I don't really want to set up a typical gift registry because there's nothing I need, and I'm not too crazy about the idea of getting things I'll never use, like extras of what I already have, monogrammed towels, or a set of china. I saw on a bridal website the concept of setting up a fund account with a financial institution where wedding guests can opt instead to donate to a "house down payment" in lieu of a tangible gift. My fiance and I have been living in the same apartment the whole time and with a 15 month old son and another due in 5 weeks, everyone that knows us knows we can't afford a house on our own. I like this idea but I don't know if it would be considered inappropriate. But I really don't need any gifts. Thoughts?

2007-10-17 02:54:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

she let all 3 of us take turns with her in the bedroom...it was goin to be my first time but i got scared and just talked to her...now she wants to be my girl friend but i told her i couldnt date a girl who let all my friends bang her while i was there...i like her a lot and she is very pretty..i just cant get the image of my friends doin her over and over again..i need some advice!! what should i do???

2007-10-17 02:53:28 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I flicked my hair when I walked past this guy who is 2 years older than me in school to try and get his attention and he just stared at me for about 5 seconds like he was thinking about something and then he said "do your tie up a bit there" and he did my tie up for me.
Why did he do this?
Does it mean he was staring at my chest?

2007-10-17 02:49:33 · 24 answers · asked by IloveNewYork 1 in Singles & Dating

Met a lady around 9 months ago, we liked each other a lot but I kind of messed her around in the process as I wasn’t sure if I wanted a relationship and lead her on slightly. She did a lot for me in the process by even putting a TV on credit for me as a favour worth 1,500 and was there for me through alot of things. I ended things as I really liked her but didn’t want a relationship at that time I didnt want to deal with all of that then. I started to loose respect and treated her like crap. telling her things like go and get a man and stop callin and texin me!! I said I was going to give her back her money no doubt about that, so that I could get her off my back and she just wanted to be with me and was findin excuse to call, she then said dont wori about the TV ANYMORE! and since then she has not bothered calling and the number that I did have for her just goes to voicemail. the last time that I had any contact with her was in july sometime. Do you think she has moved on now?

2007-10-17 02:47:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am divorced person.I got marraige on just three years ago and having one daughter aged Two.After marraige,my Ex-wife always gone to her parents house and stayed with them.Whenever I called her to live with me or stay with me,she began to blame me that I am lazy,I am not worth to earn money to run the family.Still she talk about me that I am the liar,towards her relations and family.Her parents also supporting their daughter and says that they are not ready to sent her daughter to live with me.I have waited for her along past two years,and tried many way to compramise her,but all in vain.I have filed case at court to make her to live with me.But she is not ready to live with me.But another point is,If I talk to her means,She will not hesistate,and talk with me as lovable person.At last I have appealed for divorce,she also accept it,
ready to give a divorce .I got disappointed in my marraige life.If I set my mind towards in alternative way I Can't.Please make my vision in right way.

2007-10-17 02:46:18 · 7 answers · asked by madawin 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boy friend is so boring to talk to! When ever he comes over we do "stuff" but i like to be emotional and pour some feelings out to him. All he ever says is sorry and cool when i say good and bad things! It gets annoying. I love him to death but i'm not sure what to do. Should i work on makeing our relationship exciteing or should i leave him for somthing better?

2007-10-17 02:45:30 · 6 answers · asked by Robin 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I dated him for over a month but we broke up because he always had school, homework, and work to do. I understood that but then after a while I still had feelings for him. We still talk but I feel that I will never be with him again. I feel that if we try it again we can probably make it. All I want to know is if we will have a chance to be together again. I love him beyond belief. I have no idea what I will do without him.

2007-10-17 02:43:21 · 3 answers · asked by Alley Mai 1 in Singles & Dating

My roommate and I get along as well as any other.......I guess. I believe that I am more courteous to her than she is to me. For example, I happen to be a night owl, but I am a quiet one. However, if I am sleeping she will be one the phone talking EXTRA loud as if I am not there.

Anyhow, the current issue that I have with her is that she let a male friend of hers spend the night in our dorm room without even asking me or saying something.

I want to confront her on this issue since I found what she did to be incredibly disrespectful. She pretty much acted as if I wasn't even in the room (and I don't mean that they were getting down while I was in the room), and I don't feel that she has the right to do that when we are sharing one room. I feel as if she should ask me. Why do I have to be uncomfortable in my own space? It isn't like we are in an apartment and she was in an entirely different room.

