I have a history of choosing the wrong men in my life the abusive ones, the men who dont want to help me out in life so im single now and raising my 9 year old son who does not belong to my husband, it does get lonely but im holden out for the right one im 38 and if it never comes i guess ill be alone forever, any suggestions ty jewels
2007-10-17 03:02:07 · 13 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being alone may not seem that bad at all considering the type of relationships you have experienced...Give yourself some time for "YOU" and trust me you will find someone who will complete and love you....Be patient and you will be happy in love one day......Good Luck....
2007-10-17 07:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you need to relax and focus on what's important... raising your son. Think about what your needs have done to him. What example are you showing him?
There are worse things than being alone forever....... but somehow I doubt if that'll be the case.
Put your sons needs ahead of your own...... spend time with him now before he decides that his friends are more important... and relax. You will find a good man when the time is right. Maybe you find these abusive men because you've been pushing to find just that right guy in a frantic search... and the entire time the right guys been waiting for you.
2007-10-17 10:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find the right guy in time but you need to get a divorce from your husband if you are only separated and start to do things that will help you find him. make a lot of new friends, get involved in after school activities with your son perhaps, and if you are religious, pick a good church to go to and look for the right guy there.
To prevent the possibility of finding another loser though, you can try going online to handwriting wizard and learn to analyze handwriting and you can spot the wrong man by the way he writes, and you may even be able to make money doing that if you decide to go that far. Congratulations though for going 7 months without going from one abusive relationship to another, as so many do!!
2007-10-17 10:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will come, unfortunately we love the bad boys. I guess they are more interesting. Right now I would just focus on making the best life for you and your son. I did exactly that, and I know how lonely it gets but one day wham out of nowhere it happened, he was the Fed Ex driver at my job, we talked became friends then started dating, he was worthy enough to meet my son, and now we have been married for the past 6 yrs, and very happy. #1 Rule in my life was that he accepted my son cuz my son was, is, and always will be my top priority. Good luck and hang in there. He will come!!! But be picky you and your son deserve the best.
2007-10-17 10:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to think the same thing. I have dated jerks that used drugs, abusers, users, alcoholics and always walked away from them. I finally made up my mind to just be alone and not try to look for a solid relationship anymore. I then met my husband of 4 years now and we have never been happier. But, that is how I found the perfect man for me. I just said the heck with them and it may be awhile, but the right one will show up.
2007-10-17 10:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by vagooch2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I finally found my perfect man... First hubby was awful... Second was an (_!_).... neither wanted to work... seemed like I always found the ones that wanted someone to support them... the second one died and I felt like it was more of a divorce than death.... I finally found one that is sweet, HE WORKS, he compliments me daily instead of condemning me.... instead of trying to get me to work 60+ hours a week or trying to find me a better job... he tells me he only wants me to work one or two days a week... he thanks me for even the little things I do... even cooking... or going to work.... It is sooooo cool. Whether you will like the perfect man is totally up to you.... You have to shake that desire for "the bad tough guy" find the sensitive guy that can appreciate a good woman. I told this hubby that I was a capital "B"... he said no you are not.... they made you that way because of the way they were... I am not a b to him at all... We are compatible and happy.... it does make a difference. I do think the past experiences with bad men... helped me look at this one differently. I am grateful he is a sweetie.
Pam B
2007-10-17 10:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Roland B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no perfect men, just as u are not perfect either. happily ever after is always the end of the fairy tale- they dont dare tell u that after marrying the prince he turned back into a toad.
if u stop looking for perfect and see men as wonderful human beings who have faults like u have, then it will be easier for u.
i think u also have a lot of unfinished business to do with relationships. for the sake of your son, and for ur own emotional growth, please see a counselor
2007-10-17 10:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by kiki68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, there is no perfect man, but there is good man who fits with u or u change little to fit with him , u always choose wrong guys cos u cant wait for someone to choose u so , it wont hurt if u just waited 6 month without a guy, just wait and u will have better look at them ,and when u find them TEST them and test how much r they willing to give up to be with u.
good luck
2007-10-17 10:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by michael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been 7 months and are you even divorced yet? You need to focus on your child and yourself. You need to be squared away before you be with any one else. Just chill out. You don't need a man to make you whole. having someone is great but make sure your good first.
2007-10-17 10:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by Desa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been sepperated for nine months now from my cheating husband. Even though he hurt me its hard to move on and also hard to look toward the future so I know how you feel. Start being picky about men you deserve it. Before you know love will fall into your lap.
2007-10-17 10:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by darynshrock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