2007-10-17 02:42:50 · 4 answers · asked by LaFemmeNakia 2 in Friends

2007-10-17 02:42:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Last weekend my aunt cleaned out her closet and ended up bringing my mom 2 garbage bags of clothes. She told my mom that they were meant for me but if there was anything she wanted to take it. My mom is about 6 sizes bigger than her sister so nothing in the bags fitted her. Now seeing as I'm the same size as my mom I gave the clothes to the one person I knew who needed them and could fit in them, my daughter. She is the same size as her great aunt so I figured as long as someone was using them it wasn't a waste. Now my mom is very upset with me because she's saying if I didn't want the clothes I shouldn't have taken them. My daughter really needed new clothes and she really appreciates them( she recently went through a teenage growth spurt and most of her old clothes don't fit anymore). My mom is saying that I basically didn't accept the gift and that I had no right to give these things to my daughter. Did I really do something wrong or is my mom overreacting? continued

2007-10-17 02:40:42 · 11 answers · asked by Lostlove 5 in Family

I'm a young single woman and have had a huge argument with my best friend (a lovely man) over a decision I made concerning my values. Call me old fashion but I'm reserved and don't believe in sharing a bed regardless of how innocent it is. Granted we have been more than friends in the past but that stopped a year ago and he presses me every now and again although it's only teasing I gently resist. He's going through a really rough time right now and whilst I'm trying my best to be supportive I'll not sacrifice my values. We had a huge argument about sharing a hotel room should he visit me. Granted I got angry too and could have been gentler in my responses, but I have apologised for hurting him and asked for his forgiveness - he has simply told me to leave him alone. This hurts like crazy... Am I out of order? Is there anything esle I should do?

2007-10-17 02:40:03 · 8 answers · asked by One_smart_pumpkin 2 in Friends

My wife and I are seperated.

Her 1st husband has been a real jerk to her for months since moving her ex sister in law into his house with him as his g/f , she uses drug's and is known for abuse physically and emotionally towards her ex step daughter , my wife's niece.

The problem is , my step daughter has to by court order visit her dad every 2nd weekend and the last time they had her they bullied her into a hair cut she didnt want she's 9.

My wife has a son who was conceived while her and her ex husband were seperated for a year back in 1994 , he begged her to take him back and after 7 months she caved and he's been raising this boy as his own ever since , his real father had no guts and when he was told to stay out of the boys life he did and moved to another state.But her ex husband decided he didnt want to be the boys dad anymore and stopped visitation accusing him of all sort's of stupid thing's.

Now the ex husband wants custody of my wife's daughter and is claiming ..

2007-10-17 02:39:48 · 9 answers · asked by Dragon 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my ex husband had an affair with a "friend" of mine. WE were married 23yrs . WE have been divorced 1month . He is trying now to get my 15 yr old daughter to meet this woman.. She backstabbed me lied to me stole my husband and took their daddy. It infuriates me to the point of uncounciousness that he doesn't understand how insensitive this request is.. I dislike him more and more each day but I dispise her for now trying to get in good with my children which is all I have.. Someone tell me what to do

2007-10-17 02:39:39 · 35 answers · asked by jusayg 2 in Marriage & Divorce

At nine I was raped then molested until 12 when I learned to phyically fight to protect myself. I am now a grandmother and ready to retire, let me tell you the shame the fear the disgusting feelings of I did something wrong Never leaves. It has followed me all my life. I think these ABUSERS should be killed.

2007-10-17 02:35:23 · 18 answers · asked by grandma 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-17 02:34:33 · 18 answers · asked by b 4 in Weddings

he owes the company we work, all the income is the family trust which i'm not included, i came here with nothing, he pays for everything, my son, my niece education, am i asking to much, but i really work hard, really hard i just dont have the guts to tell him that i would like to have a salary or just work for somebody else, but i still be working with him i just wanna work just a couple of hours to to others so i could have some money for my self,

2007-10-17 02:32:00 · 13 answers · asked by CECILIA 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-17 02:31:53 · 6 answers · asked by ameeker 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-17 02:30:39 · 4 answers · asked by ameeker 3 in Singles & Dating

She's a cool girl, but really I just don't have time!! I am married and recently had twin girls so I really have my hands full. I ignore her calls sometimes if I'm busy, but I do call her back when I get a chance. She jokingly accused me several times of "trying to dump her" when I don't answer my phone hoping that she'll take the hint. She knows very well that I'm very busy but she constantly comes over unannounced and calls me at least 3 times a day. Especially when she's having boy trouble or fighting with her mom. I don't mind helping her with her problems but I really really have my hands full. I try to make time for her when I can, but my husband and my girls need me more! I should mention that she's very sensitive but obviously can't take a hint. What should I do?

2007-10-17 02:30:25 · 6 answers · asked by Naka 3 in Friends

Growing up I always used to fight with my siblings and people would say, "when you're older you'll be close." Well, I'm older and I feel like I'm just growing further away from them. I'm not that old though, in my early twenties and we're all still establishing ourselves and finding our place in the world, so maybe that's it, but I'm starting to get to the point where I wouldn't mind being friends with my siblings or developing a closer relationship. I'm just not sure they're there...

If you're an adult and you have siblings close to your age, at what ages if ever did you start having a closer relationship with your siblings? Sometimes I'd just like to call my sister on the phone and really talk about what's going on in life, but we haven't got along these last few years and when we do talk it's just meaningless chat.

How can I establish a good relationship with my siblings now that we're all adults especially since we all live so far away from eachother?

2007-10-17 02:30:04 · 8 answers · asked by some female 5 in Family

My boyfriend and I have talked a little about marriage. He says that he doesnt want to get married because his grandfather, father and brother have been divorced. Also that everyone that he knows that has been married their new wife acts like they own the man and he doesnt want to be trapped like that. I told him that was the most BS reason that I have ever heard.

From my side why would I want to stay with someone that is never going to want to marry me? Never move forward in our relationship just stay idle. Granted I love him very much and I would love to spend the rest of my life with him but I feel like he just isnt willing to fully commit himself to me.

2007-10-17 02:28:15 · 48 answers · asked by Heather B 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Do I stay out of it or talk to him about it. Its such a long story, but to shorten it ...my son is extremely outgoing and has alot of friends, but he is searching for that one good bud. He can't seem to get one and he gets real sad when everyone else is hanging with their "best" friends he doesn't have one. He is left out alot and it breaks my heart to see him so sad. He even told me he wants to switch schools, but he's up and down with that. Its tough cuz he is very popular, he is a football player, very good grades, he is fun etc..... but this has become an issue and I am worried. Do I stay out of it and let him resolve this or talk to him about it? I have suggested so many different things I don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I worry to even bring it up. I just can't stand to see him so hurt by this.

2007-10-17 02:26:51 · 10 answers · asked by Maria 5 in Friends

I have been married for 6 years and love my husband very much. We have 3 kids and I wouldn't change a thing. During the last few semesters of college I met a guy that I became very good friends with. We did projects together, sat by each other, and helped each other. He gave me his number for projects (we never met outside of class). He is also married with 1 kid.

We had a lot in common so it was very easy to talk (we both farm, hunt, etc... both come from a small farming community). Our conversations sometimes had sexual content, not about us but about sex in general. And yes I am like this with most guys (and do it in front of my husband) since I am more confortable with them than girls (grew up with guys). My husband knows this and is okay with it.

Why can't I stop thinking about him? I see him in my dreams. We still talk since he is borrowing some books, but not for 3 months. I would NEVER cheat on my husband. I can't get him out of my head. My husband knows I think he's hot

2007-10-17 02:26:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

In other words, do you agree that women should only limit their choices of marriage to men who come from the same culture as they do? ... and why? ... thanks ...this is for a debate so thats why i asked it here to see what other people think...

2007-10-17 02:25:51 · 28 answers · asked by ? 1 in Marriage & Divorce

fake ploy to sell timeshares?
They tell you to come in the mall to pick up your prize. when there really is no prize at all.
They just want you to look at their 15 min sales pitch, give you refreshments and pitch a timeshare sale to you.
When a guy called me to tell me I won, and i asked it was for timeshares...he pretended it wasnt...then i was asking too much details..and he hung up on me. I hate that sh*T.
My wife signed up. ugh

2007-10-17 02:24:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-17 02:23:43 · 13 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Marriage & Divorce

How much does the average ring cost?
What size is most common (size of stone)?

And whats a good place to look online for them?

2007-10-17 02:15:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings